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2005/04/13, 10:30 PM
I am trying to lose weight to boost confidence and a healthy life style. My only problem is I am getting no support from my hubby? He is military so he gets PT (physical training), I don't. So what did I do, I got a dog. Now, my dog is my work out buddy. It is working but I still would like some support from my hubby. :dumbbell:
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2005/04/14, 02:32 AM
We're always here for you, lorisims! Never hesitate to ask us anything.... :)
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Michael
Nothing personal.... Strictly business.
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2005/04/14, 05:46 AM
Definitely.....what kind of dog did you get?
Dogs are definitely a great way to make sure you get the needed cardiovascular exercise....plus they are awesome companions :).....
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2005/04/14, 11:33 AM
Lori, the best way to get a man's attention is to ignore him. Trust me. Go on about your workouts as though his support is simply something that never occured to you. Don't be mean or anything, just be happy and go about your business. Men do not like change which is probably why he isn't making overt supportive gestures.
As soon as he sees that you are happy and content to do this by yourself and don't need his support, he'll come around.
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Anni
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In my head, I am out of my mind....
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2005/04/14, 02:18 PM
Hi there, loricsims! Welcome to FreeTrainers! You just keep coming around and you will find the support is tremendously refreshing! As far as your hubby supporting you, it would be nice, wouldn't it?! And I'm sure that he will eventually if he is a decent guy, in the meantime you will find so much satisfaction within yourself by succeeding with your daily goals, so don't sell yourself short and the happiness you can gain from within! I think a lot of times our spouses may be amprehensive about saying anything or supporting us if they aren't sure if we are really serious, they hold back a bit to see, kind of test the waters. I'm sure once you get rolling and are full of energy and happiness with yourself he will be thrilled with your new healthy lifestyle! But, do it for yourself, because it will feel so exilarating to know you succeeded and his encouragement when it comes will just add to your enthusiasm!! :) Good luck to you and with your goals!
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Veda
MISERY IS OPTIONAL
***When you are up to your ears in trouble, try using the part that is not submerged.
***The difference between a dream and a goal is a plan.
HAVE A GREAT DAY!
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2005/04/14, 08:25 PM
loricsims,
Weclome to the site. Those 3 above are very supportive to all they talk to and knowledgable too. There is so much help here, keep coming back and also do some reading of past posts.
Mrs. Kathryn is absolutely right. You know why I'm here? Because my wife started first. She decided to get back into shape again after our second child. And, since I was 50% involved in creating that child, I wanted to help support her in her decision. And, I saw how excited she was about it. She also hinted to me she wanted to see the body I had when I was is better shape. So I gave in and started resistance training and cardio over here. I quit smoking, and eventually started seeing great results, and that renews my excitement about this. Once I redeploy, we're going to start a new improved healthy lifestyle combined w/ natural supplements and exercise together. Because I saw that she was really excited about something, it helped me.
He probably says he tired when he comes home from work and that MORE PT is not neccessarily on his agenda, I know the feeling. Just find things you can do together, like taking the dog and kids for a walk. Or on weekends go to the gym together and ask him to give you pointers and tips. All guys LOVE to show off their knowledge about lifting weights. Then, tell him you really enjoyed him going with you, and you really want to start looking good for him and you want his help. I think most men would never turn down a request for help from our ladies who are trying to look better for us. And, that's also what I'm trying to do for my lady.
So good luck on your goals, and let me know if this helps!
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Josh Hollers
hollers2@freetrainers.com
-We get out of life what we put into it. Be thankful we've been given alot more than we deserve.
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2005/04/14, 10:19 PM
Well , looks like you got all the motivation and help you asked for. This is the best place for your support as you can see.
Good luck to you and your husband.
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Scales are for dead weight: We are not dead yet!
Still trying to find out how to do the Hollywood Free Press.
Ivan
Montreal Canada
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2005/04/18, 10:13 PM
Hiya Lori! I don't get much support from my hubby either. This board is great and as you have already seen from the above posters, great for support on your fitness journey. Hang in there girl!
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2005/04/19, 05:48 AM
Wow Thanks guys. By the way, menance, I have a four to five month old black Lab.
PS I HAVE LOST 10 POUNDS WOOOWHO!!
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2005/04/19, 10:41 AM
Keep it up!!!!!
Have you discussed how you feel with your husband?
Some of the best dogs I have ever had were black labs! They are so smart and easy going and loyal. i miss my George, the lab i had in my teens and early 20's. i could take that dog anywhere with me, he was my constant companion!
Well, I am late to this [post - but welcome to ft and I think you will find that we all try to motivate each other!!!!
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2005/04/22, 11:47 AM
Thanks for the support guys!
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2005/04/22, 01:40 PM
Way to go!
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2005/04/22, 07:32 PM
Woo hoo, loricsims! Way to go on the weight drop! Atta girl!
:big_smile:
Don't worry about the support - you're gonna knock his sox off with or without it!
My hubby is becoming more supportive, I don't know about the other gals on here but I completely confess to being partially to blame. Seriously. I wonder how many times he's had to listen to me discuss my personal dissatisfaction with my self... I know at least once or twice I complained and then "made my self feel better" bu eating something completely self defeating!
My hubby's a patient man and the harder I work (and the less I complain) the more supportive I've become!
Don't get me wrong - I'm not at all saying anyone else is like that - I just know that was where some of my hubby disinterest stemmed from. Personal story only!!
:)
Anyhow - keep up the good work, loricsims.
I'm here for ya!
:love:
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2005/04/24, 01:20 AM
Artemis thats been the truth in my life as well
Lori I love labs! I had a yellow lab when I was a kid, they are great campanions. Congrats on your 10lb loss!
My husbands U.S.M.C., so I feel your situation....
He never seemed to care what I did at the gym before, but then I realised how much I verbaly put myself down and I changed my mentality and behavior
Now that he's in Iraq I email him my workout log at the end of each week and he gives me tips for improvement. It gives him a visual of exactly what I'm doing and my commitment to progress.
(He's actually starting to tell me about his gains! this could go somewhere..)
Don't lose hope girl.
sorry for the late responce, definately here for you from now on tho!
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Life is hard: No-one makes it out alive.
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2005/05/01, 09:21 AM
Wow Thanks!
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There is only one way... to get anybody to do anything. And that is by making the other person want to do it.
Dale Carnegie 1888-1955, American Author, Trainer
\\"Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.\\"
Jim Rohn
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