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2004/03/08, 12:40 PM
Hi all,
I'm currently in a long distance relationship with a wonderful man. We miss each other dearly and are planning to be able to finally be together again next year when he can move here with me and we can get married. It's been working out pretty well....we've been in an LDR for a year now and have been together a total of 2yrs. Our jobs are forcing the long distance thing right now and for the rest of the yr.
I just miss him so much sometimes. I try to get out to see him once or twice a month (money and time permitting)and we are planning 2 vacations together this yr. but it's still hard. Fortunatly, we both know that we want to be married and that we love each other so we're will to do what we have to make this work.
Anyone here ever been in an LDR or are in one now? How did things work out for you?
I often feel very lonely here. Everyone I work with is married or from this area and so they have lots of friends and deep roots. I'm a total outsider and have no friends or family here, so it makes things pretty hard sometimes.
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2004/03/08, 02:39 PM
My brother met a girl at work when she was on a placement
After a few months she had to go back to Slovenia but they decided to go with the long distance relationship thing
I don't think it was easy but they're married now and have just had a little girl who is gorgeous
hope this cheers you up
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2004/03/08, 03:16 PM
I have been in two and I think both of them would have worked out if I hadn't decided that it wasn't for me. (just wasn't ready to settle down yet)
Soon, it will be so worth it, so, keep your chin up!!
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2004/03/08, 11:38 PM
I was in a long distance relationship for two years and it tanked. :( We were together for two years and then he joined the Navy and we were in a long distance relationship for another two. Worked out great for a year and a half....then it just went sour. But we were young(er) and I think it was a lot to deal with..... But I think when you both work at it, you can make it last. :big_smile: Just think of how great it is going to be once you are finally together! :love:
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2004/03/09, 01:23 AM
My boyfriend and I were in a long distance relationship for 2 1/2 yrs before I finally moved. I was in FL, he was is CA. The reason for the wait was because I wanted to finished college first. It was definately hard and at times extremely draining, so I can definately relate w/ you. To top it off, I had a lot of people telling me that it wouldn't work. The day after graduation, he flew over; we pack all of my belongings in to my car and we drove 3,000 miles to CA. It took us 3 days. It is still the best decision I ever made. We just celebrated our 4 yrs anniversary last new year (2004).
If you're convince that he's the one and his feeling for you is mutual, it'll just be a matter of time before you'll be together. And, believe me, it will be so much sweeter.
BTW, Have you tried travelocity.com? It saved me hundreds on plane tickets.
Sunny
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2004/03/09, 08:39 AM
If you think he is the one for you then it is worth the wait. My boyfriend and I have a long distance relationship. I live in Illinois and lives in California but is currently in Kuwait. At first it was hard, but now I can say I have gotten used to it. But like you say it does get lonely after a while. =( Hopefully he will return in August and by then I will be living in Las Vegas, so then we will be closer to eachother.
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2004/03/09, 10:53 AM
maybe this will help.......I have been married for a little over 2 months and my husband lives in washington state and I live in the Bahamas we are both in the military and our jobs are why we are apart. We dated off and on during a 3 year period and we had only been serious with each other for about 2 months when he moved to washington and I was living in San Diego at the time.....a month later I made a trip to see him and he asked me to marry him and I said yes......when I was on the west coast we seen each other or tried to see each other once a month but now that I am in the bahamas we try to see each other every couple of months. Yes it ia hard and we spend alot of time on the phone and I miss him so much when we are apart but this is the man that I love more then anything in the world....he is my best friend and if being with him and being apart is the best we can do for now then that is ok becuase it wont always be this way. We have both committed ourselves to our job and right now this is what I have to accept. When we are together it is great and we have alot of fun............I will be honest with you it isnt easy at times but LDR never are. Hang in there and if you can see the big picture and know that you have to go through some pain to get to what you want then it is worth it.....:)
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2004/03/10, 11:16 AM
AAWWW, thanks guys:).
Yes he is definitly the one. And I know I'm the one for him. We both work in television which is why we can't be together right now. The TV business is brutal and I often find myself hating my career and what it's done to us. But for now, this is the best thing we can do. He wants to move here with me because I'm working in his home market, but it's been nearly impossible for him to get work here.
But for the next year (at least) we'll have to deal with only seeing each other once or twice a month at best.
Oh, and sunny, I've not tried travelocity, I have a frequent flyer program with northwest and united and I've done cheaptickets at times. Problem is, he lives is a somewhat smallish town surrounded by 3 major hubs, so every flight to see him forces a stop over in one of those cities and the connecting flight costs a fortune.
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2004/03/10, 01:15 PM
keep up the positive attitude and hang in there it will all work out in the end....life has a funny way of everything falling into place. I do miss my husband alot and wish that we could be together but in a few months he will at least be on the same coast and in the same time zone as me which will be really nice......normally when he gets off work I am in bed asleep so the conversation is cut short. Good luck to you guys.........
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