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My Story "The most important thing you own is your body"
Posted on: 2003/12/19, 11:30 AM
by:
Lynhira
When I was a young girl I loved to dance. As a teen I did tap jazz ballet and acrobatics. I was very beautiful and quite vain. My father was a very vain man and we didn’t see him often since the divorce of him and my mother when I was just 2 years old. Mine and my sister’s only value to him was the fact we were beautiful and he could brag on us. At the same time he would berate us saying we were letting ourselves get fat. That was insane because looking back we had perfect bodies. He destroyed our outlook, our self-esteem, made us vain and insecure all at the same time. Talk about mental abuse. I hated him. How could someone be so cruel. I married a Spanish baseball player to rebel against my father, wise choice since my husband was just like my dad, cruel and selfish. What my father didn’t destroy within me my husband did. I gained 65 pounds with my first child and more with my second. My ex was extremely jealous and wouldn’t let me leave the house without him knowing where I was. It was hell on earth. I was divorced by the time my youngest daughter was 6 months old. I had 2 kids one after another and I’m sure that messed up my metabolism in some way. I just steadily gained weight after that year after year. I had decided well any man who is to love me will have to love me for what is inside and not my looks. However for a girl who derived all of her self worth from looks, once I had destroyed my looks, I felt worthless. Well, imagine the mess in my head. Well for years this dragged on, until in Jan of 2002 my sister called and said she was having gastric bypass surgery. I thought in my talk with God that something in my life had to change or I was going to die. I was 455 pounds and couldn’t walk 10 steps without being winded.
I had called about the surgery a couple of years earlier but there was no room for new patients. I had a new pcp and was terribly afraid of him being judgmental and just telling me to go on a diet. Yeah right like I hadn’t tried that before. Well I was determined to convince him to help me find a surgeon. The Saturday before my appointment with my pcp that surgeon’s office called me and said your #14 on our waiting list are you still interested in this surgery. I almost passed out. I was like YES!!!!! That was God’s confirmation in my eyes. I went to see the new pcp and I was explaining to him how many diets I had tried, because that must be documented for insurance purposes. As I was telling him I became very emotional and began to cry. I felt venerable and embarrassed for crying. I apologized and told him I didn’t know why I was so emotional. He took my hand and said Julia, Do you know why you are crying? I said, why? He said, because this time you know it’s going to work! Its like a light came on in my head that very second and I cried all the more because for the first time in many years of struggle someone believe in me. He wasn’t blaming me, mocking me, he was believing in me. Dr. Leeland Cleveland became one of my life’s heroes that day. It was a monumental life changing moment for me. All the preparation began, the many tests to prepare for surgery. And on June 18, 2002, I had my surgery. When I went home from the hospital, I didn’t care I would walk in front of my apartment with a walker back and forth in my hospital gown. It’s very important to walk afterwards to avoid blood clots.
In April of 2003 I found freetrainers.com. what a blessing this was. I started at 2 times a week, went to 3 times a week and by the end of summer was up to 5 times a week. I will never give up exercising now. It is a part of my life. I love it so much. Lifting makes me feel powerful, strong, and healthy.
The following is my thoughts and progress since surgery.
