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davidov Posts: 95 Joined: 2002/10/24	2004/04/17, 01:43 PM Hey guys, I'm on a "break" with my girlfriend of two years. She initiated. I feel much better now than I did. I can't help feeling confused though as to what my mentality should be. I want to get back together with her, but only if that's what she wants and only if it will work well. I am very confused.

Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/04/17, 03:24 PM David, I know that you are suffering and that this is really hard. I've been where you are and may go there again, who knows. The most important thing I can share with you is that you can't make somebody love you. All you can do is love and respect yourself enough to let go with grace and dignity. Not an easy thing to do sometimes. I know that there will always be a special place in your heart for her, and that's as it should be. But you need to move on, because she already has. I can't tell you how much I wished someone would have said those words to me a few years ago. Not that I would have listened and you probably won't either. Hang in there. -------------- Anni Never pet a burning dog.
goodoldtex Posts: 564 Joined: 2004/01/25	2004/04/17, 05:46 PM This stuff happens. You remember lampoonanimal's posts, and no doubt you remember everything in there...the only thing you can do is hang in there...cherish what you've already had. I initiated a break with my g/f of 2 years, and now we are no longer together...(the full break up came easter weekend). we are still best friends. So if it comes down to it, try to keep her as a good friend if at all possible, y'all have prolly shared too much for you to want otherwise
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/04/17, 06:18 PM Every girl I have ever broken up with I also severed the friendship. I see no reason to stay friends, you are only making her think she still has a chance by doing that. Plus it is to tempting to bang her. -------------- My gym dues are not paid with money.
davidov Posts: 95 Joined: 2002/10/24	2004/04/17, 08:11 PM Yeah, I've followed the same philosophy thus far hec. I don't think it's possible to be friends with someone that you want to have sex with. But like tex said, we've shared so much, such a big chunk of our lives that it would be weird to cut her out. As far as I know she doesn't know what she wants though, so maybe she'll want to get back together. I'm not banking on it though. I realize now that life isn't so bad without her. The sun will rise tomorrow. -------------- Tom