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bank11 Posts: 2 Joined: 2006/06/13	2006/06/14, 12:07 AM Hey, I currently live with my partner, we have been living together for a few years. He works about 40 hours a week, however his shifts do not always start at the same time, and his schedual varies week to week, and never works past midnight. I am frustrated because he never wants to get out and be active, even if i suggest we do something together. He is only happy if he is sitting on the couch infront of the TV. He will watch several hours of TV a day, however he is not at all overweight. When i ask him to come out and join me in some kind of activity, he complains about how he is to tired from working and wants to relax. I understand every person needs their quiet time, however several hours of TV is a little extreme. We have very limited money to go out and do different things, which is also his excuse. How do I convince my boyfriend, to get out and be active with me, and spend time with me without the TV?

mysticgraces Posts: 422 Joined: 2006/02/21	2006/06/14, 07:06 AM Its gonna be hard..my husband is the same way..and after 9 years nothing has changed..I did bug him about it alot,but he just learned to tune me out...but now that we have a big property he has no choice but to go out and do lawn work etc...He now walks the dog with me,goes to the park with the kids,but he still spends the majority of his time on the pc or watching tv Bugging him will only make him resentful,you need to sit down and talk to him about how you would like some time with him doing stuff..and it just happens that most of it is outdoors.
Yxven Posts: 76 Joined: 2004/09/05	2006/06/14, 03:40 PM Is the goal to be active or be with you? He doesn't sound particularly unhealthy, and it doesn't sound like athletic things are his bag. Have you tried doing relaxing things together? Like: board/card games pool darts karaoke making goofy movies together arts and crafts All of those are relatively cheap, interactive, and can be quite fun.
slorbets Posts: 205 Joined: 2006/04/07	2006/06/14, 03:55 PM my man is the exact same...he will watch tv for hours and hours. He is not overweight, he is in decent shape, however he is traning to become a cop. He says the same thing about working to much and being to tired to do things. I would never break up with my boyfriend,:love: but it kinda reminds me of the new movie "the break up" where the man only wants to watch tv and pays less attention to the girlfriend!
bank11 Posts: 2 Joined: 2006/06/13	2006/06/14, 08:30 PM I have spoken with him before about how it is ok to watch tv in moderation, but I would like time that we could spend together as a couple doing anything that does not require sitting on our a$$es all day. I ask him what HE would like to do together, other than TV, however that seems to much of a hassle to him. mysticgraces...u make a good point, once you own a home, have kids, and pets, there are other responsibilites that need to be taken care of. I am sure my partner will do his part in those type of responsibilites when we get to that point in our lives. What is with some guys? Why can't they be somewhat attentive to their women? :laugh::laugh::laugh:
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2006/06/14, 11:04 PM Some people take things for granted and think thier partner is there for one thing only! Good luck and hope things change for you. -------------- Scales are for dead weight: We are not dead yet! Still trying to find out how to do the Hollywood Free Press. Ivan Montreal Canada
slorbets Posts: 205 Joined: 2006/04/07	2006/06/17, 07:07 PM Women want their men to be more attentive to them and listen to them.... And men are wishing their women would have more sex with them. At times, men and women want different things I guess:surprised: ============ Quoting from bank11: What is with some guys? Why can't they be somewhat attentive to their women? :laugh::laugh::laugh: =============
lornam6532 Posts: 9 Joined: 2006/06/18	2006/06/19, 05:08 PM I am just going to jump in on this conversation. My husband and I have been together for a little over 7 years. I love him to pieces and would never trade him. But he drives me crazy. He is a state trooper, and the only income we have is from his work.....thus being said, he thinks all he has to do is go to work and provide for us (my son and I.) He schedule changes day to day and week to week, when he is home he is either sleeping or in front of the TV. He is in better shape then I am and he doesn't even try! He is 50 lbs lighter than I am (how embarassing.) But when I want something we usually go about it like null, the win/win situation. He usually wants sex and I usually want the trash to be emptied or dog to be fed, so I always tease him about how I lose because he gets more out of it than I do. But in the end we are both happy and that is all that matters. Good luck to you :big_smile: !!
slorbets Posts: 205 Joined: 2006/04/07	2006/06/19, 06:45 PM lornam6532....your husband sounds just like mine, constant schedual changes, and loves sleep and tv. I get to the gym regularly, and enjoy being active, and just like you, my boyfriend seems to be in better shape than me!! What is with that? null, that is a good idea, i am thinking it might be wise to take the television out of the bedroom, so that when we go to bed at night, instead of him wanting to watch tv, we can spend time communicating and spending some quality time together before bed.
Yxven Posts: 76 Joined: 2004/09/05	2006/06/20, 05:05 PM It shouldn't be hard to convince him to move the tv. http://behavioralhealth.typepad.com/markhams_behavioral_healt/2006/01/tv_in_the_bedro.html
slorbets Posts: 205 Joined: 2006/04/07	2006/06/20, 08:58 PM HAHA yxven, you got a good point. All u gotta say is "honey, i think it would be a good idea to move the tv outta the bedroom, if we get rid of the tv, there will be more time for sex." I cant see any man turning that down.:laugh:
	2006/06/21, 06:03 AM lol...be careful....he might chuck that tv out the window out of impulse if he hears that....LOL...
slorbets Posts: 205 Joined: 2006/04/07	2006/06/22, 09:54 PM haha menace3000, your funny. We got rid of the tv in our bedroom...so far so good!
sivysivy Posts: 391 Joined: 2005/02/11	2006/06/26, 12:19 AM I think it is kind of sad these days how people spend hours and hours in front of the television instead of living life. My husband does the same thing-- I can't even sit in the same room as him because the TV is loud and I don't want to watch the same thing over and over again.
	2006/06/26, 04:00 PM I'm so glad I'm old ,married forever and have mine properly trained... What dear? Yes,I'm coming...right now SORRY.I'mlogging off now. -------------- Sometimes life is like herding cats. Charlie
slorbets Posts: 205 Joined: 2006/04/07	2006/06/26, 07:23 PM sivysivy i feel the same as you! My partner watches so much TV and movies. I never watched much TV growing up so I never really cared for it. But having my partner watch it constantly i feel is starting to ruin our relationship, and I now have a passionate "hate" for TVs:laugh: