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2004/05/06, 10:39 AM
My girl friend was bullied severely in school as a result she has a low self image! She in my honest opinion is perfect but she thinks she needs to loose weight, and is very insecure in our relationship. She is healthy looking and slim not skinny but lately i think she may be under eating. I started training about 9 months ago and as soon as i started to get the shape i wanted she got worse!
What do i do? how do i help?
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2004/05/06, 12:46 PM
If it's serious enough for you to be this concerned she may need therapy, if it goes on and gets worse she can be impacting her long term health physically as well as mentally.
For your part, being supportive in both word and deed.. let her know you love her as she is, and that any efforts to improve herself are FOR herself, not for you.
Also, TELL HER you are concerned, that you want her to be happy and healthy, and you want to help her adjust her lifestyle to be just that.. then use this site and other resources to educate yourselves on a good eating plan. Shop healthy and understand what a *good* diet is..
Give her the tools to work toward her goals the right way!
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Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.
~Benjamin Disraeli
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2004/05/07, 06:34 AM
Thank's I guess if she know's that it's for her not for me then it will be ok for me to help her reach her goals.i was just worried that she would think i wanted her to change if i helped. I will keep an eye on how she eats and maybe do more to show her what i feel. But i dont think there's going to be a quick fix.
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2004/05/07, 07:31 AM
I got horribly overfocused on weight last year and I dragged myself out of it by setting myself a fitness challenge - that way I was focusing on what my body was capable of rather than what it looked like or weighed - just an idea
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2004/05/07, 08:37 AM
Just a suggestion, but is there anything or any hobby that your girlfriend enjoys doing where she has the opportunity to excel at? If her self image is low, she needs to find things that will challenge and make her feel good about herself, thus working on changing her low self image. It would be great if you two are able to perhaps go biking or doing something physical and fun together - you'd both benefit from the endorphins, cardio and the added benefit of a great time together. Hope this helps - best of luck to you:)
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2004/05/07, 10:40 AM
It's definitely not a quick fix.. it's that lifestyle change that everyone talks about.
It's okay to want to improve yourself, as long as you go about it in a constructive manner. Sounds like she's set herself up in a destructive pattern instead, so that's what needs to change.
Not necessarily the goals themselves, but more how to get to them.
Finding athletic activities to do together is a great idea.. my husband and I got bikes and snowshoes when we married and it has been the greatest experience, both for personal goals of being more active, and for the togetherness.
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Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.
~Benjamin Disraeli
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