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2005/06/15, 08:10 AM
i am a highschool student, i get told that i have an awsome personality and get along with just about everybody. I know i have am a beautiful face but i HATE my body. when guys ask me out i want to say yes but i say no, i hate hate my body.once i herd a bf tell his friend that he thought i was fat behind my back n that crushed me.even when i met the guy who i consided the love of my life i blew it cuz of my insecurity....every day i just look in the mirror and cry... i hate my body soo much... and just looking at my body makes me think that i am going to have to be like this for a long time. even though ive stared eating healthy i feel like i can never have a relationship cuz weight just dosent come off overnight... i am soo depressed..:(:(:(:(
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2005/06/15, 09:31 AM
I think you need to discuss this with a professional therapist. Body image problems are very difficult to change without a good counselor.
meanwhile, start trying to change your negative selftalk into positive self talk. Don't say things to yourself that you wouldn't say to a best friend. When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about your self, say 'stop' outloud and think of a positive thing instead.
Look in the mirror and focus on the things you do like about yourself. Also, think of the things that you like about yourself that are inside (smart, caring, funny, giving, etc.)
high school is a difficult, insecure period of life, but believe me, it is not life. it is a small period of time and soon you will be past all of the petty things that go on there. Keep your head up and do things that you will be proud to look back on after high school.
Look at your eating patterns and exercise activities - are you eating a wide variety of fresh foods and getting some daily exercise? by focusing on things that will make you healthier, you will feel that you are doing something positive that will improve your body and how you feel about yourself.
Worry about relationships later, you are at an age right now where you need to figure out who you are and what you like to do. have fun, stop stressing, enjoy being a teen.
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Vitality shows not only in the ability to persist but the ability to start over. - F. Scott Fitzgerald
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2005/06/15, 01:24 PM
I agree with asimmer, high school is rough girl, I went through some ackward times as did everyone really. the key is to try and avoid the "what are they thinking" mentality. Try to think, "These people are in my reality, therefore if they don't like it get the hell out." You will see as you become more independent, confident, and absorbed in your own goals you will think less of what anyone else thinks.
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2005/06/17, 08:22 AM
fitnessfreak, I have a step sister that when she was in high school was the same way as you!! She hated herself cause she was big.. Alot of ppl made fun of her, but you have 1 up on her cause she didnt even think she had a pretty face, but I knew better!! Hun, I will tell you one thing.... Teenagers in high are very mean, but dont listen to then.... Just stick to eating healthy and get on a exercise program if your not on one already... My step sister finally realized that her opinion was wrong of herself and started working to get into shape and she did... she went from a size 18 i believe in pants to like a size 12 and now she has a beautiful baby boy and enjoys just being with herself... when before she couldnt stand it.... But I do agree with asimmer. Anytime you start thinking bad thoughts, stop yourself and think about something you like about yourself.. Like you said your face and stick to good healthy eating habbits and a exercise routine and that will help you feel alot better... Just set a goal and tell yourself everyday that are determine to reach your goals and as soon as you see the smallest change. Your opinion of yourself will start to change!!
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God wont give you anything you cant handle!
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2005/06/17, 10:33 AM
sounds like you have symptoms of depression as well as image problems...find a good psychiatrist/psychologist and speak with him/her....
If I could be the ugliest man on earth and somehow date/be with Angelina Jolie....I would take that....I could care less if I would be called the absolute ugliest man on earth...well at least I'd be best at something...lol...why does it matter how somebody totally irrelevant to you sees you...if a guy you're dating sees more in you then someone else then it's his gain and others' lose....beauty is not all about pounds...neither is love.....seems like some people mature faster than others and are able to recognize others for other than just their looks....
best of wishes
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2005/06/25, 08:51 AM
thankyou all for your advice... i will try and focus on moving forward and losing weight , rather than staying where i am.... :):)
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2005/06/25, 09:14 AM
Dear Fine,
Read the story 'The ugly duckling" and I'm sure you'll feel better!
Beauty is only skin deep don't forget!
L.
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Cerca, trova
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2005/06/25, 11:43 AM
You are the key to your desired change. Get in there and do it. We will all be here for support for you, but you actually have to do the work. If you put forth the intrinsic effort, we will be your help and support group. Feel free to ask about any exercises we can assist you with. IT IS WITHIN YOU TO DO THIS1
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If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything....
bb1fit@freetrainers.com
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2005/06/25, 05:56 PM
If I were you I'd eat a healthy diet, take regular exercise and not worry too much about your looks. The god diet and active lifestyle wil ensure you stay in good physical shape. The fact that guys are asking you out would suggest to me that you can't be ugly. I'd agree with previous posts that your greatest problem is your low self esteem rather than your weight as that is what is making your life so difficult. Perhaps you should do as previous posts suggest and talk to a councillor or even your parents.
Although high school can be tough in many ways, i guarantee you will look back on it a few years after you've left and remember a lot of good times had there. I guarantee you'll also look back at photos of yourself at the age you are now and realise you had nothing to worry about where your looks are concerned - you are never as unattractive as you believe yourself to be.
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Homer? I know no Homer - my name is Guy Incognito
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2005/06/29, 11:56 AM
If guys are asking you out, your body cant be that bad :) Besides, everyone has their own little imperfections, just work on them.
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