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houseofdiet Posts: 161 Joined: 2003/01/07	2003/01/20, 08:34 PM why is it when you are first with a person they are so agreeable and lead you to believe that they are at least somewhat interested in the same things that you are and then everything changes?! GRRRRRRR! :[ The man is not being very supportive of the excersise thing... and he really should be especially since he himself could use some. Don't get me wrong he is doing a great job on the diet aspect and I am very proud of him but he could at least be a little more supportive of my excersise. I have different goals right now because I want to be a healthier person , but don't need to loose any weight like he does. Thanks to all wo read my ravings. I do love my husband ( I wouldn't have married him if I didn't) but He can just be so frustrating sometimes. :)
Philia2 Posts: 4,078 Joined: 2001/10/19	2003/01/21, 01:58 AM Don't worry a lot of people know that one as well, me too. My husband is okey today, he doesn't say anything any longer but uuuuuuhhhhhh I wish he could be more serious about the training. Give him some time, when he'll notice the results maybe he'll change!! (or maybe he's afraid of you getting too goodlooking to other men?!!....) -------------- - Nina :o) Les Victoires éternelles sont celles du coeur.
sandysford Posts: 1,139 Joined: 2002/11/18	2003/01/21, 02:20 PM Rave on houseofdiet, we all need to vent sometimes. -------------- I will lift my own weight someday!!!!!
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2003/01/21, 04:58 PM Marriage is a partnership whith peaks and valleys, you will reach a peak soon! Don't worry about it, and if ranting and raving here makes you feel good, we are here! -------------- The trouble with jogging is that, by the time you realize you are not in shape for it, it is too far to walk back! Franklin P. Jones Ivan Montreal Canada
houseofdiet Posts: 161 Joined: 2003/01/07	2003/01/21, 05:54 PM Thnaks for 'listening' like I said, I really do love him but sometimes just gotta get it out. :) I'm so glad that you are all here and that you are all so very supportive! :)
CarolinaChick Posts: 51 Joined: 2003/01/07	2003/01/21, 07:35 PM When my husband first started noticing the changes I was making he got a lil' jealous too, the worse was when I told him I wanted to compete. I thought he was gonna loose it. But it wasn't long before he got back into the swing of things and we did it together. Now we have pose downs in the kitchen and fuss about who's bigger. (Of-course, he wins every time, considering he's up 125 lbs from me. Try to make it into a hobby for the both of you, something you can do together. Good luck!
houseofdiet Posts: 161 Joined: 2003/01/07	2003/01/21, 10:04 PM lol =) Thanks! carolinachick great post I hope that the man and I will look back on this little "tiff" and laugh as well... We usually do. Thnaks for the encouragement
houseofdiet Posts: 161 Joined: 2003/01/07	2003/01/22, 06:02 PM UPDATE! The man just came in while I was working out and told me he was proud of me for sticking with this! =)
CarolinaChick Posts: 51 Joined: 2003/01/07	2003/01/22, 06:30 PM See there!!! Sometimes it just takes them a lil' while to get use to the new sexier you. before long he'll wanna join you.
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2003/01/22, 08:45 PM Next week he'll (is that a word?) be coaching you!! Enjoy! -------------- The trouble with jogging is that, by the time you realize you are not in shape for it, it is too far to walk back! Franklin P. Jones Ivan Montreal Canada
houseofdiet Posts: 161 Joined: 2003/01/07	2003/01/22, 09:46 PM carivan yes he'll is a word it is the contraction form of "he" and "will" though it is not typically used in formal writing. Sorry, that's the teacher in me... =)
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2003/01/22, 10:32 PM Thats why I asked! lol As unacustomed that I am to public speaking! BLA bla bla bla.! -------------- The trouble with jogging is that, by the time you realize you are not in shape for it, it is too far to walk back! Franklin P. Jones Ivan Montreal Canada
Philia2 Posts: 4,078 Joined: 2001/10/19	2003/01/23, 02:20 AM ============ Quoting from houseofdiet: carivan yes he'll is a word it is the contraction form of "he" and "will" though it is not typically used in formal writing. Sorry, that's the teacher in me... =) ============= Oh lol that's good for me to know!!!! Teach me some more English please!! (o; Seriously, I'm happy to hear that hubby changed his mind. Yes maybe hE Will join you soon! -------------- - Nina :o) Les Victoires éternelles sont celles du coeur.
CarolinaChick Posts: 51 Joined: 2003/01/07	2003/01/24, 01:07 PM Sorry for throwing ya off there carivan, I didn't realize this was a formal board. *wink*
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2003/01/24, 04:18 PM you know what Carolinachick, I just realised you used the same word! LOL I just caught on now! Gues we both speak the same lingo eh? ;) -------------- Nothing is too small to know, and nothing is too big to attempt! Ivan Montreal Canada
jsantilli Posts: 1 Joined: 2006/11/30	2006/11/30, 10:44 AM ok so I feel you, my problem is my husband is so fit it's sick, when we met I was a size 4, then one day I woke up fat. I know I'm over weight but he insists that I haven't gained that much weight (now a size 15) and it makes me feel that he's lying in turn trust is gone if I'm not attracted to me I know he isn't. and the sex life has gone down hill, only due to my insecuritys what to do?
jmknippel Posts: 170 Joined: 2006/02/21	2006/11/30, 10:52 AM LOL - this post is like almost 4 years old...
