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2005/05/11, 01:07 AM
So, my newborn girl is nine weeks old today. I've also got a four year old boy. I've been back at work for three weeks now (you know, Mama gotta pay the rent!) --I just got a promotion and am trying to learn a new job. Oh, and I'm totally single--babies daddy's nowhere to be found and I'm having trouble balancing work and home. I know I just have to take a deep breath once in a while, but I find myself being forgetful and then rushing to get stuff done! Life is awful lonely these days--any suggestions?
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2005/05/11, 08:05 AM
Reach out to friends and family for help and support - people are just waiting to be needed, you just have to ask. have someone take the kids for an evening or afternoon and take the opportunity to go for a walk or workout , then have a hot soak in a bubble bath.
Remind yourself that things will settle as you learn your new routine. And make lists! My sister's favorite saying is that babies are born clutching half of your brain in thier little hands, find ways to organize during this period of forgetfulness (stress also affects memory).
If you have time on the weekend, check into an Early Childhood Family education group - it is parents talking while the kids play and you discuss challenges and solutions for the things you face as a parent. there may also be a support group for single mothers, look in the phone book, make some calls.
Another great way to destress is to take the kids to the park for a walk. When my daughter was little we met a lot of other Moms at the park and ended up setting up days where we would meet at the park so our kids could play , we would talk and it made being a mom a lot less lonely.
I hope some of these suggestions help.
Hang in there - the gods only give us what we can handle.
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Vitality shows not only in the ability to persist but the ability to start over. - F. Scott Fitzgerald
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