Well my main exercise routine was to walk; I was too big to do much of anything else:
Date-------Weight----lost------Total---#'s to Goal
6-18-02-----455 ---------------------
7-02-02-----419------(-32)------(-36)
7-09-02-----417------(-02)------(-38)
7-16-02-----414------(-03)------(-41)
7-23-02-----411------(-03)------(-44)(cycle week)
7-30-02-----409------(-02)------(-46)
8-06-02-----407------(-02)------(-48)
8-13-02-----405------(-02)------(-50)
8-20-02-----399------(-06)------(-56)(cycle began 8-19)
8-27-02-----398------(-01)------(-57)
9-04-02-----391------(-07)------(-64)
9-11-02-----389------(-02)------(-66)
9-18-02-----383------(-06)------(-72)
9-25-02-----377.4---(-5.6)------(-77.6)(cycle 9/21-9/25)
10-02-02----375-----(-2.4)------(-80.0)
10-09-02----372.4---(-2.6)------(-82.6)
10-16-02----371.4---(-1.0)------(-83.6)
10-21-02----366.2---(-5.2)------(-88.8)(cycle 10/18-10/22)
10-28-02----367.4---(+1.2)------(-87.6)
11-4-02-----366-----(-1.4)------(-89)
11-11-02----361-----(-5.0)------(-94)(cycle 11/13-11/17)
11-18-02----356-----(-5.0)------(-99)
11-25-02----352-----(-4.0)------(-103)
12-02-02----348-----(-4.0)------(-107)
12-09-02----343-----(-5.0)------(-112)
12-16-02----341-----(-2.0)------(-114)(cycle week)
12-23-02----336-----(-5.0)------(-119)
12-30-02----332-----(-4.0)------(-123)
01-06-03----328-----(-4.0)------(-127)
01-13-03----324-----(-4.0)------(-131)
01-21-03----320-----(-4.0)------(-135)
01-27-03----319.9---(-1/10)---(-135.1)
02-04-03----316.5---(-3.4)----(-139.5)
04-14-03----286.7---(-29.8)---(-169.3)
05-05-03----277-----(-9.7)----(-178.0)
05-19-03----269-----(-8.0)----(-186.0)
06-18-03----259-----(-10.0)---(-196.0)
07-18-03----250-----(-9.0)---(-207.0)
08-18-03----240-----(-10.0)---(-217.0)
09-18-03----232-----(-8.0)----(-225.0)
10-18-03----225-----(-7.0)----(-232.0)
11-18-03----215-----(-10.0)—(-242.0)
This was my loss chart. I have a journal on obesityhelp.com:
http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/profile.phtml?N=W1012062147&NoStatic=1
Here are my after surgery thoughts:
November 11, 2003
well where the hell have I been???? I’m so sorry, my friends for the neglect of this site. I am doing wonderfully and life is just glorious. I’m really sick of school and will be done with graduate work in May. I feel so blessed. MY one-year check up went great. Doc's said my blood work was as perfect as perfect could be. I have met a wonderful man and he is rocking my world for last couple of weeks. Life is just great, anyone need any advice please feel free to email me. I’m working out 5 times a week, have done really well building my muscle. The skin thing is eeeky but will cross the plastic surgery bridge in another 45 pounds. God bless. Julia
June 18, 2003
Well ONE YEAR ANNIVERSERY!! Total loss 196 pounds. Thank you Jesus. I should be able to make goal by Dec guys keep praying for me. Thank you to obesity help for being such a wonderful support mechanism throughout this whole journey. I will keep you posted on progress. Love Julia
May 19, 2003
Walking 2 miles at least 3 times a week now, I would like to get into the habit so that I do it everyday.
May 5, 2003 well had a plateau week but the exercise kicked in and dropped some weight. This is taking longer than I had hoped and I haven’t lost as fast as some but I am thankful for my weight loss. I still have 120 pounds to go. I believe within the next couple of weeks I will need to kick up the exercise routine a notch
Apr 15, 2003
Well shame on me, where have I been? This is surely a battle. Guys I’m sorry I haven’t updated in so long. I found out scale was another 10 pounds off got so mad and depressed I just stopped updating but now I’m back. I now am 286.7 as of yesterday 6.7 pounds to be where I was in 92. Yeah I’m happy, I wish I had some web space to put up pics but my school server wont let me use any of the free sites sigh. Don’t know how much longer picture trail will work but will put a now pic up today if you want to check me out...I’m getting kind of cute :) love and hugs and God Bless.
Jan 27, 2003
Well, weighing this week has sucked weighed again and I was 312.6 and today I am 309.9 lol well 1/10 a pound is something I guess for the week lol. Lets pray for better results come this next week. On a side note past 2 days I have done much better with water. Have been drinking 64 oz instead of 44 so this could help; I know I should drink even more.
Jan 21, 2003
well found out in Dec that my scale was off by 16 pounds. I was weighing lighter than I really was. I
Isn’t that a peach? That put me a whole month behind where I thought I was /cry. Well fixed the scale everything is up to date. I’m at 47.3% weight loss right now at 7 months. 7 pounds to lose to be at 50% so I pray by end of Jan I can be under 300. Take care
Nov 11, 2002
Well, as you can see I didnt write anything last week cause I was so discouraged. I exercised 6 days out of the 7 of this last week and wow look at the results. I figure I was way overdue for a good loss but 12 pounds is my best week yet. So YAY praise the Lord for the loss. 41.5 more pounds to be half way home.
