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2004/02/18, 01:58 PM
What's the deal? Most guys I meet comment on how different I am from most LA women. They proceed to mention that LA women are calculating b!tches and can't be trusted on top of being shallow etc. Well after hanging out with some acquaintances and hearing this girl complain about the hair on the back of this guy she hooked up with; he refused to shave it because his wife might suspect something. Oh that isn't the worst of it...this guy is her sponser (probably AA on NA not sure). All this while she is having her 4th glass of wine...and oh, so casually mentioning her recent use of drugs. Well, she finally stoped complaining about the guy she's having an affair with when her boyfriend (other boyfriend...the one that pays for everything), showed up. That's just shameless.
I started reviewing my past experiences similar to this and realized like that girl most of the women I've met who carry themselves as such aren't even from L.A. Yet it's LA women that live with this reputation!
Just needed to vent...I guess.
I love making new friends but, as my standards get higher I find it more difficult. But who the hell needs imbalanced people around anyway?!
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2004/02/18, 02:21 PM
My wife was born and raised in California. She is now happily living in Alabama. She's heard it all. Better yet, how about being a southern white male. We really get crapped on. Ignorant, stupid, rascist, lazy, etc. Now add being a Christian on top of that and we don't stand a chance! Yeah, I kind of know what you mean Taurie.
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2004/02/18, 02:23 PM
Sterotypes - so unfair. At least me living in Canada knew nothing at all about how LA women are "calculating bitches" etc etc. I to, get grief from people who sterotype (hey look at me - I'm blonde!) Try and ignore that crap-talk taurie and feel happy and proud that you have class and high standards. :)
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2004/02/18, 04:00 PM
agamble~ All the southern men I've known were downright adorable. And great manners. Always called me ma'am. I'm from Indiana and they all thought I had a cute accent.....lol.
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...Do not be discouraged; everyone who got where he is, started where he was.--anon
...There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.--Beverly Sills
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2004/02/18, 04:05 PM
Thank you for saying that AZ. I can't speak for the other southern men but most would agree with me on this. Our momma's would slap our faces if we disrespected our elders or women. A famous quote says that the two best places for a lady to grow old is in China and in the South. Not a bad place if you like bar-b-que either!
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2004/02/18, 04:41 PM
Tauire, good for you for identifing negative people in your life, refuse to be around them. The male female game is the biggest game on the planet refuse to play it, do not slander, sterotype, use, discrimination ect. due to sex, age , race, ect. Pay attention, to your language, the media, your friends, ect., you will find you energy soaring as you become more attune as I can tell you are! I myself am still working on it, it is a journey!!!
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2004/02/18, 04:48 PM
you are right agamble, i agree, i am from tennessee, and i know even with my current circumstance that if my momma herd me disrespect a woman i would get slapped! taurie you're good lookin' anyway, you should'nt worry so much.
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2004/02/19, 02:27 PM
I grew up in L.A. and have found the women to be very materialistic. Of course, this is the typical stereotype, but did apply to the women I met there.
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Pain is temporary; glory is forever!
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2004/02/19, 01:21 PM
The people I have met from the south have all been well mannered:)
It's true stereotypes are just that...stereotypes. All I could do is be proud of the person I am. And, while I do eliminate negative people from my life sometimes I wonder if I'm being too judgemental. It's a fine line, really.
Thank you all for you posts!!
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2004/02/19, 02:22 PM
Your mental and emotional health takes priority. That's not selfish at all. If you feel that you need to draw distinctions and eliminate certain people from your life then so be it. That's not being judgemental that is being wise. Toxic people have twisted more people's heads than any political ideology or religion ever has. You demonstrate strength and character by doing what you know to be right and being proud of your choices. I refuse to piss my happiness or sanity away for anyone else! I hope you feel the same way too.
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2004/02/19, 02:53 PM
Rpacheco, did the women you meet in L.A. happen to be from L.A. originally? Just asking. In essence it really doesn't matter. I guess I should look at things this way: since I don't fit the stereotype the genuine people that I do meet would perceive me to be a bit more interesting and see that have more to offer.
Agamble, you are correct. Sometimes I need to be reminded that I am doing things for the right reasons.
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2004/02/19, 05:29 PM
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Quoting from taurie:
Rpacheco, did the women you meet in L.A. happen to be from L.A. originally? Just asking. In essence it really doesn't matter. I guess I should look at things this way: since I don't fit the stereotype the genuine people that I do meet would perceive me to be a bit more interesting and see that have more to offer.
Agamble, you are correct. Sometimes I need to be reminded that I am doing things for the right reasons.
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Taurie, to answer your question, yes they were either born and raised or grew up in L.A. Since the stereotype doesn't apply to you, I'm sure that you'll meet those who will find you to be the "girl next door" :big_smile:
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Pain is temporary; glory is forever!
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2004/02/21, 10:53 PM
Class is class.. no matter where you come from. You got it Taurie, dont fret. Take that from a southern gentleman sweetie!!
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