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2004/03/18, 09:01 AM
Ok Ok...i know i shouldn't, but i need to.
Last night the saint patrick's day celebration was running rampant (being an irish catholic campus, its frickin expected). So after my workout, i get back to my room, start havin my post workout shake...Ok, so i have to go pee (this is like 6pm). I enter the bathroom and low and behold my best friend is already plastered. So i sit there with him holding his glasses while he starts vomitting into the toilet...lovely, the smell of Rum and stomach acid mmmm. So being the good natured boy i am, i help him back to his room and help him get changed (dressing a 19yr old hallmate is slightly humbling). Then i take him to the dining hall and get him some water, we go outside and take a small walk...he's feelin better so we go grab a bite to eat. Alright, all is good. We go back to the dorm. He goes back to his room and i told him NOT to sleep (thats the worst thing you can do when you're drunk ). But i told him i had to shower and ish...so i darted off for five minutes.
Well my next buddy comes down the hall and hes wantin me to have a little fun and meet some people. So, i go check on my dear friend Andrew and he's doing just fine, his roommate has come back and wasn't going to be leaving. Good. Andrew would come find me in an hour when he was feeling back near 100%. So i get dressed ASAP and i go with Tim to the third floor. Cute girls there, he wanted me to meet a few and just hang out cause i haven't been able to do much of that lately. So we're chilling in the room...most of them being 21 and all with the exception of 4 (not including Tim or I). So an RA comes knocking at the door. I have NOT had a drink, nor was i planning on it. But, they block the door and anyone in there gets written up if underage. How messed is that? Anyways, as one of the two RAs is taking names, Tim darts out the door barely where the guy didn't notice. But he goes 'hey, does anyone know who that guy with the long hair was.' Of course, as al pacino said in scent of a woman 'BUT HES NOT A SNITCH' I denied knowing the kid at all...so Tim got away scott free. Now our dear friend Elliot (me) just 19 years of age now has an 'alcohol write-up' along with 'housing probation' for not drinking. This chaps my nuts. My father is paying $40,000/yr for me to go to a school for them to write me up for virtually nothing other than being in the company of cute girls and a good friend. The least they could do with a small portion of that 40k is buy a few breathalyzers so that they know who and who wasn't drinking. Grr.
So, this isn't the end of the world, atleast i didn't get a Minor in Consumption like my brother did his sophomore year and lost his scholarship (ouch). I'm changing schools anyways just because the private school atmosphere didnt fit me right. But now i feel worse at myself because in my anger i went and smoked (cigs). Damn, i had been doing so well about not smoking and now its in my head again.
my rant is over. Sorry, i feel better.:surprised:
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2004/03/18, 09:10 AM
oops, side note...i never got to finish my shake:surprised:
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2004/03/18, 09:14 AM
Sounds like one absolutely crumby night! As bad as getting written up is I was sorry to hear you grabbed a cigarette!! As an ex-smoker I know how frustrating it is! Hope today goes better for you!!!
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2004/03/18, 11:18 AM
Isn't there any way to contest the charges?
That sucks, but you are certainly a good friend to have, taking care of drunks is no fun. especially since there was just a news item the other day here about a guy who had too much to drink (it was his 21st birthday) and his dormmates helped him get to bed and he didn't wake up.
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"To be able to go to the gym and train hard is a joy and a privelege, even though the hard work necessitates driving yourself through considerable discomfort. Savor this privelege and blessing, and revel in it."
Stuart McRobert, Beyond Brawn
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2004/03/18, 12:27 PM
Feel for ya Tex... Old story of wrong place at the wrong time.
I tell my teen-ager: like it or not, you are only as good as the worst person in the room with you.
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Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.
~Benjamin Disraeli
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2004/03/18, 01:15 PM
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Quoting from datdanigirl:
I tell my teen-ager: like it or not, you are only as good as the worst person in the room with you.
Is that the same as:
"If you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas"?????
My Daddy used to tell me that all the time and I am not entirely sure I ever got the jist of the meaning..:laugh::laugh:
I'm with asimmer, you should find out what channels you have to take and get it reversed if you can!
