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howdiekat Posts: 1,345 Joined: 2003/05/22	2004/04/23, 11:53 PM ...wanting to get bulky? i read and hear so much about women being afraid to lift because they don't want bulk, but i mean i kinda want the bulk. i don't get in the gym and bust my rear 5 days a week so i can look like a china doll. don't get me wrong here, i'm not trying to look like the incredible hulk, but i don't mind people looking at me and saying, geez, that chick is a hoss. in a month i'll be moving to houston and living by myself, and i think it would benefit me to look like i could kick some serious a$$ should i have to. i guess what i'm saying here is that maybe there are more women out there who want the extra mass, but are afraid to go for it because the majority of women in the gyms are going to incredible lengths to avoid it. while we may not have the hormones to get big like the boys, i say it's ok to go for as much as we can if that's what we're after! -------------- success comes before work only in the dictionary. that's right.
princesslodgey Posts: 1,748 Joined: 2004/02/21	2004/04/24, 03:48 AM good for you! I think strong and defined looks much better than the twig women who look like they would break if you brushed past them. If you've seen worlds strongest woman some of the women on that look fabolous without losing any of their femininity.
goodoldtex Posts: 564 Joined: 2004/01/25	2004/04/24, 03:49 AM go for it. Some will be intimidated, but thats them...should we always base what we want off of others? I don't htink so. I've always done my damnedest to pursue my own personal paradigms and the image of myself that i want, and if it doesn't fit into what someone else views as 'normal' they can either get over it or piss off. But, i will not let it hurt me and my growth (mental/physical/emotional). If anything, ive always been one to challenge people to view what they think of as normal etc, and be more flexible with people. If you wanna bulk up, more power to ya. It is really your choice. If you're worried about men, hell we all have our different likes and dislikes, and there are plenty out there that would like someone not afraid to challenge that 'china doll' image of beauty. People might not understand why we do things, but fact is, if you do it for the right reason, why does it matter. If you want it, go for it
princesslodgey Posts: 1,748 Joined: 2004/02/21	2004/04/24, 04:05 AM Heini is a perfect example of what I mean: http://www.bk-sportsmag.se/strongman/glamazons/Dsc_0373.jpg
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/04/24, 05:04 AM howdiekat, there isn't anything wrong with you wanting to get bulky. It's true that women are conditioned to think that the only way to be truly feminine is to be soft and small, but we've been conditioned to think a lot of things about ourselves, most of which is garbage. Any woman who looks at you and doesn't see that good health is the epitomy of womanliness is just plain not very smart. Having bulky muscles doesn't mean you want to be a man, or look like a man. The same women who may criticise you are the same women who will want you to walk them to their cars after dark. Redefining what it means to be female is long overdue and it's women like you who are the pioneers. -------------- Anni ******* Have you hugged your EFAs today?
jcannuck Posts: 210 Joined: 2004/01/31	2004/04/24, 07:49 AM Not all men find petite and fragile sexy, I'd much rather look at and admire a girl with a little "bulk". I personally think it's incredibly sexy! Go for it, as Mutt would say, lift heavy, become strong like bull! -------------- If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.--- Desiderata, Max Ehrmann, 1927
asimmer Posts: 8,201 Joined: 2003/01/07	2004/04/24, 10:27 AM Do it, howdiekat! I am proud to have arms bigger than many men I meet. And it is nice to pick up really heavy items when a man has offered to do it for you, and I don't worry about who i meet in a dark alley (though being muscular and being able to kick ass are two different things, take a karate or self-defense class, you will love it!) Many men find a strong, confident muscular woman very attractive - and the ones who prefer shrinking violets probably have some self-esteem issues, so you don't want to date them, anyhow! Plus, it is nice to see how big you can get, naturally... -------------- If you fall down seven times, get up eight.
howdiekat Posts: 1,345 Joined: 2003/05/22	2004/04/24, 11:35 AM this was a great response to wake up to - it's always great to get some encouragement to go for your goals! it's also, as always, good to see the guys get in on posts like this. i hope that if there are more women on ft who have made this their goal but are afraid to go for it that they will read these posts and get some confidence. princess - thanks for the link to that picture! she certainly hasn't lost any edge on her femininity by lifting heavy. i'd love to see her in a competition. asimmer - i think you have become my personal hero. you really are a great role model (i hope you don't mind me saying that:)) and i know i am not the only person on this site who has a great amount of respect for you. i hope the posts on this topic keep on coming, i know we're not the only ones who feel this way! but now that i've got this under my belt, i'm off to the gym...it's a superset day:big_smile: -------------- success comes before work only in the dictionary. that's right.
azredhead57 Posts: 1,651 Joined: 2003/04/11	2004/04/25, 05:02 PM Im with you howdiekat! I go to the gym to GET muscles, not to find a way to hide them. I think you look great already, but go for it. :dumbbell: LIFT HEAVY!
bigandrew Posts: 5,146 Joined: 2002/10/21	2004/05/03, 11:28 AM Whatever makes you happy howdie.....Perosnally i work out to get big, an di wanan get bigger, i would love to be 275lbs and have liek 15% body fat...hell maybe 300lbs who knows.......i work out for me and me alone and to make me happy. I don't wanna be a model or anything, just healthy and strong. If guys are intimidated by that, then they are insesure about themsleves before they met you, and if somones gonna like you they will like you regardless of how big your arms or legs are. I liek a girl with meat and muscle on them lol Do it for you not no one else! -------------- .......adversity causes some to break, but others to break records! ......minds are not vessles to be filled, but fires to be enlightened ......Confucious once said ,DO NOT play leap frog with a unicorn
	2004/05/03, 11:41 AM Go for it howdie. You can't please everyone so you gotta please yourself. Sexy is between the ears anyway.
