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Family Members That Drive You NUTS!!!

CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/11/21, 01:47 PM Do any of you have family members that drive you bonkers?? How do you deal with them? Do you deal with them nicely, or just tell them the straight up blunt of it?? My mom is driving me crazy. She always manages to take something positive, and turn it negative. My hubby found out yesterday that he can get tuition reimbursment through his job. He can get reimbursed for 3 classes a semester at Portland State University, and frankly, we are both really excited about it because he is ready for more schooling mentally and emotionally. When I told my mom this exciting news, she starts talking about how she doesn't think he's smart enough to take classes at PSU. I tried to explain to her that he is in fact very smart, he just did poorly in high school because he hated it and wasn't there half the time. She proceeded to ho and hum while looking up the testing material for PSU so she can prove to me that he wouldn't be able to pass the entrance exams. UGH!!! How are you supposed to deal with people who are like this,especially when they are your own family??
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/11/21, 01:48 PM Oh freaking A. I'm so po'd I posted in the wrong forum. Click ignore kids, click ignore. :cool:
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/11/21, 01:57 PM Nod and smile at them drives them nuts! -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
ruining Posts: 13 Joined: 2006/11/14	2006/11/21, 02:08 PM What she thinks isn't important at all. Just have fun in proving her wrong, but don't feel like you need to rub it in. You're not going to change her outlook on things, so don't be bothered.
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2006/11/21, 02:31 PM I am used to that. My mother is Mrs. Negative. I am 50 yrs old and she's been that way as long as I can remember. Just stop feeding her information. I think it is because of a lack of confidence with these type of personalities. -------------- A little discipline at the table and at the gym might help reduce that belly! Ivan Montreal Canada (City of Festivals)
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/11/21, 02:40 PM It's so hard though Ivan. Something exciting happens and you want to share, and for so long it had been just me and her....but you're right. If I don't give her anything to feed on then she can't turn good things bad.
ATIGER Posts: 992 Joined: 2003/02/26	2006/11/21, 02:54 PM My dad used to be that way when I was in college. No matter what, he would bad mouth something if he thought that it did not lead to me doing better in school. he would also carry that over to other areas. His opinion was the only way to go. When I graduated i was afraid to share something with him but when I did, he said nothing negative. He has not done so since. Lucky for me, it was only when I was in school and under his house. I guess since he was paying for me to go, he wanted all input. :laugh:
bb1fit Posts: 11,105 Joined: 2001/06/30	2006/11/21, 02:58 PM Folks love being negative....it is so much easier than being positive and wishing a person well in his/her endeavors. Remember, it is much easier for a person to drag you down to their level than it is to bring someone up to yours. I simply walk smile, walk away, and keep on the road I outlined. It is much better to have tried and failed than to have wondered all your life what if??? -------------- Maximus from Gladiator....Strength and Honor!
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/11/21, 02:58 PM I can understand that seeing as how you were at home and going to school on his bill. The more I'm thinking about it the more it's seeming like it's a way for her to not have to let go of me...like if she dissapproves of something then I'll come to her again to get approval? I dunno...she's wacky.
ATIGER Posts: 992 Joined: 2003/02/26	2006/11/21, 03:00 PM Cristal, you almost went Dr phil on us there
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/11/21, 03:01 PM BB1...that was why I was so excited to share. My husband is actually excited to go back to school. And he knows if he doesn't do well that at least he tried and will have gotten something out of it. And you're right..it is was easier to be a poo pooer than a happy goer. I think we all fall into that trap from time to time. Just can't get stuck there is all.
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/11/21, 03:04 PM I did get something out of the 6 months I was in college atiger..... anyone ever heard of a forensic psychoanalist? That was what I studied.....I can have Dr. Phil moments yessiree.
ATIGER Posts: 992 Joined: 2003/02/26	2006/11/21, 04:09 PM you were going to be on CSI?
flyonthewall Posts: 1,823 Joined: 2005/01/18	2006/11/21, 04:37 PM I think I'd simply make the comment to your Mom that what's the harm in him trying, he really has nothing to loose, only something to gain. Parents often look at the negative of things while thinking they just have your best interest at heart...but as you've felt first hand, it only hurts, not helps! I try to keep this in mind with my own kids, it's an easy trap to fall into, so I try to be as supportive and positive to them as I can....but sometime I hear my parents negativity flowing from my mouth as well..I'm sure she means no harm, so just let it roll off your back. Also, good luck to your husband, I think everyone should take advantage of any opportunity at education....especially if it's free:big_smile: I'm sure he'll do fine!!!
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/11/21, 05:03 PM Fly...I don't think a mac truck could stop him going back to school, so no worries there. :) ATIGER...I haven't seen CSI, but from what I gather aren't they Forensic Anthropologists? Looking at the evidence to find out what happened? I wanted to look at the evidence and find out what made the sicko's brain work the way it did,profile him/her and help find him....kinda like Morgan Freeman in half of his movies lol.
KC_72 Posts: 3,249 Joined: 2006/05/19	2006/11/21, 05:07 PM yeah tiger....sheesh...where'd we find you again???We may have to put you back...
BILL06 Posts: 755 Joined: 2006/08/08	2006/11/22, 11:56 AM forensic psychoanalyst, im guess has something to do with the criminal mind ? Misery loves company cristal, your hubby can do anything he puts his mind too, i also hated school, well cept the cheerleaders and football, but after i got to college i loved it,and the negative input from family members gave me more the attitude that i could do it, and i did... tell ya mom to quilt a doily and leave ya hubby alone. -------------- \" Once upon a time there was a light in my life, Now theres only love in the dark \"
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/11/22, 12:21 PM Bill, yes a forensic psychoanalyst takes all the evidence the investigators get together of how a crime took place,and then profiles the criminals mind to figure out WHY they did it, and also to give police a description of who took look for based on the facts. Usually more heavily used in cases with serial killers/criminals. I can't tell my mom to quilt a doily, but my husband will probably make it a point to say something about how cool it is tomorrow and make her feel bad in a way only he can....he makes her feel bad but she loves him for it. Weirdo.