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2004/03/18, 03:11 PM
:laugh: It is exactly that dfly!
If you are in a drughouse when they raid it, you are arrested. Whether you were participating or not..
You can certainly appeal, you should, and I hope you succeed. But understand that the point being made is: you had knowledge of illegal activity, and you made the decision to remain in the room.
I say this with love and as the mother of a 13 year-old who I am trying to teach that you CAN getting in trouble for just being involved - you don't have to be an active participant to be guilty.
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Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.
~Benjamin Disraeli
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2004/03/18, 03:31 PM
When I was 14 I attended a party that was raided by the police. A bunch of underage drinking going on. In fact I was one of the only ones who werent drinking. The police let me go. When I came out of the house my mother was there waiting for me. She did not want to hear that I was not drinking. She only cared that I was hanging around people who were. I think I still resent her because she never gave me credit for being smart enough not to drink. I am not going to tell my kids who to hang out with unless I feel a threat for their safety. I will let my children make their own decisions and learn as they go. Just one mans opinions.
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2004/03/18, 03:39 PM
LOL know how you feel I was 21 got a littel drunk in my room the RA came on a raid(all were drunk as well). THey pounded on my door, and me being a litle tispy opened it. They saw some JD bottles laying around and wrote me up. Cause I had not reported that I had them I got written up even though I was 21.....I later got a littel revenge on that dumb ra...we both were taking Karate classes and I got to spar with him :big_smile::big_smile::big_smile: needless to say I hit him way more than he hit me!
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LIFT HEAVY! BECOME STRONG, LIKE BULL!
7707mutt@freetrainers.com
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2004/03/18, 04:11 PM
mutt, thats awesome. Unfortunately, my RA is the incredible hulk (Hes BIG and pretty nicely shaped). But also, it wasn't my RA.
Yeah i understand the guilt by association thing, it just sucks. What am i supposed to do? Leave the company of cute girls!?!??!?! And no, i'm not the type to wait till theyre drunk to thell them they're pretty...i was talkin to the other sober one...we both looked at eachother when the RA walked in and we know what the other wanted to say 'Sh.....'
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2004/03/18, 05:11 PM
tex sorry to hear of your misfortune. Chaulk it up as a lesson, and to beware of those who choose to bend the rules. At least you were sober and knowing that, try and explain it to the powers to be, and have the write up changed if you can.
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2004/03/18, 06:58 PM
Tex...life could be worse...think about that. I'm sure nothing will become of the write-up as long as you maintain your good behavior. It funny how shit like that goes. As for the "friend" who ran out, good for you that you didn't snitch as long as it didn't make your situation worse. HE OWES YOU AND MAKE HIM KNOW THAT. God, I miss those days in the dorms.:(
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Baseball is wrong: Man with four balls cannot walk.
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2004/03/19, 10:09 AM
Point taken hec.. believe me this little girl makes her own decisions! I'm sure you will give your children all the tools they need to make the right decisions, and I'm just saying this is one of them.
When her 13 year old friends are drinking, smoking, and having sex, I don't tell her she can't see them anymore, I tell her I know she knows better, we talk about why it's not right and ALL the possible consequences. Part of my protectiveness comes from the fact I'm very lucky to be alive after several dangerous situations I put myself in and justified it by saying, "I'm not doing anything wrong by just being here".
Soo.. it was a sensitive subject for me I guess.
Now obviously being in a dorm room with a couple underage light drinkers is not a huge deal, and I didn't mean to make it such, or diminish your situation tex! It really does suck to be trying to do everything right, helping others out, and have to suffer for it.
But it was a known, possible consequence, yes? I just try to look at every bad thing that happens as something to learn from.. somehow.. :)
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2004/03/21, 05:36 PM
datdanigirl, you are scaring me. mine is going on nine and i am not looking forward to the teenage years!!!!!
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"To be able to go to the gym and train hard is a joy and a privelege, even though the hard work necessitates driving yourself through considerable discomfort. Savor this privelege and blessing, and revel in it."
Stuart McRobert, Beyond Brawn
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2004/03/22, 11:45 AM
Ooohh Amy, it is truly a scary thing. :surprised:
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