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2005/08/28, 07:24 PM
I am just getting started myself. I want to know how to stay motivated with 2 children and a husband who isnt exactly sopportve.
My husband works opposite shifts then me. He goes to work when I am getting home. When I tell him that I am going to start a program and get fit and "skinny" he says " whatever". I want to prove him wrong. But how do I keep going?
We have been together for 17 years and I was very fit and when we have friends over and pictures come out they say wow you WERE so beutiful and skinny! No wonder you married her. He then chuckles and says yeah was.
I want this for myself and my children but on the other hand want to show him that I can do it.
Just need the know how!
kerrie :(
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2005/10/19, 02:05 AM
Honestly I know how you feel. I said that so many times to my friends and family that they don't even believe me any more. This time I have decided to keep it almost a secret. I mention nothing when I eat and I work out only when I'm alone. Because I'm gonna prove everyone wrong. My mother always told me "once you get married you can't let yourself go. You need to always find sneaky little ways to keep him attracted to you" -(So corny, I know) So I want to be the woman who changes her self and keeps it like a secret, to suprise everyone. If you need someone to talk with let me know cause I could also always use the encouragement too.
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2005/10/19, 07:47 AM
Sticking with it becomes much easier when you're doing it for yourself and not for anyone else. Try writing in a journal, it always helps me when I don't feel like doing my routine, and don't go crazy. If you can't do a whole routine, don't beat yourself up about it, remember; Anything is better than Nothing.
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2005/10/19, 11:46 AM
32 years old......and your screenname has "milf" in it......I can't give you serious advise with a name that childish........makes me think you faking it for the attention.
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Friends don't let friends squat high...
People don't reach thier true potental, only those who seek it.
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2005/10/20, 03:39 AM
yea...I was pondering that point as well Andrew...wasn't particularly sure of how she wanted to be perceived/received with that kind of a SN.....
you met your husband at 15? Also wondering if there are self esteem issues when your husband can say 'WERE' beautiful in front of your friends....and have it slide.....I don't care if you weigh 300lb....your husband of 17 years should not be able to say that....and I would think he should be more supportive....
'whatever' is a sign of indifference..it's usualyl said when you're tired of hearing same $hit over and over again....if you indeed want to show him then do some with your actions not with your words....
healthy lifestyle is a devotion...transforming your body won't happen overnight...I'd say if you got 50lb to lose give yourself 2 years....which is enough time to learn healthy cooking/eating/exercising habits.....learn proper workout routines, etc....plus it shows that you're serious....and it assures no YOYO dieting....start reading fitness magazines for nutrition and exercise tips....read forum....books....etc....when your husband sees your new devotion...you'll earn some of his respect for your dedication....
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2005/11/01, 04:19 PM
Wow..guys. As a woman, wife, mother of 4, business owner and competitve bodybuilder life is truly our own perception. We all come from a different set of rules and ideas. I say we are ready when the pain gets bad enough, and yes we have to want to change for ourselves and not someone or something else. I suggest to start slow, yes get educated and just stay consistant no matter what. I make time for myself every morning 6-8am which gets my day started with a positive outlook and self gratication. I then can give back to the world the positive attitude I just infused myself with. We get what we give in the world. To thine own self be true.
A smile goes along way.
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