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2005/05/22, 07:04 PM
People say that I'm not fat, but I know that they are lying to me. I mean, they see me w/clothes on not off, and I know that I'm fat. I've gotten to a rutt right now, none of my friends will speak to me, and all I've been doing is eating. I use to play basketball, but the team was cut due to money issues. For two months I've basically been staying home and eating, but I've reached a point where I NEED to get over myself and fix my weight problem. I just feel really depressed right now, it must change. Here's the basic info-
Height-5'5"
Weight- 122.5
I'm not really sure on how to do the measurements correctly, so here it goes...
lower waist-34
measure at navel- 31 1/2
upper waist??- 26
breast- 32 1/2
arms-10
& thighs are 19 in.
So there's my measurements, now I feel like shit. I need to lose this weight fast before I lose it. So please if anyone can leave me an exercise routine( I have a treadmill and wieght machine at home) or a diet, it would mean so much to me. I'm completely out of shape, so whatever you suggest, start off small. Thanks everyone who read, and those of you who will give advice. Also, E-mail b/c It'll be a while b4 I get back on. I can check my e-mail w/my cell.
-Emy
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2005/05/22, 11:54 PM
so your 32-26-34 and 122.5 pounds, and you think your fat. Your friends tell your you are not, and you think they are lying? Sounds to me like your not overweight, just overly self conscious. Dieting and exercise can be a great part of a healthy lifestyle, and i highly recommend it, but try not to be so hard on yourself.
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2005/05/23, 07:43 AM
I think a bigger issue is self esteem and possible depressive symptoms...I suggest you go speak with a doctor/psychiatrist/counselor.....your weight is perfectly healthy for your height/age/gender....
so your bball team got shut down? did the world come to an end? go to a playground and shoot hoops...go to a neighborhood rec and get into a pick up game...go running, cycling, etc...
go weight train....there are plenty of things to do....no need to sit home and feel sorry for yourself(don't take this negatively).....
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2005/05/23, 08:29 PM
122.5 at 5'5" is NOT fat.
I agree that you may need to take a little time to seek out the root of this issue. Your friends may not be talking to you out of frustration if you're adamant with them that 1 - you're fat, and 2 - they're lying. Your friends love you but they can be pushed away if you try hard enough...
Wrestler is right - you need to not be so hard on yourself.
Menace is right - it may be in your best interest to seek some assistance. Often having a third party who is uninvolved in your life to vent to is a good thing. It is a great way to gain a little insight into yourself. Although as the saying goes - you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. If you're not ready to look into what is really troubling you then it won't do any good. You have to want to figure things out.
Wishing you all the best.
E
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2005/05/23, 10:23 PM
My friends won'talk to me b/c I complain about my weight, it's more of something that I've done. I believe I only brought up the issue once or twice when we were changing. I usually keep things to myself...I live in an extremely small town, the only court we have is at the school, and it's been closed down. I don't know how to ride a bike and I don't really want to learn, scared I guess.
I've actually talked to the school counseler a couple times, and I will never do that again, she went straight to my mother with my little "problem." Keep in mind the problem is a gay problem, so that sucks. I live in a family where all of my sister are atleast 5'7" and 115 pounds, guess I got the bad genes, so it's hard to have that in your face all the time...
I talked to the weightlifting coach at school who is also a boxing trainer, he said he's going to train me for free this Summer, so that's a good thing. I've got something to look forward to : )
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2005/05/24, 03:55 AM
I am 5'0 and I USED to weigh 100 pounds. I complained about my weight so much that my friends couldn't deal with it. I would even starve myself. About a year ago, I got married and gained a tremendous amount of weight. Now I know what it really feels like to be FAT!! I would give anything to be 100 pounds again. I am only 17, and my figure is lost. If you complain and worry about your weigh too much, you will get fat. By the way I am 5'0 and 141 pounds. Be greatful...
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2005/05/24, 09:03 AM
I think everyone here has given you great advice. You have to stop comparing yourself to your siblings, that will never get you anywhere.
