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2004/01/04, 01:21 PM
There are 14 yrs age diff with hubby and I. Me 25 - him 40. We have been together 2 years now. He is so selfish during sex. I can't stand it anymore. It's come to the point of me refusing to have sex unless he changes. Foreplay is minimal. He thinks rubbing my thigh while I give him oral pleasure is good enough. As soon as that's done, we have sex. Last maybe 5 minutes and as soon as he gets off, he jumps up and starts talking about work or something equally dumb at the moment. And I say as soon as he's done...that's what I mean. He never even considers if I've gotten any pleasure. Let me remind you the foreplay is not even long enough for me to get excited. It makes me feel used. And seriously the past week, I've not been giving it to him. I feel like what's the point? He told me withholding is not very good idea. So guess he's hinting at cheating???? He has in past relationships, but have not caught him cheating on me. He says I'm the only one he wants to have sex with. Advice PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you Leea
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2004/01/30, 06:10 PM
i suggest you get rid of him because it sounds too me like all he wants you for is sex. you need pleasure as well as him so hey go find it else where.
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2004/01/30, 07:39 PM
This sounds familiar. Like 19 posts down. Are you ok leea??
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Its like herding cats.
Charlie
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2004/01/30, 08:58 PM
Still??
Nothing changed?
Is this a serious post?
What do you think now Charlie??
Maybe we call the councilour? (JDELTS)!!
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"A will finds a way"
Ivan Montreal Canada
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2004/01/30, 09:48 PM
I am being cautious. I already riled 1 lady this week.
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Its like herding cats.
Charlie
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2004/01/31, 11:15 AM
Leea you and your husband may want to seek counseling. I also advise that you find a man your own age who can bring out all of your animalistic fantasies.
Hecadarec
MD
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Hec da Rec in full effect.
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2004/01/31, 10:08 PM
I've been thinking about writing a book called, "After the Orgasm," which speaks of this nature in men. I have it; think we all do--it's just a matter of degree.
He's having problems elsewhere or lack of interest. The only time men constantly, consistently, take into account the pleasure of the lady is when they're still in "passion," with that person.
That fades with time. Pleasuring the lady becomes a chore. Men that can be the exception to this rule are types that absolutely fear being alone or truly have a grasp on the game (and that two teams actually play). Nature vs. nurture--what caveman brain says and what civilized brain says. Tough fight for us. Best of luck.
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Jeff Goldblum, Jurassic Park II
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2004/02/01, 08:05 AM
Here is a crude post from another woman, Leea. Just my opinion, but sounds like he already has his hands in someone else's cookie jar. The situation doesn't seem right and sounds like he is taking you for "just because it's in front of me" reasons. Advice? Watch your back. (and his)
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2004/02/01, 08:19 AM
Good advice Julisa ;)
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