Oct 28, 2002
gained 1.2 pounds was sick all damn week in very bad mood as you could imagine. Just too much going on in my life right now and I’m just not handling 1 pound gainege very well :( see you next Monday.
Oct 21, 2002
well I have decided to start weighing in on Mondays instead of Wed because I am starting an exercise program that I hope to do Mon thru Fri. I am keeping an exercise journal so Mondays will be much easier for me. Well weight loss this week much better especially since I'm weighing in 2 days early. Hugs to everyone. I’m really trying to hang in there. A little over 6 pounds to be able not to have to use that weight extender thing on my doctor's scale and to meet my next goal, which is 350. God bless take care.
Oct 16, 2002
well what a crappy day :( Last week on Tues. when I weighed on my scale I could have swore it said 360 then on Wed my weigh in day it said 362 and the digital scale said 362.4, well I went with the 360 thinking I must be holding some water. Well hell this week I go weigh and I get 361.4, sucks right, so the 362.4 must have been right, *sigh* disappointments don’t do well with all this hormonal crap we are going thru. I have averaged staying in each 10-pound mark around 3 weeks but this makes week 4 for the 360's and I’m quiet depressed over it. Oh well there will be days like this, guess I just have to suck it up and go forward.
Oct 9, 2002
Well 2.6 more pounds ...woke up 6am today eeek went to exercise walked for 25 min then did weights and popped my knee (OUCH). So that was a little more than I could handle. Having to find new ways to deal with my emotional stress. Since food is NO longer an option. I have actually gone from a person who eats when upset to one who gets nausea so I don’t even want food when upset. I have to make myself eat what I should. Doing some research on the hair loss thing. Emu Oil is supposed to be good and the amino acid L-Cysteine so I got some of that today. Well that’s enough for now hugs and God Bless.
Oct 2, 2002
Well 2.4 more pounds gone forever woot that brings the grand total are you ready?.... to 80 POUNDS
Sep 25, 2002
Well 5.6 pounds yay...2 good weeks in a row is a good thing. I’m struggling getting the liquids I want down. I want to get 64 oz down a day but can only swing around 48. Shame on me I must do better. Hugs guys take care..
Sep 20, 2002
Well what I can do is get in there and fix it lol ha what am I taking web design for if I cant figure out why this web page went screwy, hehe. Well I really don’t have anything to report today was just fixing the underlined text. I’m good feet feel a little swollen today. I think cycle is due don’t you? here sometime maybe. Hugs and God Bless
Sep 18, 2002
OMG things are great, I am loving my web design class, and it is so awesome. I have no idea why all my text is underlined now but what can you do? *shrug* Well 6 pounds weepee..things are good. Strength conditioning class is kicking my ass lol very sore but happy. Its late and I need to sleep hugs be good and God Bless
Sep 11, 2002
Hey guys well I wish my scale was like my doctors, I only weigh 371 on his scale but 379 on mine...since I have been using mine I will stick with it, 2 pound loss this week, but I started the weight lifting this week so 2 weeks for my body to adjust to that hopefully the muscle I build will make me look smaller even if weight loss slows down some. I’m thinking of starting what is called block training where you work out hard for 2 days like on weekend then light work out in week maybe a couple of times and rest the other days. Trainers say it works really well so this Sat and Sun I'm going to hit the gym hard. Hugs take care and God Bless Julia
Sep 4, 2002
Hey guys well woot 7 pounds now that’s more like it. I went to Atlanta and visited my sister for the holiday that was a much needed mini vacation. We went to six flags and walked and sat walked and sat while my 2 kids enjoyed the rides hehe. That was great exercise. My sister and me are just planning for the 200 mark when we plan on hitting six flags by storm and riding everything they got. hehe came home to my dirty house, which I'm getting ready to clean top to bottom myself. Well I think that is if for today talk to you guys later.
Aug 27, 2002
well it seems only a pound lost this week, but 1 is better than none. It seems I have been able to eat any food I want so far without any problems, I still don’t know when I’m full and I eat too fast. I will have to make sure I measure this week and change the exercise. Starting weights class today so that might slow me down for a week or 2 but it’s for the better. Hugs everyone and stay positive.