It sounds like you are not happy with yourself at all, so you live in a small town, so did I growing up. So your gay, big deal.. When you live a lifestyle that some people don't agree with (even family) you have to be strong to deal with how others perceive you. I know that seems very unfair but this world is not a fair place to live in.
Small towns suck I know this for a fact, everyone knows exactly what you did at 12pm or 12am and they generally have an opinion about it (right or wrong).
I am getting from your post that possibly your friends don't want to accept you for who you are. Then they are not really your friends. Your true friends will stand by you no matter what. When I was growing up I had 3 friends in high school none before that because of how the people in the town perceived my family (poor, acoholic, abusive parents) But those 3 friends stood by me and never let anyone get me down unless I let myself down.
When I got out in the real world I found out generally people did not judge you the way kids in school did or some of the adults.
Hold on to your self esteem, get counseling if you need it. Teenage years are the hardest they will ever be, because kids can be the cruelest people you will ever come across. Now for a little homework...
Every morning when you get up look in the mirror and say
I love myself
I am worth whatever it takes to succeed in life
I am a wonderful, caring and loving person
do this whenever you can through out the day and do it every single day for at least a month. It is amazing what this can and will do for you...A word of warning only do this if you have low self-esteem as you may end up with a terribly huge ego:big_smile:
Good luck and keep posting, we all are here because we needed to start somewhere.
Leslie
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2005/05/24, 09:09 AM
Ok here I go again. You don't need to lose weight but you might need to firm up what can still be flabby areas. I am 5'3" and 113lbs but when you just have flab you may think you are fat. Not true you just need to do some weightlifting and cardio and watch your diet to get a really beautiful body. A nice firm body looks so much better than a skinny, flabby body.
Of course I don't have a beautiful body yet but I sure am working at it.
and again you don't need to lose weight. Sign up for the free workouts, read through the descriptions and find the one that works for you. You do not need the one to lose weight.....
Leslie
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2005/05/24, 10:57 AM
krystal_reeves- you got married when you were 16! yeeks! Kinda young, you think?
I thought I married young at 19..... but I divorced at 22 so I knew I was too young :)
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2005/05/24, 11:56 AM
leslieherr~ I don't think she was saying that being gay was her problem. She was saying that her problem with her weight was gay (ie. stupid) Just wanted to make sure everyone was on the same page.
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2005/05/24, 01:27 PM
are you sure cristal? She is a female... her screen name is Ikissgirls.... ? :cool: maybe she is gay.. (if you arent ikissgirls many apologies)
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2005/05/24, 03:38 PM
ikissgirls-
my sincere apologies if I am wrong on what you were saying about "gay problem". I did not mean to offend anyone least of all someone looking for help.
Leslie
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2005/05/24, 07:00 PM
Gay=Homosexual
Cleared up??
My friends all know that I'm gay, they have known since the eighth, so that's not why they're pissed at me.
True, living in a small town like mine, you are going to be hit w/the essentials: rednecks, Jesus freaks, white caps, and the truth messengers(srry if I offended you). I don't really care what people think about me being gay b/c that is something that I can't change. It's their problem, not mine.
But at the other end is my appearance, something that I've neglect, something I can maintain and change but yet lately haven't. I use to be on top of everything, but these last couple of months have been hell, and I'm ready to get over it now. I have the motivation, I just have to find it, lol. I guess, everything just hit me at once, I use to be very much in shape (exercised regularly) and for me to let myself go like this has just brought me down. This Sat. I have my first training session, hope all goes well, it'll be something new. Something good.
Thanx everyone, for your thoughts, ideas, and advice.
I'll be sure to keep you all posted if you(all) care.
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2005/05/24, 08:56 PM
Hello,
Yes please keep us posted. Its great that you have decided to get over what ever was bringing you down. Motivation is a good thing that all of us lack at some point in our lives. Stay motivated and you will go far.
This post sounds much more positive than your previous I think we were all a little concerned about your health and you as a person not just someone posting a message.
