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bigdawg032 Posts: 13 Joined: 2002/01/24	2003/04/07, 12:09 PM I've been with this girl for 4 months and from the first time we went out I knew there was something special about her. She made me feel like I've never felt before and after a few weeks I knew I loved her. She is just very special to me. And from what she told me, she had the same feelings for me. But here comes the problem for about a month she has been different and it started to bother her. She just got out of college in December and has been looking for a job in her major but can't find one and she is stressing about that although she has a good job now in a similar field as to what she wants to go into. And she is stressing about the war because she knows people fighting in it and it worried about them and also worried about what might happen in general because of it. There are other things to but all of this has led her to stop trying and doing everything in our relationship and this bothered her more than me. So she took steps back from me and stopped seeing me and talking to me all the time to try to fix things. But that didn't work for her so she broke things off. But she tells me she still wants me in her life she still wants to talk to me and see me. But the problem is with the way I feel about her I don't know if I can take just a platonic relationship with her now. So what I'm asking is do I keep trying to get back with her or do I leave her be and see if things work out or is there something else I can do? I've come up with suggestions on ways so that we stay together and she still gets the space she needs but she'll only talk to me about them never gives an answer to whether or not she wants to. So what do I do? Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.

INTRUDER Posts: 642 Joined: 2002/06/27	2003/04/07, 03:11 PM Welcom to the world of women !!! Dont try to hard to figure them out. Just be yourself and give it a little more time. If things dont get better you will just need to ask her what she wants. If she wants different then just let her go with no strings attached. This is life man-it doesn't last forever. ============ Quoting from bigdawg032: I've been with this girl for 4 months and from the first time we went out I knew there was something special about her. She made me feel like I've never felt before and after a few weeks I knew I loved her. She is just very special to me. And from what she told me, she had the same feelings for me. But here comes the problem for about a month she has been different and it started to bother her. She just got out of college in December and has been looking for a job in her major but can't find one and she is stressing about that although she has a good job now in a similar field as to what she wants to go into. And she is stressing about the war because she knows people fighting in it and it worried about them and also worried about what might happen in general because of it. There are other things to but all of this has led her to stop trying and doing everything in our relationship and this bothered her more than me. So she took steps back from me and stopped seeing me and talking to me all the time to try to fix things. But that didn't work for her so she broke things off. But she tells me she still wants me in her life she still wants to talk to me and see me. But the problem is with the way I feel about her I don't know if I can take just a platonic relationship with her now. So what I'm asking is do I keep trying to get back with her or do I leave her be and see if things work out or is there something else I can do? I've come up with suggestions on ways so that we stay together and she still gets the space she needs but she'll only talk to me about them never gives an answer to whether or not she wants to. So what do I do? Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated. ============= -------------- "Get everthing you want--just make a little change now"
Ravenbeauty Posts: 3,755 Joined: 2002/09/24	2003/04/07, 11:54 PM actually intruder, it is welcome to the world of relationships. Yes i know a lot of women like that, but I know just as many men that way too. This is it, it is human nature to feel that way, whether you be a woman or a man. I would follow what advice ravenwolf had given, if she knows how you feel, it is in her corner now. Give her the space she wants and if it is meant to be, it is, if not, then you know. But during this time, do not sit around waiting for her to come around, if anyone things they can just leave a person hanging like that, to me it is very wrong. I would go on with life and let things rest for a bit, just let her know that you are there when she is ready to seriously talk about your relationship. Also let her know that any kind of relationship is a partner agreement, it takes two to make it or break it and she needs to see both sides, not just what she wants out of it, but what she can give in return. Good luck to you! -------------- Bettia.... When you feel like giving up, take it to the limit one more time!! You will SUCEED :-)
bigdawg032 Posts: 13 Joined: 2002/01/24	2003/04/10, 04:47 PM Thanks for your responses. She knows how I feel about her. I've let her have her space and do what she wants. I think she might be feeling better about things now but I'm gonna let her make the moves from here on. The only thing is that she has been talking to me more now than she was the last week we were going out so I don't know what that means. I'm just gonna let things go and see how they go and if we are meant to be.