Aug 20, 2002
Hey guys woot less 6 pounds now that’s more like it. Well been sick with cold for last week. Have headache today and to boot my boyfriend pissed me off...oh well se la vi. God is good and I’m getting stronger and stronger. Started back my exercise today slow since I have had the cold. But trying to keep up the good work on regular food now but I don’t have much of an appetite, Is probably the reason for headache. Hugs love you all Julia
Aug 14, 2002
I weighed yesterday but didn’t have time to post. Hey sorry for the delay as you can see my loss is pretty slow right now. Exercise Tip: I was told you gain weight the 1st 2 weeks of exercising so considering I lost instead of gaining that is great. So be prepared that when you start exercising the weight loss will be slow. But you will feel better and look better and the weight loss will catch up eventually. I’m very sore have gotten up to 24 min on the treadmill. I feel wonderful every time I get finished. Had to take daughter to dentist surgeon yesterday she has to have wisdom teeth out. Well let me see I didn’t exercise on Sunday and I did clothes at laundry mat and hung them on the line on Sat that counts as exercise right? But me and my friend Vivian are walking everyday Mon thru Fri. 10 more pounds to go to be under what I weighed when I was in Denmark in June of 01. I feel fine. I’m allowed to go to regular food on Aug 18th although I have cheated a little and eaten some honeydew melon and a few crackers.
Aug 8, 2002
Well went to doc office and found out my scale isn’t off ...and that it matches exactly so I had to change the numbers back again sigh. well total loss for 6 weeks is -48 pounds, which I’m happy for. Happy to be under 400 bummed a bit that it hasn’t moved faster. I think I might not be eating enough, but yet I know exercise is important. Today makes the 3rd straight day of exercise. Walked on treadmill Tuesday 10 min on wed 15 min and today 17 min weepee and this very handsome young man told me it would take my body 2 weeks at least to adjust to the exercise and start speeding metabolism and dropping weight faster because of it. *Exercise Tip Included* He also told me did you KNOW that you should change your type of exercise every 2 to 3 weeks. He said that your body becomes accustomed so you have to either increase the intensity or mix it up with a different type of exercise so the body doesn’t plateau. /hugs bye :)
Aug 6, 2002
Well hey I was wrong last week it was only 5 weeks not 6 today makes 6 weeks but I am going to change my weigh in days to Wed's instead of Tuesdays because my sis weighs on Wed that way we can talk that day. So I will weigh tomorrow. Although I have gotten in my liquids this week guys I haven’t exercised not one time. *Smack self* Old habits die-hard. Even though it is great not being hungry and wanting to eat all the time, my high weight combined with pure unadulterated laziness is slowing this process down I know. I have got to get my lazy ass out of the house and EXERCISE yes the evil word...has got to become a pleasure for me somehow someway. Self-hypnosis yes exercise is fun...yes I love it..hehehe... I so look forward to going to Denmark where its flat and I can ride a bike all I want. I love riding bikes. But Tennessee doesn’t have the roads or the flat surfaces to allow me the chance to ride here. Waiting for a friend to finish class so we can go walk on the new fancy treadmills here at the college. Well I have gone on long enough...I will weigh tomorrow, hoping that a day of exercise will push me past the little 2 to 3 pound loss...maybe even 3.5 lol Pray for me hugs luv you all...Julia
July 30, 2002
Well weeks out and I lost only 5 pounds the last 2 weeks I’m thankful for the 47 pounds lost but I have to say I’m upset at myself...Since I have to eat I just have a hard time getting in my liquids. I just forget, don’t want to drink or eat. I have GOT to start getting in my fluids so, new strategy, NO eating until I have had at least 64 oz of fluid then I will get in my protein, so I will have to do this in early morning and I have only exercised like 3 times for last 2 weeks /sigh at myself. Got up today walked, drinking liquid lets hope for the best for next week. Funny thing I still don’t know when full or not. I’m almost never hungry. *shrug* Well love you guys other than that..Im doing well. hugs see you next Tuesday.
July 23, 2002
Guys I’m not weighing today my period started today with a vengeance. I’m so sick I could cry...In alot of pain only here posting cause I know there are some who are watching and checking on me...hugs thanks, maybe tomorrow.