Oh don't worry about offending me I have pretty thick skin, comes from growing up in a small town LOL
Leslie
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2005/05/26, 02:35 PM
Kiss~
Sorry...I read that entire line of your post the wrong way, but I am glad that you cleared us all up so no one was confused as to what you meant.
I hope your training session goes well, and please do keep up posted as to how you are doing! :big_smile:
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2005/05/26, 02:57 PM
:) Glad to hear that your doing better then you were, and that your starting a training session. I hope that goes well for you. About your weight, to me it sounds like you just have low self esteem. I'm not labeling you, I have manic depression and bipolar, so by no means is "low self esteem" meant in a derogitory sense. People who have low self esteem often think that they are fat. Many people on this board know this about me but some dont so I'll say it. For example, when I was 11 years old I was Meth addict. When I was 14 years old I was 5 '10 and weighed 90lbs. Believe it or not I thought I was fat, therefore I became bulemic (possibly misspelled). Everyone said I looked like death, but I thought I was fat. I got down to 85lbs then my parents finally put me in a rehab so I would gain weight. The reason I thought I was fat was because of my depression and bipolar problem. Now I am 5 '10 and weigh 185lb, and I know that I'm not fat. I've been put on medications that have helped my depression and bipolar problem, I don't use any drugs anymore. Since then, my self esteem got a little higher and I knew that the only reason I thought I was fat was because of my depression.
Everyone has some depression in their life, there is no "always happy" person. Perhaps you got in one and that's what caused you thinking you were fat. By all means if you want to get in better shape do so. I think weight lifting/physical training is one of the most therapuetic things you can do. When your body is in a good state, you are more likely to be able to be content with yourself (Not saying that overweight people are always depressed, just saying that if your healthy it's easier to be content). I hope everything turns out well for you, keep us posted, we'd love to hear how things turn out for you. :) Take care.
-Derek
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2005/05/27, 05:41 AM
*sbroyhill*
I am sorry about your divorce and yes I do agree I got married way too early but it wasn't a mistake. I was just trying to help someone out with a little advice. I don't need to be reminded that I got married young, I know. Oh, I hope you didn't take that the wrong way. I am not trying to be mean or rude or anything.
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2005/06/08, 02:35 PM
For the update.
I have training sessions Friday through Tuesday and I feel like I'm going to fall to pieces. I hate running so I'm now doing an eighteen mile bike ride from and to work on the days that I'm not training. He has me lifting weights and I can already see a difference, I've lost 6.2 pounds and I'm starting to tighten up, esp. in my arms! I can honestly say that I have bigger biceps than my step-dad,lol.
I have my first real sparring match with this guy on Sat. I'm excited! The only problem I've been having is w/my mother, who thinks it's strictly a man's sport, she's on my case as soon as I step in the door. It's okay I usually block her out once I come home. Oh, my coach had me mow is lawn(front and back) Sunday, I'm not sure if that was for the workout or for free labor.
Any ways, I'll get back later and tell you how well I do on Sat. Thanks.
-Emy
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2005/06/08, 04:50 PM
Emy-
Thanks for the update. Sounds like you are doing fantastic. Sounds like your coach is pretty smarting sneaking in some free lawn care:laugh:
Yeah, moms can be something else. Mine was praying for me for almost my entire life, she finally quit(I think) a few years ago.
Bike ride 18 miles, thats more than I can even dream about.
Like I said you are doing great and just keep it up, are you boxing? I always thought that I would like the training part of it but not the actual boxing. To vain I guess:)
Leslie
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2005/06/09, 12:25 AM
good job...boxing/kick boxing is a good cardio workout and teaches you self-defense...
headphones/players do wonders are blocking people out....and sending them the message to leave you alone....
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2005/06/09, 12:26 AM
are=at
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2005/06/09, 04:20 PM
Tell your coach he's been watching too much Karate Kid..."wax on, wax off".
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2005/06/09, 08:13 PM
lol....for sure....
just draw the line at painting his house...lol
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2005/06/17, 01:23 AM
I don't know how much I lost anymore wieght being that my mom took away my scale, I was over obsessing. What ever.
