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2007/07/07, 05:39 PM
I was wondering how everyone else deals with having unsupportive people around them while trying to lose weight. I know that the "simple" solution is to surround yourself with people who build you up, but in my case, that just isn't an option. My unsupportive group is my family, who think I'm ridiculous for counting calories and trying to have a better lifestyle in general. I get a lot of comments like "you're not a fata$$, you're a dumba$$" or, "If you'd just do some crunches, your problem spot would be gone like that."
So how do you deal with unavoidable groups of unsupportive people?
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I pay no attention whatever to anyone\'s praise or blame; I simply follow my own feelings. - W.A. Mozart
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2007/07/07, 05:50 PM
Poke 'em in the eye. Kidding.
Most of the time, I've found, unsupportive people are those who aren't ready to make the same committment as you. They want to keep you the same as them. I think some are then afraid they will feel alienated by you because you live a different lifestyle.
Example: Oprah. When she lost all that weight and was pencil thin, the average American housewife felt different towards her because she was now completely different than they were. She wasn't a different person, but looked totally different so many felt they couldn't relate to her. I believe she did a show on this years ago.
I suggest carrying on, doing what you're doing and help to educate them in a healthier lifestyle. You're still the same person, just healthier.
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I see the words you are typing, but all I read is *click*click*click*
\"He may be gone, but Sanjaya proved that it doesn\'t matter how talented you are - if you believe in yourself, you can annoy literally millions of people.\" Jimmy Kimmel
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2007/07/07, 10:50 PM
The best way to get even is to prove them wrong use the negitive remarks for inspiration and work harder to prove them wrong. They can't help you anyway you are the only one that has that power.
keep up the good Fight !
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2007/07/08, 10:46 AM
There's a song I listen to while training that have these lyrics:
"Doubt me / Hate me / You're the inspiration I need"
Don't let negativity discourage you. Turn it around to motivate you to do better. When it comes to health, you need to be selfish. It's all about you. When your family starts seeing the results of your hard work, they'll start asking you questions so they can begin a healthier lifestyle for themselves, too. I've been in this situation before...
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--JBennett
"I've up-ed my intensity.... now up yours!"
"Pain is only weakness leaving the body."
"Never think of how weak you are; think of how strong you're going to be."
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2007/07/09, 09:06 AM
Do it for yourself - be relentless in the pursuit of your goals, they will either catch up or shut up.
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While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us.
- Ben Franklin
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2007/07/09, 07:05 PM
They most likely will sut up! Ignore them and keep living your healthy lifestyle.
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Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.
Ivan
Montreal Canada (City of Festivals)
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2007/07/18, 01:14 AM
All the post are true, but on a personal level, if you have grown up with the negativity as a child and now it is still continueing as an adult it is wearing on the emotions. You need to find a way to "block" the negativity. That is where the selfishness comes in. Don't allow the remarks to hurt you. You hear them, they bring back memories and it hurts. Take that hurt and "get even". Better yourself to the point that YOU are happy with you. They are insecure in themselves and need to put you down to feel better about themselves. Ignore them the best you can, "smile and nod". Then do your own thing and YOU will feel better about yourself and their comments won't bother you much anymore. It is all about YOU. Be selfish and be strong for yourself. Life is full of negativity, the trick is to turn that negativity into something positive for you. Even use it as a motivation to be able to say, "Huh! You are the dumba** cause I have a nice a**!" LOL
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