July 19, 2002
Hey guys have you heard about that stupid court case to take one nation under God out of our pledge...I’m horrified...there is a place on the net who is collecting signatures for a 400,000 name petition for Washington please go there and sign if you want to keep God in our pledge :
http://grassfire.net/14/petition.asp?PID=2404196
That is the site please go there then forward that address to everyone you know so they can sign also. God has given us so much and excuse my language but shits like that Michael Newdow let the devil use him to hurt the country...I want to smack him but knowing I need to pray for him, God's grace is truly amazing...I’m doing well btw ..waiting for cycle to start grrrrr...as ohiocolleen would say...chant period start period start...lol /hugs love you guys much. see you on Tuesday with weigh in :)
July 16, 2002
Hey guys, well of course since this is my 4th week this is time for my cycle to start any day now. I believe this is why my loss this week looks so small. So lets see what happens next week hopefully the cycle starts and is done by then, mine can be so finicky. But 3 pounds is 3 pounds and that puts me under the 400 mark..whipee so I’m thankful. I have 3 papers to write before Aug 9th so I need to get cracking on that. I feel good, haven’t exercised as much as I should...but I did today :) I promise to do better on that. It’s my boyfriend’s fault lol..we have been talking for hours and hours on video cam and sitting for so long doesn’t burn calories. Pushing it to get in that 48 oz of liquids. I want to get in more so I need to stop going to bed so late and get up earlier. I will take some cam shots today and put them on my picture trail page and see if we can see any difference. Love you guys and take care till next time :)
July 9, 2002
Hey guys weigh in day loss of 7 pounds :) yay. I looked at wrong schedule and thought school started tomorrow when It actually started today. I had to call prof and tell him what a goof I am. So have to go buy book that will probably be around $120 sigh... Feeling pretty good. Exercised for 10 min on stationary bike yesterday and I was so sore lol. I am very blessed to have God in my life for he supply’s me with everything I need. Hopefully school will keep my mind off of weighing hehe. So guys have a blessed day and see you later. Hugs
July 8, 2002
Hey guys, I probably wont be updating everyday trying not to weigh in but once a week. Tomorrow I will be weighing in. Changed my chart to match my doctor’s scale instead of my scale, mine weighs 5 pounds heavier hehe. So the heat is really bad for us. We dehydrate faster than normal now so make sure you get in all your liquids. I don’t want to eat having to force myself to eat the protein at times. Bought a Blockbuster rental card that is going to give me a free "Lord of the Rings " movie ..whoopee I love that movie. well anyway talk to you tomorrow with a new weight total ..peace and God Bless
July 2, 2002
Well drum roll official loss for 2 weeks 36 pounds...YAY Well that was wonderful news. Got the staples out and oh how good it feels to have those things out of me. Doc says I’m doing good, have to say on liquids thru Thursday then on to pureed. I can’t wait to have some tuna lol.
July 1, 2002
Official weigh in for 2 weeks is tomorrow. I surely hope I can start having some tuna, I’m about sick of protein drinks. My daughter brought in some cookies and my mom ate one and I said MOM you don’t need that, and she had the nerve to say, "I haven’t had a bite to eat today" lol and I sat and watched her eat breakfast and lunch, rofl...I said OMG.. NO I HAVENT EATEN A BITE FOR 2 WEEKS, YOU MY LADY HAVE EATEN VERY WELL!!!!! hahaha I thought that was just too funny. Laters, Julia
June 30, 2002
I’m so very depressed today.
June 27, 2002
Well today I couldn’t resist getting on my scale, I guess I will have to lock it up lol, but OMG I have lost 9 more pounds for a total of 23. Isn’t that wonderful. YAY praise the Lord he is good to me even when I don’t deserve it.
June 26, 2002
Well yesterday was a crappy day, not health wise I am doing wonderfully that way but my brother started a fight with me and honestly right now I don’t want to see him ever again. He hurt me badly, so deep is the wound it feels it shall never heal. But I am not going to meditate on it. there I vented and I’m dropping it. My health is much more important right now. I just don’t have much to say today. Seeya later
June 25, 2002
Hey guys, well I couldn’t resist weighing in on my one week anniversary since I have a doctor's scale in my home and I have lost 14 pounds YAY! Everything is going well, looking forward to my check in with my doctor on July 2nd.
