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gangstershoes Posts: 641 Joined: 2005/05/27	2005/12/28, 10:18 AM Ok since I'm constantly being asked advice on this relationship section. Here is a post I can reference and not have to keep typing the same thing over and over again. Guys that just don't get it. READ THIS AND GET YOUR ACT TOGETHER. smile, laugh, and tease, but NEVER let anyone see you sweat, because it displays insecurity. you can take the most beutiful women in the world and find something to tease them about, and they are putty in your hands. Are they too tall, too short, too busty, have a ghetto booty, huge lips, big nose, skinny legs, funny looking shoes, dumb looking purse, too small of a purse, too large of a purse, makeup is a wreck, no makeup at all, unibrow, hair on their lip, pointy ears, big ears, walk funny, the way they hold a glass, short hair, long hair, blonde hair, red head, brown hair librarian look, dumb looking jewelry, hairy armpits, hairy legs. The list is endless. Actually most very attractive women are some of the most insecure as well, because they are soo caught up in appearance. It's all about being confident in yourself enough to not treat a woman you are interested in any differently than you would a good friend of yours. You have to really know how to pick on a girl in a flirting nature, and keep the conversation FUNNY (this is the key word). If you do this, it portrays the image of a confident man, selecting whether the woman is good enough for him in his life/reality rather than the other way around. That is exactly what women draw towards, because you are then a challenge and mystery to them. You still are a gentleman though. You open doors for them, you seat them at the table, you dress fitting to your surroundings and not to impress, you take care of yourself, your possessions(house/car/desk at work), you walk on the curb side of the road when you are with them, you protect them when they ask for your help and you don't put up with high school drama that some girls never grow out of. You don't buy them EVERYTHING (key word again), and if anything you kid them about having to buy something for you. You surprise them, but don't spoil them. That's it. There isn't no magic pickup line, or perfect thing to buy, or perfect drink to order at the bar, or perfect thing to say. It's all about be confident enough to smile, laugh, and tease, and NEVER let anyone see you sweat.
sivysivy Posts: 391 Joined: 2005/02/11	2005/12/28, 09:16 PM hehehe
mikencharleston Posts: 1,585 Joined: 2002/01/09	2005/12/28, 09:19 PM :) I was wondering when a woman would respond to that one. -------------- Mike in Pensacola Now.
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2005/12/28, 10:32 PM Putty? Yes, I know when a man points out my many shortcomings or even just one, I melt like an M&M on a hot sidewalk. Right after I tuck his testicles into the bottom of my purse. Here's to picking on the insecure! Anni
Mojo_67 Posts: 1,299 Joined: 2003/09/23	2005/12/29, 03:45 AM Can anyone say "headgames", "fake" or Shallow...I mean damn, come on. Women as well as men deserve more respect than that. Mojo
	2005/12/29, 05:58 AM i think there's there's a method to gangster's madness....
gangstershoes Posts: 641 Joined: 2005/05/27	2005/12/29, 09:37 AM well delivered playful banter, shouldn't warrant a hostile attitude and if it does it's a good sign that you might want to move on to someone alittle more fun and humorous. ============ Quoting from anni313: Putty? Yes, I know when a man points out my many shortcomings or even just one, I melt like an M&M on a hot sidewalk. Right after I tuck his testicles into the bottom of my purse. Here's to picking on the insecure! Anni =============
gangstershoes Posts: 641 Joined: 2005/05/27	2005/12/29, 10:28 AM Since some can see where I'm going with this. I'll just go ahead and post my sarcastic response....... The next time you guys see a girl that you are really attracted to do this for me: Compliment her on how beautiful she is all the time. Stumble on your words and use some COOL pickup line that flatters her. Never kid with her about anything she has done, what she is wearing, or the traits that she already knows she has but that you are attracted to anyway. Always answer her questions with a delicate response. Tell her how you fell in love with her at first site. Buy her everything under the sun that she is interested in. Take her out to expensive dinners, and beautiful shows. Put up with her pouting like a 2 year old when she doesn't get what she wants. Get jealous if she talks about another guy. Put up with her nagging at the most inconvenient times. Learn to love the moments when she shows your friends who wears the pants in the relationship. Never have your own opinion, and always check to make sure what you are doing is ok with her. See her almost everyday in the beginning of the relationship. Put her on a pedestal, and worship her like your mom told you to do. Put up with her high school drama tactics, and really get involved and protective, because that's what she wants. Humm..... Let me know how that works out for you guys. <sarcasm stops here> In no way am I saying to be mean to anyone, but playful banter about any topic (ie flirting and kidding around), being yourself, and being a strong individual that answers questions honestly and doesn't let anyone control you or walk all over you is being genuine, not putting on a fake image to show how PERFECT you are. When the honeymoon wears off and the fake images drop that’s where you see the divorce statistics rise.
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2005/12/29, 10:59 AM Yes, Please do go on. Never mind that the female MEMBERS are offended. Guys, it's this simple and you can believe me because, well, I'm a woman. Intelligence is sexy so get an education. You want a woman to like you? Compliment her shoes, but don't forget to look down at her feet first. Dur... Anni
	2005/12/29, 11:14 AM in life few things are as simple as you make it out to be anni....gangster's strategy is a very common one and it works very effectively....that 50s fall in love at first sight is somewhat outdated....I am also not so sure if gangster said anything so outrageous that should offend female members....i see women play guys all the time....
	2005/12/29, 11:16 AM and a good sense of humor is a good sign of person's intelligence/education....
gangstershoes Posts: 641 Joined: 2005/05/27	2005/12/29, 11:19 AM you mean this thread isn't OK with you anni...... I thought you loved me anni, I really did..... :) now you are just going to leave me for a harvard grad aren't you..... it's ok I'll bounce back, but did you get the flowers I sent you? I'm really sorry anni......
