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shapelyldy Posts: 5 Joined: 2005/03/18	2005/05/18, 10:50 AM i just don't get some men, i've been with my live-in boyfriend for 4yrs now and sometimes i wonder why i stayed this long, he's always putting me down about my weight, i'v e gained alot of weight since i first met him, but he's always been real picky of a woman's weight, he's always telling me how he wants to find a woman in shape and has some derogitory names he calls me, well, i had started working out, but i find myself now not wanting to work out just to show him he's not going to control me because i feel that's what he's trying to do, the more he puts me down, the less and less i want to work out and even start eating more and i've told him that's not the wayt to get me to work out, but he continues to do this, am i wrong by deciding to not work out and show him he's not going to control me or should i be working out, need your opinion :(

sbroyhill Posts: 442 Joined: 2005/04/06	2005/05/18, 10:52 AM I would say find another man- you deserve much better than someone who treats you like the way he is. -------------- :Hard work equals great results!:
princesslodgey Posts: 1,748 Joined: 2004/02/21	2005/05/18, 11:54 AM Tell him to F*** off. I recently tried this method, with a great deal of success, and I am much happier now :big_smile: -------------- The path to righteousness is a cycle path
Pritchard Posts: 1,212 Joined: 2004/03/02	2005/05/18, 02:32 PM i agree, and while your at it take all his shoes and burn them... funny, cos you need to have shoes to go out and buy shoes. also put some laxitives in his food, the wanker. am i allowed to say wanker...? homer said it on the simposons once, meh. -------------- driving to eat a carvel cake
sbroyhill Posts: 442 Joined: 2005/04/06	2005/05/18, 03:15 PM Just burn all his clothes while he is sleeping, if you are going to burn anything. Why stop at just shoes? :laugh: -------------- :Hard work equals great results!:
bigandrew Posts: 5,146 Joined: 2002/10/21	2005/05/18, 04:40 PM glue his hmm hmm to his stomach...... -------------- " The only true eye, is your minds eye"- plato
Artemis-75 Posts: 208 Joined: 2005/03/25	2005/05/18, 09:21 PM bigandrew - you're too funny! Princess - you couldn't have said it better! Shapelyldy - dump his a$$. The only thing you're "wrong" about is allowing yourself to get caught up in that nasty little mind game. (That said please know most of us have done the same thing at one time or another! Some of us more than once!!) Enough is enough. You tried, he failed. Good ridance. If you're going to get fit it should be for you and your health. Getting fit should not happen just because some insensitive jerk is giving you a hard time. Plus - after you've dumped him and you're all buff from hitting the gym it'd be great to hear him whine about how sorry he is! Make him sorry, Girl!! You've inherited a LOT of friends by being a part of this site. There is a lot of genuine support around here from a lot of compassionalte people, so get rid of him. :love:
sstump1 Posts: 1,227 Joined: 2005/03/20	2005/05/19, 10:37 AM Use it as motivation...everytime he says something awful put that in the back of your mind and use the anger as energy...get in shape and hot looking...then dump em for someone better!!
	2005/05/20, 04:59 AM :_ logged out
dvelswk Posts: 192 Joined: 2005/05/07	2005/05/24, 11:38 PM If pleasing him is your only motivation to working out, I'd say no you shouldn't. You don't need to try to please anybody unless you are wanting to do it for yourself. People are always going to want you to "change" somehow, you'll never find a "perfect" person in your life, they'll always have faults. It is impossible for there to not be atleast 1 thing that people don't like about each other in a relationship. However, if you have been wanting to work out, and just aren't because he wants you to, then you "are" letting him control you. If you want to do it, do it. If you don't, don't. I would recommend it because if you don't like being overweight, it will help you be more content. But if you really don't care, then don't bother with it. I agree with everyone else though, I don't know you but I do know that everyone deserves better then to have someone bringing them down all the time. Find another guy if he wont quit. Take care.
padua Posts: 219 Joined: 2003/02/17	2005/06/06, 08:56 AM my friend was in the same type of relationship, what she did was the best thing that she could of done. she lost weight for herself and turned around (when she looked good)and said to him "this is not working out you just don't look good enough for me" and that was the end of him. he is after her day and night. what goes around comes around.:big_smile:
gangstershoes Posts: 641 Joined: 2005/05/27	2005/06/06, 03:55 PM Not sure about the null user and the double post but it was my comment. Good luck to you shapelyldy.
finessfreak Posts: 10 Joined: 2005/05/18	2005/06/15, 07:37 AM hah u dont need that shi*t:angry::angry:...... my ex was the root cause of my weight problems and depression.:( now that he is out of the picture n i have lost weight i just love the look on his face when he looks @ me and wants what he cant have:big_smile::big_smile::big_smile: -------------- if you Believe than you CAN achieve...
ksmith2474 Posts: 166 Joined: 2005/06/12	2005/06/15, 10:47 PM hi...i too have gained some weight since my bofriend and i met 4 years ago, only he would never ever talk to me like that and i would never allow him to talk to me like that. i was in a relationship before that was very emotionally and mentally abusive and i put up with it because 'i loved him'...never again. i haven't felt better since i left the first jerk, now i am with a guy who loves me for me. it's kind of funny what dvelswk said about flaws and being perfect...my boyfriend and i just had a very big fight a few days ago over some thing stupid and when we talked and worked it all out we agreed on one thing even though there are things i hate about him and there are things he hates about me, we actually love each other because of those flaws as well as the things we like about each other. does that make sense? what i am trying to say is that we wouldn't want each other any other way... -------------- Kristi Make it happen!!
PoolMaster1990 Posts: 164 Joined: 2005/06/09	2005/06/16, 07:04 AM Ur bf is mean. I'd NEVER say that to my gf if I loved her -------------- ~If A equals success, then the formula is: A = X + Y + Z, X is work. Y is play. Z is keep your mouth shut.
	2005/06/17, 10:36 AM lol....not a good sign....that's a sign he's taking you for granted or thinking he can do better....I have seen cases of this and it's not a good thing....maybe I am way off..... the flaw comment is right on..imo...
PoolMaster1990 Posts: 164 Joined: 2005/06/09	2005/06/17, 11:38 AM no menace ur right on lol -------------- ~If A equals success, then the formula is: A = X + Y + Z, X is work. Y is play. Z is keep your mouth shut.
kieas Posts: 41 Joined: 2005/05/19	2005/07/01, 09:05 AM Another perspective (Training > Love Perspective) I cant give anyone advice about good relationships, but having him say that stuff will kill your weight training. Go single ASAP. I got the same thing, girlfriends saying Im too think to be sex and I need muscle and ect. Going to the gym for that reason makes the gym 100 times more painful. Youll develop an instinct to hate it and never develop good work out habbits and therefore never change your body. Go single, then go to the gym for yourself. Do it because you love yourself, love the way your going to look and love working hard at something of lasting value. Then youll look forward to the gym as a nother chance to achieve your goal and not punishment by an abusive relationship.