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2005/12/25, 02:16 AM
I remember on a Thursday i finally had a day with my girlfriend we were so in love with each other like no other times sharing emotions and that but then the next day she goes with her friend too see some guys i trusted her you know? Cause she’s my girlfriend that’s what you do but some parts through out the day i had a little feeling in the back of my mind saying something’s gonna be up later that night i get told one of the guys was feeling my girlfriends breasts and all that etc she was telling him to fuckoff but if he did it repeatedly which i doubt he would abuse her in front of people she would of ignored it and not mind 2 other guys were doing it as well this doesn't seem like abuse anymore this seems like she doesn't care? Yet she’s going out with me like wtf? I told her about it and she goes tell me who told you all night she couldn't keep going on "I will only tell you what happened if you tell me who told you", i couldn't because one of the guys who witnessed it told me not too say it was from him eventually i confessed she told me all the guys were hitting on her i talked to one of the other guys in a 3 way chat who touched her and i told him too stop being such an ass and touching my girlfriend or else he will have to deal with me and then she said shut up leave him alone at that very moment i just had enough and said fine... fuckoff your dumped, she goes "i don't care, well i do but ill get over it" i can't believe i did this after an hour or so i rang her and she said hi ill ring you tomorrow i have to go bi, then the next day she didn’t call but was at her friends house on msn for a bit i told her "Please I’m sorry i did it all out of anger please take me back babe" No i feel like being single. I just said all the times i told you i loved you and you said it back did you mean it? She replied "Yes" then i said then why did you let 2 of my mates and some random feel your tits? She goes "Who wouldn't let 3 hot guys grab my tits", i was so pissed off i never thought she was like this she kept telling me too leave her the fuck alone this day she was going to meet up with the guys again i had made friends with one of the randoms because he didn't know she was going out with anyone because his 2 mates started it off first but those 2 did know i was going out with her i knew them from school one looks like a rat the other one looks like a sheep anyway when i was out with the random making friends with him they came down and soon as my girlfriend well was girlfriend looked at me she ran i felt so fucked up she didn’t run away from sadness but from being pissed off i was there i walked away towards home the random said no come back dw it will be fine! Ok then whatever i said i ran up to her and go what’s wrong? I just want to be friends she goes "Well i don't want to be with you everyday i want some time with my friends" on the Thursday she had told me no matter what happens to our relationship she will never want to lose contact and become great friends i don't see a start to this? And how much possible time does she want with her friends she had been with the same person for 7 days with only seeing me one day out of that and was on a Thursday. Everyone who knows her is telling me too leave her alone she doesn't want my attention obviously either i love her i want her back! What can i do? I cant call her she just sais she has too go every time and i say wait then she sais goodbye (well twice this has happened and everyone’s telling me not too do it again or else ill get my head smacked in) doubt it, but still i don’t want to cause any problems or make her upset i know this only a forum but if any of yous would know what to do if you were in my shoes or have an idea please help i love this woman she means alot to me.
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2005/12/26, 06:56 AM
WARNING: The following statements are going to be kind of harsh but you need some tough love babe.
Dude, LEAVE HER ALONE!!!!!!!!! I dont know you or how old you are or your past life experience but the phone call sounds "so junior high". The more you go after her the farther and faster she will run from you. You can not be just friends, not now, maybe not ever. That usually only works when the break up was on mutual terms. Because you are still in love with her you would be doing yourself a disservice by trying to be her friend. You will be the guy that she laughs at with her girlfriends and talks about what a dumba$$ you are and how you wont leave her alone. PLEASE DONT BE THAT GUY! We are about to start a new year, start it off right by dumping that baggage. She obviously did not care enough about you or your commitment to each other to excuse herself from the situation when she was being "violated" so she doesnt deserve the time, energy and emotion that you are wasting to try and get her back. In my experience the best way to get through this is like with most things....fake it 'till you make it. I am not an advocate for head games but it helped me through my last break up(under similar circumstances). Whenever I stepped out the door I made sure that I looked GOOD, and if saw him out I would not make a beline for the door or try to get his attention I just made sure I had a good time(even if I had to fake it). If you cross paths be civil, say hi and continue with the evening. Dont make any pathetic attempts to make idle chat because you will enter stalkerville again. Eventually you will start to feel better about the situation and yourself, and realize that you are better off without her. The most important thing is that you get through it with what is left of your self-respect and dignity intact.
I know my telling you to get over it is easier said than done when you feel like your heart is cracked but thats just what you are going to have to do.
smooches
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2005/12/26, 08:37 PM
Ditto jakazz...you cant make someone love you, the more you try the worse off you get...moving on is the best thing to do, your only hurting yourself and making her feel like she's in control, nobody but you is in control of your own happiness...quoting jakazz "fake it till you make it"...good advice, things do get better with time...dont forget...she's not better than you, we are all equal, show her by moving on...good luck bro.
Mojo
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2005/12/27, 02:19 PM
I love posts like this. rko is this you? :)
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2005/12/27, 06:19 PM
Those are some long a$$ sentences.. wow... tip for the future... use some more punctuation.
(.,');:
Not just for emoticons anymore.... although the above probably means something.
t
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Be here. Live. Love. Hope. Now. Faith. Believe. You. - Keith Urban
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2005/12/27, 06:40 PM
good point Tim ....
paragraphs would also be useful....presentation is key when typing up huge posts....no1(majority of people) bothers to read that stuff if u write page of single spaced material with no paragraphs or indents....
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2005/12/28, 12:34 AM
I didn't know we had so many grammar teachers here on freetrainers, hey menace, my daughter needs help with some punctuation..lol!
Gangster is right, this sounds exactly like RKO's posts, what is up with that!
Sounds like this should be in the younger crowd forum or on my space or something... (SIGH....)
Oh well, good luck and get some self confidence guy, it will all work out.
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Bettia.... You will only be remembered for the things that you finish, not the things that you start!
ravenbeauty@freetrainers.com
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2005/12/28, 03:15 AM
Where. is, the: kiss; my?ass! emoticon, when! I, need. it? Is that enough punctuation for you guys?:big_smile:
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2005/12/28, 07:34 AM
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Quoting from gangstershoes:
I love posts like this. rko is this you? :)
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Yes :( anyway i have bad english.. can yous still plz give me help?
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2005/12/28, 08:28 AM
Move on. This will not have a good ending. urajakazz (interesting name) is right...
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I am training for birthdays.
Be here. Live. Love. Hope. Now. Faith. Believe. You. - Keith Urban
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2005/12/28, 10:20 AM
here you go rko.
this one's for you buddy. :)
http://www.freetrainers.com/FT/jsp/Message.jsp?f_ix=16&t_ix=876
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2005/12/28, 12:13 PM
RKO if you have to disguise yourself under another screename to get advice on an already sought out topic, dude take advice from the first one and let the damn girl go. I have to say it, i can keep my mouth shut no longer, if you are stupid enough to keep staying with this little girl, then you deserve all that is coming to you. Seriously there are so many more girls out there, is there something she gives you that no other girl can??
LET HER GO.
Enough said!
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Bettia.... You will only be remembered for the things that you finish, not the things that you start!
ravenbeauty@freetrainers.com
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