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2004/09/01, 09:32 AM
hello, have not been around inquite sometime now,
i have been working on the HWY PATROL and just been busy,
over the past two months though i have been really trying to cut up, i am down form 205 and 8% BF to 195 and 6% BF
well anyways, this is what i need, i've been hanging out with this girl for about two weeks, she really great, the thing is she is going through a divorce, well that does not bother me at all, but i know she has been treated really bad, and she says that i have treated her like no one eles ever has, well i am just being me, the good ole' country boy i am. when i am with her i do not feel like i have to prove anything you know, its really cool. well anyways i was woundering form you ladies out there what kind of stuff makes you think, well this guys alright. i mean what kind of things could i do, now i don't mean flowers, whats something that would throw her off, and catch her off gaurd
and make her smile and brighten her day. any advice.
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2004/09/01, 09:52 AM
hehehe you seem really sweet. I'm seeing a good ole country boy right now myself. It's funny cause I am from Georgia and when I went away to college (just in North Carolina although at a school with mostly non-southerners {Duke}) I decided I didn't like southern men. Now I've realized the beauty of a southern male and I don't think I'll ever want anything else. This new guy treats me like no one else ever has, and no I wasn't ever particularly treated poorly (although check out my "weird guy behavior" thread on the living good relationships board for the truth hehehe- got rid of that one though). Just keep being yourself really. I think it would be nice to call her at work to see how her day is going. It's always nice to get that sort of surprise. Maybe sneakily get the number and just call her out of the blue. Another nice thing could be to just show up at her work to take her to lunch. Chances are if she was treated poorly then she will respond very well to things which suggest that you will be around for the long haul. You'll really have to think hard and pay attention if you want to make her feel good. Does she like to read? Maybe find out her favorite author and buy her a book. Is her car's check engine light on? Maybe you could take it in to have it checked out for her.
I personally like to have hand made "gifts" such as a book shelf or a stool or a magazine rack. You know this girl better than any person who can give you suggestions. My suggestion is to take her own special needs and circumstances into account when you want to make her feel special. If you make it personal there is no way she'll wonder if you do this for every girl that you know.
Cuddling with her for a long time without making any sexual advances is probably also a good thing to do :)
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2004/09/01, 08:00 PM
Are you sure you two are talking about each other? :big_smile:
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Seeking out motivation does not motivate you to seek out results.
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2004/09/01, 11:05 PM
That was suppose to be, "Are you two sure you are not talking about each other?" I think I should go to bed.
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Seeking out motivation does not motivate you to seek out results.
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2004/09/02, 10:56 AM
hehe I don't think so cause I haven't cried yet in front of my guy, but if things don't work out I think I'll give clt a call :big_smile:
what a cutie pie clt is :love:
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2004/09/02, 11:26 AM
Hi clt:
I'm sure this is probably not want you want to hear, but I'll give you my advice anyways. I think the best thing you can do for your lady friend right now is to be a very good friend. Be there for her when she needs someone to talk to. Don't be concerned with wooing her at the moment, because if the two or you are meant to be, it will happen on it's own. Your lady friend is going through a divorce right? You need to give her plenty of space and time to put her life back together. I'm sure she's had her heart broken with the end of the marriage, so you need to give her time to heal. Trust me, the last thing you want to end up being is a rebound relationship.
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Quoting from clt:
hello, have not been around inquite sometime now,
i have been working on the HWY PATROL and just been busy,
over the past two months though i have been really trying to cut up, i am down form 205 and 8% BF to 195 and 6% BF
well anyways, this is what i need, i've been hanging out with this girl for about two weeks, she really great, the thing is she is going through a divorce, well that does not bother me at all, but i know she has been treated really bad, and she says that i have treated her like no one eles ever has, well i am just being me, the good ole' country boy i am. when i am with her i do not feel like i have to prove anything you know, its really cool. well anyways i was woundering form you ladies out there what kind of stuff makes you think, well this guys alright. i mean what kind of things could i do, now i don't mean flowers, whats something that would throw her off, and catch her off gaurd
and make her smile and brighten her day. any advice.
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2004/09/02, 11:26 AM
clt...I though you were going to Iraq?
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2004/09/03, 09:21 AM
i see, i have been doing that......i really have giving her space....i am not even pursuing her. in a way like that....
i just want to be there for her...thats all.....as far as iraq...read my post...well is been a while...since i posted but i am no longer in service......new job now
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2004/09/03, 12:50 PM
Glad to hear it....Good luck with the job and the lady.
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2004/09/10, 08:40 AM
things did not go so hot, with this one.....i belive i will
swear off wemon for a while least till i get myself figured out. i mean i am not sure what kind of person i am. i know this though my friend WILD TURKEY sure is comforting when my life is screwed up, which it always is. funny huh?
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2004/09/10, 08:59 AM
clt I guess I'm not sure what the problem is here. You met a nice lady who was in no way, shape, or form ready for any kind of relationship and now you are out of it. That sounds like a good thing to me.
Does the time we spend with someone have to be long-term or permanent to be viewed as a good thing?
You had fun, now get out there and hunt more chics who, with any luck at all will be gone from your life in a short time. The world is a big place and the more and varied women you spend your time with, the bigger and better your adventure is going to be. The sooner you learn that enjoying a woman's company for it's own sake can be done without the "benefit" of love and permanance, the happier you will be.
And stop the drinking, it's only delaying the pursuit of other women.
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Hard work must have killed somebody
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2004/09/10, 11:37 AM
yeah i know, i mean really i am still messed up over the other relationship i had for well lets see i am 20 so from 9th grade till a feww months ago i dated the same girl! you are right, i should only spend a short while.... and the thing that went wrong was her ex- he freaked out on me, we were just friends and they are seperated and getting divorced, i bailed cause that is not what i want in my life
she is great and all, but the last thing i need is problems you know?
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