June 24, 2002
Well hello guys, I’m so happy to be on the other side. I’m doing well, just a couple of quick notes for those going in. If you don’t own a recliner, then call a rental store and rent one for a couple of weeks after surgery. It will be the only thing you can sleep in for at least 2 weeks. Rental is cheap and they bring it out and take it back free of charge. Have a halter-top of some kind, has been best to hold boobs off my incision hehe. Have some antibiotic cream handy for the tape burns if you get them. By all means get a showerhead that you can take down, if you don’t have or cant get a medi chair for shower, I used one of my kitchen chairs, bathing makes you feel so much better. Depending on your size wiping is just impossible with incision so I sit on the tub butt hanging on inside lol and spray it with removable showerhead then go sit on a towel to dry. It is much more dignifying then having to call in one of my kids to wipe my butt. I hope this isn’t too graphic but having creative ways to do things in first 2 weeks is essential. ok I have talked too much I feel good. no hunger at all, no head hunger, no nausea, oh and get or rent a walker to do your walking, your belly feels like it weighs 500 pounds alone when you stand up. ok I think that is it for now my friends I’m so HAPPY, and BLESSED!!! I see my doctor July 2nd so pray for optimal weight loss hugs lots of love Julia
June 21, 2002
Hello AMOS family! This is Julia's sister posting. Julia is doing well and the Dr. is going to let her go home this afternoon. This is a day sooner than she realized. She's excited and ready to start to see the weight loss. I'm sure she will be posting soon. God Bless to all!
June 20, 2002
Hello AMOS Family! This is Julia's sister and I'm updating her profile for her. Her surgery was a success and yes, she is finally on the other side. She spent the night in ICU because she has sleep apnea, but she is now in a regular room. She is doing well. She is a strong woman. Julia and I would like to thank you very much for all of your beautiful thoughts and prayers. May God Bless each and every one of you. I will update again soon.
June 17, 2002
Well, I want everyone to know how very special my cycle is. It only shows up on the most special occasions. Yes my friend my period comes today, the day before surgery, isn’t that special. It comes to me in my time of need, /sigh lol. Oh well pads to the hospital I guess. No food today that with the period is making me very light headed, and yes I took the lovely castor oil at noon, fun fun. My daughter giggles every time she sees me head for the bathroom. Around 14 hours to go woohhooooo!!!
June 16, 2002
GGGGGRRRRRRRR have been having hay fever or allergy attacks today of stuffy nose and sneezing.. I never get this...grrrrr... Benedryl in hand nyquil...I will NOT get sick..no fever so I’m ok..just annoyed. Well 1 day 6 hours woohoo, no food other than liquids for me tomorrow. fun fun See you guys soon.
June 15, 2002
Hey guys well I have a question. Is it strange to look at going into the hospital for a few days as a vacation away from your 2 teenage daughters?
I mean should I feel bad for thinking dear Lord I can’t wait to be in the hospital and get some peace and quiet. lol.. They are really getting on my last nerve. You would think that they would be pampering me right now...oh no its much more important for them to argue who is going to wipe up the mayo off the kitchen counter. I should write a journal of idiotic teenage arguments, I bet it would be a bestseller, lol. Oh well my mom is here and my doggie..Im going to go try out my relaxation tape in a few. Lord KNOWS I need it. See you soon.
June 14, 2002
Hey everyone made a new friend today from OBHELP. Her name is Laurie and she is very sweet and we just clicked right away. LOL we sat and chatted from around 5:30pm to 12midnight. I’m so happy to have met her. She is just the sweetest thing and has offered to help me in any way. I really appreciate that kindness. I am feeling better today btw if you can tell :)! Everything will work out because you see I know that for whatever reason God always makes it work out.. He is so good to me! My mom coming to spend the day and night with me tomorrow and my apt manager said it would be ok if she brought my doggie for a couple of days !!EEP, I need that doggies affection, I miss her so much. Going to start my relaxation tape tomorrow from that book, cant remember the name right now something about healing faster from surgery. Well I have gone on long enough. Night everyone.
June 12, 2002
Well guys around 5 days and some hours to go, I’m very blessed and happy at all the email I am receiving from you guys wishing me well and praying for me. You all are my wonderful WLS family and I thank God that I found you. Talk to you soon.
June 8, 2002
I have erased all previous posts to make room for my after surgery comments. I’m trying to stay positive but the anxiety of waiting is really overwhelming at times.
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