KC_72 Posts: 3,249 Joined: 2006/05/19	2006/11/30, 10:55 AM Sounds like you need to work on your insecurities...just because YOU don't like YOU doesn't mean your husband doesn't like you...you may feel you're big and not attractive...but your husband apperantly doesn't...for now...you keep harping to him that you're over weight...and he'll believe it too sooner than you may want......get a plan together to find the happier healthier you...
mikencharleston Posts: 1,585 Joined: 2002/01/09	2006/11/30, 11:22 AM I must have popped into the wrong forum accidentally. :) I'm not a Dr Laura fan but a lady friend of mine was having a similar situation and picked up "The Care and Feeding of a Husband" (I think that's the title - at least close) that she wrote. Evidently it made a major change in her life.
KC_72 Posts: 3,249 Joined: 2006/05/19	2006/11/30, 11:25 AM yeah Mike....you "accidentally" popped in....OK sugar...we'll go with that...
gangstershoes Posts: 641 Joined: 2005/05/27	2006/11/30, 02:48 PM a size 15 confident woman can be more attractive than a size 3 woman that is hung up on her insecurities.
KC_72 Posts: 3,249 Joined: 2006/05/19	2006/11/30, 02:59 PM That should be set in stone...it's so true....
jmknippel Posts: 170 Joined: 2006/02/21	2006/11/30, 03:04 PM I agree!!!!:) I work with a very attractive slim gal, whom is about 10 years younger than me that is just a @!#$?! She won't even look me in the eye when passing int he hallway or whatever, never says good morning, you all know the kind..All the guys here think she is unattractive just for that reason.
yadmit Posts: 4,670 Joined: 2003/10/05	2006/11/30, 03:32 PM Your hottness factor is directly proportionate to your personality. -------------- I see the words you\\'re typing, but all I read is *click*click*click* Be here. Live. Love. Hope. Now. Faith. Believe. You. - Keith Urban They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself. - Andy Warhol
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2006/11/30, 10:05 PM Agree big time with Gangstershoes! -------------- A little discipline at the table and at the gym might help reduce that belly! Ivan Montreal Canada (City of Festivals)
asimmer Posts: 8,201 Joined: 2003/01/07	2006/12/01, 12:00 AM I :love: gangstershoes... I know, I am added to the harem.:) as far as the post topic - you have to like yourself for people to like you. It really is that simple. if you are happy and confident, it will attract happy and confident people. Umm, unless they are happily married and have beautiful babies already, then you can just make comments online because you know it will never go anywhere, right gangstershoes...?:cool: -------------- Perseverance is not a long race it is many short races one after another. Walter Elliott
Ravenbeauty Posts: 3,755 Joined: 2002/09/24	2006/12/01, 01:32 AM I am big, not as big as I was, but not as little as i was either and I still get guys telling me i'm pretty, beautiful, etc....so they are a little mentally challenged but who needs to know that right? LOL..just kidding. I do believe though that it is a big reflection on how you see yourself..for a while there I nicknamed myself "little fat bastard" lol! But I got over it and accepted myself as I was, loved myself and now I am much better and happier, no matter what place I am in.. keep your chin up and don't forget to compliment that reflection in the mirror once in a while. -------------- Bettia.... You can't depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus. -Mark Twain ravenbeauty@freetrainers.com
gangstershoes Posts: 641 Joined: 2005/05/27	2006/12/01, 04:03 PM She loves me....... SHE LOVES ME (big smile on face) on spot with your analysis btw. ============ Quoting from asimmer: I :love: gangstershoes... I know, I am added to the harem.:) as far as the post topic - you have to like yourself for people to like you. It really is that simple. if you are happy and confident, it will attract happy and confident people. Umm, unless they are happily married and have beautiful babies already, then you can just make comments online because you know it will never go anywhere, right gangstershoes...?:cool: =============
conan_0822 Posts: 441 Joined: 2006/11/23	2006/12/06, 06:18 AM ============ Quoting from houseofdiet: UPDATE! The man just came in while I was working out and told me he was proud of me for sticking with this! =) ============= I bet he hacked your account and saw your post :) My wife and I started doing cardio together. She'll push me on certain parts and I'll push her. After showing her some posts here about lean muscle burning fat, I've even got her lifting weights with me now!
mindi1717 Posts: 7 Joined: 2006/12/26	2006/12/28, 04:04 PM men are different , just accept it. If he doesn't show his support,doesn't mean he's not approving what'ya doing, maybe he's just lazy , want a pretty sexy lady without bothering himself about the details, but he loves you ,indeed