I_Am-aZon Posts: 893 Joined: 2003/02/18	2004/05/03, 11:59 AM :dumbbell::angry::dumbbell: Go for it howdie! I think that idea rocks!
howdiekat Posts: 1,345 Joined: 2003/05/22	2004/05/03, 03:04 PM yall are all so great! support for making my goals is hard to come by from the people i'm around most frequently. most of them just don't understand why i lift the way i do, which is alright because i'm doing it for myself anyway. there's no feeling like lifting a weight you couldn't lift before and seeing the change in your body. so rewarding! -------------- success comes before work only in the dictionary. that's right.
Jdelts Posts: 1,218 Joined: 2003/10/19	2004/05/05, 12:04 AM Unfortunately its a social construct that is reinforced by male dominance. In other words, its because of men that wonderful women like you have to feel a degree of shame because you want to be bulky. F*ck the norm! Go for it Howdy!
mmaibohm Posts: 1,621 Joined: 2003/09/30	2004/05/05, 01:39 AM Howdie you rock if there is another mutt challenge I want to go against you. -------------- I am that which must be feared, worshipped and adored. The world is mine now and forever.No one holds command over me. No man. No god. I am a beast and that is enough.
perrrin Posts: 19 Joined: 2004/04/27	2004/05/06, 10:41 AM I think women with Bulk are sexy
howdiekat Posts: 1,345 Joined: 2003/05/22	2004/05/06, 12:56 PM jdelts i gotta say i love reading your posts on the socio-psychological issues more than anything on the entire site. it's easy to tell you've got a couple of masters degrees in that area to go with your kick a$$ attitude:) and mmaibohm, i'd be honored to go against you if mutt does another challenge - just watch out, i'm fiesty when i'm motivated:dumbbell::dumbbell: -------------- success comes before work only in the dictionary. that's right.
mmaibohm Posts: 1,621 Joined: 2003/09/30	2004/05/06, 02:22 PM perrin you are right on Heini is so hot. She could toss me around any day. -------------- I am that which must be feared, worshipped and adored. The world is mine now and forever.No one holds command over me. No man. No god. I am a beast and that is enough.
princesslodgey Posts: 1,748 Joined: 2004/02/21	2004/05/07, 07:28 AM I can't work out whether I want to look like her or sleep with her.... confused former heterosexual :surprised:
howdiekat Posts: 1,345 Joined: 2003/05/22	2004/05/07, 10:44 AM princess, you could always do both:big_smile: -------------- success comes before work only in the dictionary. that's right.
princesslodgey Posts: 1,748 Joined: 2004/02/21	2004/05/08, 05:02 AM lol
asimmer Posts: 8,201 Joined: 2003/01/07	2004/05/08, 07:33 AM I am sorry, who is heinie?
princesslodgey Posts: 1,748 Joined: 2004/02/21	2004/05/08, 07:49 AM finnish former worlds strongest woman here's the link to jpeg again: http://www.bk-sportsmag.se/strongman/glamazons/Dsc_0373.jpg
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/05/08, 08:37 AM Thanks asimmer; I felt too stupid to ask. -------------- Would it be classified as overly competitive if I refused to let a 4 year old beat me at chutes and ladders?
asimmer Posts: 8,201 Joined: 2003/01/07	2004/05/25, 01:16 PM Sorry, i didn't read closely enough the first time around. Heinie looks great, but here is what I want to look like - http://www.bulldoginteractive.com/jon-harris/profile-nancy.htm -------------- If you fall down seven times, get up eight.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/05/25, 04:19 PM I used to work out in the same Gold's gym as her when I was stationed in Worcester Massachusetts. She is awesome, and really nice. -------------- Would it be classified as overly competitive if I refused to let a 4 year old beat me at chutes and ladders?
Philia2 Posts: 4,078 Joined: 2001/10/19	2004/05/26, 04:17 AM Personally I'd like to put on 10lbs of lean muscle mass............ That has been my dreams for ages!!! :dumbbell::dumbbell::dumbbell: -------------- - Nina :o) Les Victoires éternelles sont celles du coeur. www.nme-pro.com
asimmer Posts: 8,201 Joined: 2003/01/07	2004/05/26, 09:15 AM No way, hec? That is so cool. She came across as realy nice in her interview. Everything she said was really positive, not a bad word about anyone else. And it shows in her smile - she doesn't look fake or mean at all. I really admire her! Philia - eat more, less cardio, you will put some muscle on! -------------- If you fall down seven times, get up eight.