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18...strugglin with relationships

Lpudge Posts: 16 Joined: 2004/05/11	2004/05/17, 09:35 AM I'm 18 and I haven't had a boyfriens in over 5 years. I know people say that I'm not ready or whatever but all my friends have pretty much settled into the groove and I am ready to as well. Whenever they go out I'm stuck at home watching t.v. It doesn't help that I am shy either. Please help me. I need some advice. -------------- Peace Out!
I_Am-aZon Posts: 893 Joined: 2003/02/18	2004/05/17, 09:57 AM Aw Lpudge. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. Go out and have some fun on your own - try new things that interest you - get involved in new activities or interesting courses if possible. I have found that when we are happy with our own self, relationships will indeed find you - and if you are shy, at least you have something to talk about. But when we want a relationship too much, it often reflects in our demeanour, thus we may seem too needy and that may not bring men to you. Best of luck to you. You will find someone, and we all feel that way sometimes Thats my 2 cents, I hope it helps :)
howdiekat Posts: 1,345 Joined: 2003/05/22	2004/05/17, 10:49 AM lpudge i have been in your same shoes, and i know it's not fun - i was single from 7th grade to my sophomore of college. i know this is going to sound silly and cliche, but being single when all your friends are dating really does build character. you learn to be your own person and to be comfortable with that. as soon as you've got that down, you will be amazed at the doors that open up to you. it's all about knowing that your existence does not depend on who you're going out with, it depends on you. all i can tell you in retrospect of having gone through this exact same thing is to have patience. all things happen in perfect time, and your time to have a relationship will come. have confidence in yourself and enjoy being single. there are a lot of advantages to it! if you ever want to chat about it, you can send me an im. like i said, i've been through this before and i know it's hard. i'll be happy to let you vent to me:) -------------- success comes before work only in the dictionary. that's right.
Jdelts Posts: 1,218 Joined: 2003/10/19	2004/05/17, 11:01 PM Late bloomer myself! Be patient and live your life. Boys are overrated anyway. If you meet a guy who is a boxing fan, don't tell him that Tyson was a bad fighter:laugh: (thats an inside joke between Pudge and I):laugh::love: -------------- My diet sucks and so do my Mets Jdelts@freetrainers.com
asimmer Posts: 8,201 Joined: 2003/01/07	2004/05/18, 08:42 AM Yes - enjoy being able to do the activities you enjoy! Find a volleyball team or get involved at the gym. You have time now to learn about who you are and what you like to do. Some of the best years of my life were the single, apartment living years (I love my husband and child, don't get me wrong). I had time to read what I wanted to, to workout as much as I wanted to, to eat black beans and rice every day for dinner if I wanted to. So much freedom and time for yourself! Enjoy it - become a solid, self-reliant woman. That way , when you do meet a man worthy of you, you won't get lost in the relationship and you will be much happier in the long run! -------------- If you fall down seven times, get up eight.
Lpudge Posts: 16 Joined: 2004/05/11	2004/05/18, 08:56 AM Thanks. I do a lot of activities. Die hard baseball fan for sure. The only problem is I tend to go for both New York teams.:laugh: -------------- Peace Out! -Pudge
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/05/18, 08:56 AM I'm going to add to the list of great advice, go to college. It's a great way to pass the time, get an education and perhaps meet some nice people your age. College is never a waste of time, but many men are. Absolutely no offense intended to the men on this site who are obviously an exception. -------------- Anni ******* Hard work must have killed somebody
I_Am-aZon Posts: 893 Joined: 2003/02/18	2004/05/18, 11:04 AM anni - great advice! I so agree with you there. College has so much to offer - education, confidence and so much more. :big_smile:
Jdelts Posts: 1,218 Joined: 2003/10/19	2004/05/18, 02:23 PM If you live in NY and root for both teams, that like being manic-depressive.:laugh: I love the college idea by Anni...One can't assume though, that college is that easy to afford, let alone get in to...but if you can, college is a social breeding ground for EVERYBODY.:) ============ Quoting from Lpudge: Thanks. I do a lot of activities. Die hard baseball fan for sure. The only problem is I tend to go for both New York teams.:laugh: ============= -------------- My diet sucks and so do my Mets Jdelts@freetrainers.com