Saturday was great, I was actually not bad...for a beginner I did quite well. He said in a month if I keep improving that he might sign me up for the tournment in Miami...gives me something to look forward to. I did get a busted brow and my mother about died right there in the kitchen. I think everything will get better for her, I hope.
I refuse to do anymore work around the house for him. He said he was joking when he told me to mow his lawn, but then he saw me take ignition and went with it. lol
I've lost a lot of weight I can tell, but I can't show you b/c I don't know how to upload pics on this site. oh well
There's a little update. Sorry, I'm rushing, I'm so tired and want to pass out right here in the chair. I guess I'll get back next week.
-Emy
p.s. I've been riding a bus to work lately b/c I've developed really bad bruising from the bike seat. What can I do about that?
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2005/06/17, 04:07 AM
get another more comfortable seat from a bike shop...go and choose one...sit one it...etc...make sure it suits you....
I am glad to hear of your progress....keep it up
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2005/06/17, 09:31 AM
Emy,
They have all sorts of seats available now. When my husband was cycling he like the gel insert seats.
On the pictures, go to ft profile and inbox and then view your personnel showcase gallery. From there you can upload pictures. If that doesn't work e-mail them to george and include your ft member name or he won't know where to put the pictures.
You can find george's e-mail address in several places on here.
Sounds like you are doing fantastic, and don't obsess over your weight. The mirror does just fine:big_smile:
Leslie
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2005/06/17, 10:24 AM
george@freetrainers.com
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2005/06/17, 10:36 AM
I am 14 and i weigh more then most men who are like 20
do you know how that feels. But it is not like i dont exercise and eat right because i do , but nothing ever changes. I hate going to school because i know when people first see me all they see is big fat girl coming down the hallway. any advice:(
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2005/06/17, 03:54 PM
Hello homeyg,
Sounds like you need to clean up your diet and maybe do more exercises, cardio and strength training.
Your profile says you love to cook, there are tons of recipes for cooking low fat, etc. Take a look around and you will find them.
One place to check out is the Specific Diets & Nutrition Discussion - also Recipes! catagory on this message board.
Also check out grocery list for healthy eating in the same category.
School is tough for most people, to heavy, not popular, etc...I can go on and on. In fact when I was in school the guys always had some nice names for me, like dog. I wasn't heavy and my looks haven't changed, just from a very poor family. Guess I showed them, by growing up. The main thing was I never changed who I was, but boy did they want to date me after high school. LOL To bad to sad for them.
What I'm trying to say, is don't let anyone get you down. Keep your head up and don't get caught up in the emotional eating, etc. Thats just defeating the purpose and doesn't change anything for you.
It's all hard but I know you can do it or you wouldn't be here.
good luck,
Leslie
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2005/06/24, 03:14 PM
I have yet to get a bike seat, have no time. But I'm running my ass off, literally! I'm joining this Summer league for basketball, so I won't be able to do that much training for Miami, but I love to play basketball. I'll still continue to do atleast two training sessions with coach though.
I'll do the pictures later tonight if I get back on :)
homeyg- are you the one who wrote me?
-Emy
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2005/08/10, 12:53 PM
lmfaoo..5'5 and 122 is not heavy..thats like average id say.:surprised:
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2006/02/05, 04:14 PM
Look, you are not fat at all! Im your height and i weight alittle bit less than you, but i want to be atleats 120. You should be happy that you have some cushion! I bet you just have a low self-esteem. Don't worry about it! Buy one of those waist trimmers and do cardio, you sweat like crazy!!! :big_smile:
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2006/02/06, 11:03 AM
theroxy818 sweating like crazy (with a waist trimmer sauna belt)does not equal fat loss...it gives you water weight loss as your body becomes dehydrated....as soon as you drink some water to replenish your fluids your weight will return. Yes, cardio will promote weight loss but don't forget to include resistance training to to improve your metabolism with added muscle.
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