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2003/08/04, 03:02 AM
Well, I'm new here and didn't know this section of the message boards existed. I just want to let you all know that this site is incredible and has helped me out a ton lately. Well, the girl I've been dating for 2 and a half years (and lived with for 2 months) has decided to move and and break up with me. I really loved this girl and its tough to see her go. But I've recently started working out and my body is slowing taking shape. It is still tough because I think about her all the time and want to make excuses just to talk to or see her. But I'm being strong and have avoided her. She says she needs time to get her life in order and to see other people. I dont see us ever getting back together. Anybody got any advice???? On one hand I look forward to being single (especially since I'm 22 and "in my prime") but I miss her and miss having someone. Why are women so damn wrong?????
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2003/08/04, 09:42 AM
women, men it doesn't matter.....relationship breakup are one of the hardest things to get over ...and get over it you will....you're right...you are young...one thing most of us don't have anymore ....i know most people don't like to hear it but.....take this relationship as a lesson to be learn...sometimes things just don't work out the way we like it to...and we move on from it...some faster then other.......enjoy life...try to have positive thoughts in your life.....stress is the #1 killer for men....so try to get it off your mind.....take it as two years of fun loving and soon someone else will be in your life.....the right girl will come around when you stop looking.....
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2003/08/05, 05:02 PM
I'd have to say that i agree with padua. I've gone through two break-ups, both for about 1 year and a half each. you just have to be strong and keep yourself busy. And i keep telling myself that there is one out there for me as there is for you.
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2003/08/06, 05:36 PM
You may not like this advice but at 22 yrs old the best way to get over a loss is to join a local church. We have a non-demonational church in our area that is filled with singles from high school to granny age. The church has concerts for young adults 4 times a month! I would look into the churches in your area and see if any of them hold concerts, sporting events, etc.. It really is a good place to meet new friends, singles, and keep you out of trouble!!
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2003/08/08, 04:03 PM
okay...women are not wrong...unless you are gay...lmao...then they are way wrong. but THAT particular woman, yes, was wrong, for you. good luck on your working out.
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2003/10/30, 05:25 PM
im 22 and me and my b/f just split. im going through the same thing except we lived together for 2 years and we have a baby! I just found something (working out) to be passionate about and realized that time will heal my wounds-- shoot, i went 19 years before him and i can do it again after him!!!i like being independant anyways--dont have to answer to anyone!and i also like having more room in the bed to go to sleep! seriously though u'll meet someone else trust me!
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2003/10/30, 06:39 PM
Yup...time will heal!
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Pain is temporary; glory is forever!
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2003/10/30, 06:41 PM
I understand how tough it can be. I was with someone for 4 years when we broke up. We were going to get married...picked the day, the site...everything. Anyway, I'm the one who ended the relationship and trust me, it was just as hard for me to move on as it was for him. But I have moved on and I have a wonderful husband who loves me and who I love very much! You just have to give yourself time to heal. It's still a little difficult sometimes, especially when I go to my hometown, since that is where he is from as well (and it's REALLY small to chances of running into him are high). You have a right to grieve, and in order to make it through, you need to. I promise though, it does get easier. Just keep your head up!
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2003/10/31, 04:19 AM
"Tis far better to have loved and lossed than never to have loved at all"..... or is it "if you can't be with the one you love, love the one your with"....I forget..or at least try to...."if it ain't broke don't fix it... If it is broke sell it and buy a new one!!!"....I too fell in a burning ring of fire....never let them see you sweat!!!!
I lived by all these cliches but the only thing that worked was TIME..... it was on my side!!!
Tomarrow is Nov. took me 2 years! how you doing after 3 months???
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Anything is better than nothing so get off your ass and do something!!!
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2003/11/17, 07:07 PM
TIME!!!!! Please understand though, that this was ONE woman, so don't let this one girl distort your view of all women...easier said than done, I hated women for a year after I was booted by my ex of two years. Good luck, lift hard and have fun with your life. Its okay to still be sad and don't let anyone tell you how you SHOULD feel. JIM
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SHUT UP AND GROW!!!
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