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Anyone else have a spouse overseas?

azredhead57 Posts: 1,651 Joined: 2003/04/11	2004/06/23, 01:26 PM This just gets harder. We didnt know how good we had it the first 6 months when he had pretty regular access to a computer. Since he went back in April he has been working in town with little or no access to any form of communication. He has had several close calls with all of these insurgent attacks. Right now he is on a 'mission' and I wont hear from him for a week to 10 days. I dont know how some wives manage not hearing from their husbands for a month or more. My heart and prayers go out to all of them. I am so stressed and frustrated some days I just feel like Im going to fall apart. My gym 'family' have been very supportive but lately I dont even feel like facing them. When they ask did I hear from him I want to cry when I have to say no. And then there is the guilt I feel for being upset with him for not being able to find a way to let me know what is going on. I know it isnt his fault. I just feel sad all the time. He is scheduled to come home July 6 for 2 weeks, I think I will be holding my breath until I actually see him get off the plane. Anyone else going through this? -------------- ~Victoria~ ...Do not be discouraged; everyone who got where he is, started where he was.--anon ...There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.--Beverly Sills
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/23, 01:37 PM Victoria I don't have a spouse overseas, or even a spouse for that matter, but can I tell you that I think about you every day? I wish that I had some magical phrase or bit of wisdom to give to you that would make this time easier, but I don't. I can tell you that the anger, guilt and fear you have seem like a perfectly reasonable response to an unreasonable situation. If prayers and good wishes for all of you help, know that you certainly have had and will continue to have mine. -------------- Anni ******* Hard work must have killed somebody
	2004/06/23, 01:37 PM Not me Victoria but I'm sorry you guys are. Missed seeing you lately. -------------- Foolish consistancies are the hobgoblins of small minds. Charlie
asimmer Posts: 8,201 Joined: 2003/01/07	2004/06/23, 01:40 PM As always, sending you support vibes and saying prayers for all the spouses overseas:love: -------------- \\"Inscribe this on the charm that dangles from your navel, girls. Guys, tattoo this on your biceps: Building muscle and might builds strong minds and character. Respect and humility come from lifting weights and feeding yourself with care. And from these distinguished qualities a great nation of people is built, by God. (Of course the God part is your choice, friend.)\\" Dave Draper
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/23, 01:46 PM Victoria, I honestly think about you everyday, and I pray for your husband's safety. I have been overseas, away from family, never in these conditions; nonetheless, it sucks. -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
dfly411 Posts: 1,352 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/23, 02:03 PM ((((HUGGGGGG)))) Hang in there honey, I know that you are tired as hell of it, but still keep the light of faith burning. Without it, we would all be lost.
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2004/06/23, 02:55 PM Victoria, You are a strong woman, but even strong women have the right to cry and get angry, and miss the person they love. I have been keeping you and your husband in my prayers, and will continue to do so until he is home for good!
Vedakathryn Posts: 1,585 Joined: 2004/05/28	2004/06/23, 10:18 PM I do not have anyone I love overseas and yet I care for each and every one that is and those that are waiting for them at home...I, too, will keep you and your husband, along with the rest, in my prayers. We owe all of you our freedom... -------------- Veda MISERY IS OPTIONAL ***When you are up to your ears in trouble, try using the part that is not submerged. ***The difference between a dream and a goal is a plan. HAVE A GREAT DAY!
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2004/06/23, 10:30 PM Big huggs to you Victoria. You are a strong person, and July 6th isnt really that far away. Don't be a stranger! -------------- "A will finds a way, failure is not an option" Ivan carivan@freetrainers.com Montreal Canada
Woodie Posts: 148 Joined: 2004/04/28	2004/06/24, 10:08 AM My prayers are with you and your husband, I think of you two every time I hear the news. -------------- I will get to it as soon as I am done lifting.
azredhead57 Posts: 1,651 Joined: 2003/04/11	2004/06/24, 01:15 PM Thank you, all of you, for your kind words and prayers. Everyday the news gets worse and this mornings reports have me really freaked out, upset and afraid. And there isnt a thing I can do about it, but sit here and be helpless. Hec has it right.....it just sucks. -------------- ~Victoria~ ...Do not be discouraged; everyone who got where he is, started where he was.--anon ...There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.--Beverly Sills
kimgray Posts: 26 Joined: 2004/07/05	2004/07/22, 10:51 AM Hey Victoria, My boyfriend of 2 years is overseas right now. It was so hard at first, but since January I have gotten used to it. I guess the cool thing about it is that it has given me the chance to totally get in the gym and push myself so I surprise him when he gets home. I'll be thinking about you and you and your husband are in my prayers...God Bless=)
ANGEL60067 Posts: 38 Joined: 2004/02/13	2004/08/02, 04:55 PM I have my boyfriend overseas since Feb. and he will not be returning home till October. I know how you feel, I can not email my boyfriend or call him, I have to wait until he calls me and sometimes, I dont hear from him for about two weeks. Don't feel guilty. My boyfriend tells me "don't watch the news, that will only make you more upset." So I took his advice and really try to avoid watching any news. All we can really do is pray for them and wait till they return
davisp Posts: 313 Joined: 2002/10/26	2004/08/02, 05:46 PM Hey Victoria, I was overseas for a while. You and your spouse will be in our prayers. I have no words of wisdom as it is a very very difficult thing to go through. No one can know truly how difficult it is, but we are all here for you. -------------- Seeking out motivation does not motivate you to seek out results. - Paul Post mark - PaulsMark - Post mark
adam_nunya Posts: 24 Joined: 2004/07/06	2004/08/03, 06:24 AM I know exactly what your feeling Victoria, I am a spouse overseas. It is hard, but distance makes the heart grow fonder. Tell your husband i said good luck from one soldier to another. He'll be just fine and will be home before you know it.
azredhead57 Posts: 1,651 Joined: 2003/04/11	2004/08/03, 05:32 PM Thanks all, again. He was just home for a very short 2 weeks. It felt more like 2 days. Each time he leaves it is harder to say goodbye. You're right kim about getting in the gym, that seems to be my best distraction and where my support group is. Of course I dont go the 2 weeks he is here or the week before as Im busy and then the week after as Im too depressed so after a month off I really need to get back. This stretch is for 4 months. Hopefully after that he is done. -------------- ~Victoria~ ...Do not be discouraged; everyone who got where he is, started where he was.--anon ...There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.--Beverly Sills
bardrock69 Posts: 59 Joined: 2003/04/30	2004/08/12, 09:22 AM Hi all, I am Victoria's husband as some of you know. Thank you so much for your support for me and my wife. I dont get much time to use the computer anymore but love to read what everyone has to say here when I get the chance.