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2004/08/26, 04:21 PM
Well this one is about my sister. My older sister called me and was very upset, this is her story.
She work up for work acouple of days ago, work up her husband and got her two kids ready for school.After making everyone quick breakfast she kissed her husband goodbye and headed to work(so did he). That evening her husband was talking some time to get home, so she decided to call him so she could have dinner ready for him. When she got in touch with him he told her that he was not coming home, he never loved her, that the pass 10 years have been a mistake. He doesn't want her to call him or to call his parents house, he wants nothing to do with her. She lives in tampa florida and we live in pennsylvania. she has no family over there. His family tells her is because of his pass. But everytime something goes wrong they say the same thing...I think it is an excuse for me he is not a man...why do would anyne break up like that..sorry but just had to tell someone ...thanks ...I feel so bad for her but what can I do. I cantell her what I think she should do, but I don't think she will put much thought into it......sylvia
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2004/08/26, 04:35 PM
bring your sister home where she can feel loved and protected and cherished. Then give her husband an earful, heck, give him hell, and more! no one deserves to be ditched like that. after 10years? sheesh. man needs to be castrated. freakin weakling.
anyways...just hug your sister and let her know you're there. Family is all we have in the end.
hope this helps and give your sister my well wishes.
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There is no pain. There will BE no pain.
Now for the love of god...put the donut...DOWN!!!
-cupcake-
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2004/08/26, 04:37 PM
Padua, thats aweful. Just be there for her. Probably not the best time to offer advice. What an a**hole he must be. She needs a good listener and time.
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Dances with Buffalos
Charlie
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2004/08/26, 04:40 PM
Pretty sad out there. Hard to believe a---holes like that exist.
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"A will finds a way, failure is not an option"
Ivan
carivan@freetrainers.com
Montreal Canada
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2004/08/26, 04:41 PM
I tried to talk to her but not to much because I really don't think she wants to hear it. but I am trying that is why we are bring her hear for the weekend she soesn't want to stay ...
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2004/08/26, 04:44 PM
Cupcake is a ninja. Send her the address and she will with him with extreme prejudice.
Seriously be careful what you say to the bro in law. If they work it out it could be awkward later.
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Dances with Buffalos
Charlie
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2004/08/26, 05:11 PM
That's the samething that Iwas thinking, but my mom is so mad she could spit nails.:big_smile: My husband thinks that he should have told her how he felt instead of leaving in the way that he did. I wish she would think straight and realize that he is no good and to keep on walking....
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2004/08/27, 05:49 AM
i heard that americans dont use the word wanker, so im gonna say it, that man is a wanker. personnally if someone did that to my siter(if i had one) i would send the lads round and sort him out....wanker.
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guns dont kill people, rappers do
call the police, woo woo woo.
stay dumb, you know it makes no sense.
A.D.F.
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2004/08/27, 06:20 AM
Yes, wanker is a good word. As is bawbag.
Padua, just call him all the names you want behind his back, but keep quiet in front of your sister. Be there for her until she realises herself that he is a wanker/bawbag/a**hole etc.
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Desperate in Scotland
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2004/08/27, 06:26 AM
i have never heard baw bag, im intriguied now.
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guns dont kill people, rappers do
call the police, woo woo woo.
stay dumb, you know it makes no sense.
A.D.F.
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2004/08/27, 07:00 AM
I'm sorry to hear about your sister Sylvia, it sounds like you love her alot and so the comments I am going to make may seem a bit harsh, though I mean them in all sincerity and without advocating what this guy has done.
One, you can't make somebody love you if they don't. Even if they have been pretending to for ten years. I have found that many people do not know how to love, moreover, there are those that want to, know they are supposed to, but just can't seem to.
Two, many choose to be with people they do not love, but that have something to give that they want and/or need. They take the pleasures of the realtionship until the day they feel the well has run dry.
Not being in the situation, I can't offer an explanation as to what has happened with your sister and her husband, but I can say that the solution is probably going to lie with her resolving the pain on her own and acceptance that this man does not love her...for whatever reason there might be behind his actions. Though the pain is emmense and awfully unfair, the truth is that in the end, she is better off alone loving herself than chasing the vapor of a man that cannot return the feeling.
Here's lots of hugs for her broken heart and prayers that she will gain the strength to do what she needs to do.
Julienne
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2004/08/27, 10:49 AM
Tell her to get a godd lawyer and take half.
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You can cover up the flaws on your body, but there is no hiding a flawed personality.
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2004/08/27, 11:10 AM
Julienne, I agree with want you wrote. I have also come to realize that she wants to hold on to him..WHY? maybe because she still loves him...so i've decided not to say anything to her...If she is going to allow him to do that to her then she is the one at fault.....she is 30 years old and old enough to know how she wants to be treated...my mother wants her down here to talk to her...but if her mind is made up to hold on wha ever we say will not make a difference........she used to be a very strong minded person. now she acts like she is nothing without him...:(
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2004/08/27, 11:53 AM
Sounds like he wanted out in which case he's done them both a favour. Better now than allowing the rot to continue. I admire him, that must have been a tough decision....
What I don't admire is his manner, perhaps he could have severed the relationship with greater empathy, but then again he's indicated that he did not love her so why should he care?
Your sister needs to suite the pants off him, get the alimony she desrves and move on...thirty is a great age to find her soul mate and certainly easier than being in the same boat ten years down the line. The upside is she's been given a second chance, she should embrace it.
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2004/08/28, 08:38 AM
half? heck, if my husband did that to me and left me to raise my son alone, I'd get the best lawyer in town and milk him for every penny!
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Tell her to get a godd lawyer and take half.
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2004/08/28, 11:33 AM
Are you related to Nelly Furtado?
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You can cover up the flaws on your body, but there is no hiding a flawed personality.
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2004/08/28, 02:30 PM
Not sure if there is any relation. I was bugging my husband about it while back, but he doesn't seem to think that they are related. Too bad eh? I'd really like to meet her... she's gorgeous and super talented too.
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Are you related to Nelly Furtado?
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