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2005/12/29, 11:59 AM My only question is was your original post a joke, or was it real advice? -------------- I hate personal signatures.
gangstershoes Posts: 641 Joined: 2005/05/27	2005/12/29, 12:47 PM advice that needed to be clarified by my 3rd post.
Ravenbeauty Posts: 3,755 Joined: 2002/09/24	2005/12/29, 04:45 PM I can honestly see that I see both points gangster and anni's, although anni might be taking it a bit too literally. gangster I know exactly where you are coming from, i have seen this many, many times, BUT..you neglected to say how a man is to behave if he is dealing with an "Average Jane" like myself perhaps. You stated on the most beautiful woman in the world, but neglected the remaining 80% of women out there. To date, I can say for myself only as i am not every woman and each one is unique is that i can really, really say, honesty, confidence and a man being himself is really attractive and can go a long way. Whether it be Sylvester Stallone or Jim Carrey, I have had the good looking guys and the geeky nerds and I have found that the mind attracts and fascinates me much more than just the appearance. -------------- Bettia.... You will only be remembered for the things that you finish, not the things that you start! ravenbeauty@freetrainers.com
Ravenbeauty Posts: 3,755 Joined: 2002/09/24	2005/12/29, 04:46 PM The kisses don't hurt at all either...lol Sorry for the typo above it was supposed to be "say" at the beginning not "see". :big_smile: -------------- Bettia.... You will only be remembered for the things that you finish, not the things that you start! ravenbeauty@freetrainers.com
	2005/12/29, 05:12 PM I don't like it when men kiss me. -------------- Sometimes life is like herding cats. Charlie
	2005/12/29, 07:46 PM roflmao charlie....where do you come up with this stuff?
gangstershoes Posts: 641 Joined: 2005/05/27	2005/12/30, 08:47 AM well said raven, I agree with you completely. Even on the targeting the top 20% part...... I still believe that you just lower your intensity with the average jane and keep things light and fun. Most guys seem to handle the average jane's pretty good though, because they don't WIG out and feel like they need to be this PERFECT GUY... I knew charlie would pounce on this thread when he got a chance....... LMAO!!!
Ravenbeauty Posts: 3,755 Joined: 2002/09/24	2005/12/30, 09:18 AM Give it up for Charlie, we can always count on him, eh? That is very true gangster, but guys, just so you know, there isn't a "Perfect Guy" or "Perfect Woman" per say. Once a human can accept this, I am pretty sure they can go a long way in a relationship. Menace, he gets it from years of seclusion being forced to talk to himself and his imaginery friends. -------------- Bettia.... You will only be remembered for the things that you finish, not the things that you start! ravenbeauty@freetrainers.com
rko Posts: 102 Joined: 2005/10/30	2005/12/31, 04:31 AM I think this post was directed at me ahah:laugh:
Mojo_67 Posts: 1,299 Joined: 2003/09/23	2005/12/31, 06:30 AM Last post was me guys, had to log back in after I posted it, geuss I took to long...Sorry. Mojo
urajakazz Posts: 7 Joined: 2005/12/26	2005/12/31, 08:36 AM For the most part I will have to say that I agree with G on this one. As a female member of this group I just wanted to let you know that we are not all offended. As long as the teasing is playful and not malicious it can be fun. Im sure you did not mean for they guys to walk up to females and start saying that they have bad breath, terrible fashion sense and a fat ass. Although some people dont mind the last one. I myself have a bidunkadunk that I am very proud of thank you very much.:big_smile:
gangstershoes Posts: 641 Joined: 2005/05/27	2006/01/03, 10:42 AM urajakazz, now I know why you didn't fill out your profile.... you're in that rap video I just saw..... let me think of it...... it's got this one rapper with 3 of his friends in it, and a bunch of bidunkadunk girls..... you know the one..... help me out here..... :) You couldn't be more right about the intention of my first post btw. alright now, I have to rob the jewelry store and tell em make me a grill.
Kalanchoe Posts: 400 Joined: 2003/02/18	2006/01/09, 10:02 AM bidunkadunk? What does that mean? Personally, I hate and despise the 'being on a pedestal' thing - it scares the hell out of me. Also, it depends what a female is after - a relationship, a friend with benefits or a one night stand? K :big_smile: -------------- *each to their own* *The revolution's just a t-shirt away!* *There is no first strike in karate*
bigandrew Posts: 5,146 Joined: 2002/10/21	2006/01/10, 01:10 PM "bidunkadunk" = big butt -------------- Friends don't let friends squat high... People don't reach thier true potental, only those who seek it.
Kalanchoe Posts: 400 Joined: 2003/02/18	2006/01/11, 01:53 PM rofl :) -------------- *each to their own* *The revolution's just a t-shirt away!* *There is no first strike in karate*
urajakazz Posts: 7 Joined: 2005/12/26	2006/01/12, 06:38 AM also known as ghetto booty, junk in the trunk, and my mothers favorite bootilicious.
asimmer Posts: 8,201 Joined: 2003/01/07	2006/01/12, 06:45 PM I dunno, treat me like a slightly dangerous princess.... -------------- I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by a conscious endeavor. - Henry David Thoreau
flyonthewall Posts: 1,823 Joined: 2005/01/18	2006/01/13, 09:11 AM I like that one..I'll have to pass that one on to my hubby, although I think he already treats me that way:) Maybe that's why we get along so well:laugh: ============ Quoting from asimmer: I dunno, treat me like a slightly dangerous princess.... ============= -------------- Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there.