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2004/03/12, 06:54 PM
I try to avoid this thread for,....well obvious reasons but I made a post in the mens forum 'March madness-help' and I got some suggestions but not quite what I was looking for. If a few of you ladies would be so kind, I would appreciate some suggestions. It could help me in the short term (March) but may help in the long term as well. Thanks
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2004/03/12, 06:59 PM
I'm still trying to figure out what the tivo had to do with the original question.:)
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The greatest mystery of life is who we truly are.
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2004/03/12, 07:08 PM
Ok, so basically you want the tv and a little cash to play with and she's like ' not in this lifetime' I thinks thats what your saying. If it is, here's the deal. I hate the crap too, but DH loves it, even has the daughter involved. Good for him I say.
You need to suggest things for her to do while games are on. THings that maybe she hasn't done in a awhile and she likes. This will probably involve her leaving the house so you'll be stuck with kids, but I think it's a fair trade. And if you think hard about your suggestions/ideas to her she'll find it romantic that 'you remembered' and not care that your watching basketball or spending a few bucks. Think about something she hasn't done in awhile and would love to do. Even if its just visit a friend for a couple hours. Were really not that complicated:big_smile:
You have to use reverse psycology as they say, get her mind off of that fact your watching basketball and make her feel like you want her to treat herself. Even a long bath with no kids allowed near the door for an hour is always a winner with me.
Basically, you want a treat. She wants one too but she will NOT tell you that.
Hope this helps a little.:)
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It is no fun to be normal!!!
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2004/03/12, 07:13 PM
See now that's what I'm talking about! Thanks BTW, "we're not that complicated." Could have fooled me. I will get the old noodle working on this ASAP.
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2004/03/12, 07:19 PM
No prob!!:big_smile:
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2004/03/13, 12:18 PM
I agree. Take the kids off her hands, get them involved in something in the same room with you, put on basketball games and have a good time. If the wife still doesn't like it, I'd say she was looking for something to mad about and continue on. Never get between a man and his ball game, unless you are naked. Words to live by.
Anni
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2004/03/13, 04:34 PM
Maybe I'm a big communicator or a big trouble maker, I don't know...but I would say try and communicate with her until there is a resolution. You have every right to take a stand on doing something that you like and feel is fair.
I could be making this up, but from your post, I am gathering that you know it will not be well recieved....well, marriage is give and take and as long as you have been doing your fair share of giving...you should take on this one.
No man or woman should have to wager a position to get the things that they enjoy as individuals as long as it doesn't breech that critical balance of compromise. I think you should bring it to the floor and stick there until you both get a little out of it.
Rub her feet if you want, yes...but don't lay down at them.:laugh::laugh:
LOL anni!!..How sad is it that I have stood naked between a man and his game before, and he leaned around me and asked me to get him a beer.:surprised:
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2004/03/13, 04:42 PM
dfly,
Been there. Bring the beer with you honey, you will capture his interest more readily. Naked chicks who bring beer almost never get ignored. I stress "almost."
Anni
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2004/03/15, 09:35 AM
Hmm.. I read your post in the men's forum, and kept mum then.
Sports are on around the clock at my house, football, hockey and golf primarily, and I love it most of the time. Usually I'm right there with Anni, what's better than naked hockey with beer? But March Madness is one ritual I do not share my DH's passion for.
As long as I'm off doing something else (gym, movies, spa, shopping :big_smile: ) he can watch it all he wants, but last night I must say it was a bit 'maddening'. Sunday night is the one night I like to watch TV.. we have DirecTV, and the 2nd tuner has gone to the teenagers room. I contentedly went into the bedroom with my movie to watch, only to have it SUCK. Boo.. had to turn it off (Con Man?).
Now, what would have made me happy at that point, I don't know. I hate to say it, but short of getting what I wanted, not much. Too late to start another movie, I really just wanted to watch TV for an hour and go to bed. But with Dick Vitale, the chair of the selection committee and every NCAA coach having so much to say I wasn't getting near it. I confess to going to bed early, a little peeved.
We had the negotiations worked out, I had movies, he got the TV.. but when that goes bad, it's still your fault..
Sometimes, we ARE that complicated :love::laugh::love:
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2004/03/15, 09:40 AM
We also have direct tv and if we watch what she wants, which I do often, she wants to watch we, lifetime, or the soap channel. I would rather shove thumbtacks into my knees but being the loving husband that I am..........
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2004/03/15, 03:27 PM
The soap channel?!?!?!?
I would rather watch slugs mate.:surprised:
However, I did stay in my jammys all day Saturday and watch lifetime for the first time....I am ususally a discovery channel junky.
So, have decided what you are going to do about this? Inquiring minds want to know!:big_smile:
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2004/03/15, 03:31 PM
Slugs Mate????!!! Man that brought a weird image into my head!!!!
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If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.--- Desiderata, Max Ehrmann, 1927
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2004/03/15, 05:34 PM
Yes I have. I have taken what you wonderful ladies have suggested. I'm off this week so I plan to take some of the chores off her hands, cook her favorite foods, allow her to watch whatever she wants to watch on the tube, and hopefully go for a short vacation to the beach. I 'm sure that I can get most of what I'm after, tv-wise, and who knows maybe more. I thank all of those who responded and now I will bid this ladies forum farewell. (it feels different down here LOL) Bye
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