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Illinifirefly Posts: 36 Joined: 2005/10/31	2005/11/16, 03:45 PM How long did you wait before you got married? And how long were you with him/her before you did? ...Curious.. -------------- Irish
flyonthewall Posts: 1,823 Joined: 2005/01/18	2005/11/16, 03:54 PM My husband and I met in college. We pretty much moved in together within a year (1 apt. was cheaper than 2). We lived together for 5 years-2 while still in school- then got married. Had kids 4 years after we got married. None of it was planned out...just figured it was time. Worked for us:big_smile: -------------- Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there.
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2005/11/16, 03:58 PM Met my wife in 97, asked her to marry me 98 got married 99. Had our first child 2002, second in 2004. -------------- Less Talk, More Chalk! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
gangstershoes Posts: 641 Joined: 2005/05/27	2005/11/16, 04:03 PM 01/17/94 - crashed my wife's birthday party 06/09/01 - married her with the coldest feet ever due to the stories I had heard about women changing after marriage. 07/31/03 - my little girl was born after I pressured my wife into having children. she says it was an opps I know otherwise. :) 04/09/05 - my little boy was born after my wife pressured me into having him.
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2005/11/16, 05:45 PM My husband and I met in highschool, he was a sophomore and I was a senior. Started dating the summer of 2000 right after I graduated, and got married in August of 2003.
Illinifirefly Posts: 36 Joined: 2005/10/31	2005/11/16, 05:51 PM My boyfriend and I have known each other for four years, dated for three. I visited off and on for weeks at a time through the years. He asked me to move in with him some time ago, and I did... sort of. He’s in college now.. and we share an apartment, like Fly said, its cheaper. We’ve been living together for three months, and we love it. However, his parents don’t want me sticking around that long.. :( It’s against their “morals” (his mom is a devoted Catholic, and his dad likes to get some sleep at night) We’re “acting like we’re married” and “short changing” ourselves according to them.. Even though we don’t agree with this, we all get along just fine. Lately they’ve been threatening to take his car and tuition away if I don’t go home. (They did this about five months ago, and I just bent to their will) I’m kinda at a loss of what to do.. We can’t exactly afford $300 tickets every couple weeks let alone every weekend.. We did the whole long-relationship thing, it was hard and I don’t particularly want to do it again. Neither of us do. :( I guess what I’m trying to say is 1: I’m not exactly sure of what I want to do with my life.. and I feel stupid for that.. (I don’t go to school, but I love studying photography in my free time..) And I'm not much for plans.. :big_smile: 2: I love this guy to pieces, and I do want to marry him. It’s just.. twenty is a little young for marriage.. I’ve noticed you guys got married when you were in your mid twenties, and that feels about right.. 3: I don’t want to leave.. When I’m with him I feel like I can do anything... and I know he feels the same. /Am I going about this all wrong? //Did you have problems with his/your parents Fly? :big_smile: -------------- Irish
Lonegirl Posts: 446 Joined: 2002/11/13	2005/11/17, 06:25 AM Became best friends with my hubby in 88/89 at 16 ( my then boyfriend was his best friend...when he called to chat with him my bf told him to call me and chat because he didn't feel like talking....so he did and needless to say we were chatting into the night and became very close). Started going out July of 89 on his 17th bday ( I was still 16 for a couple of months) in summer of 91 after graduation we moved in together (with 2 other friends) Jan 93 were engaged, Aug 93 married (me 20 him just 21)....Still VERY happily married we are best friends and have tremendous fun together....
flyonthewall Posts: 1,823 Joined: 2005/01/18	2005/11/17, 10:01 AM Ah Irish...you bring back memories. My parents terminology was "If you want to play house, we're not going to pay for it" Since they were paying the bills for my education out of town, I was kind of screwed. I ended up renting my own place for my 2nd year of college-at their expense, which wasn't too big a deal since we were going to school together, so saw each other every day...only problem was that I wasn't allowed "guests" at my place--this lead to some "interesting" scenarios. By my final year, my parents finally caved in (lucky for me there were no real religious morals here!) It was also easier for me because I'm the youngest daughter of 3 and the other 2 were already living with their boyfriends! Just hang in there. Maybe you could rent a room near to where your boyfriend lives so at least you can keep up appearances. Get a part time job and pursue your love of photography. I'd love to say just ignore his parents, but that won't work. I totally agree with lonegirl, if you've found someone that is also your best friend, hang on to him, it makes all the difference in the world!!!
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2005/11/17, 12:00 PM Irish, just wanted to point out that with determination, a young couple can make it. I was 21, and my husband was 19 when we got married. We have STRUGGLED these first 2 years, but we made it through. If you want it to happen, it can be done!
Illinifirefly Posts: 36 Joined: 2005/10/31	2005/11/17, 02:27 PM Thank you so much for sharing, those are all lovely stories.. :) Maybe theres hope for me after all :big_smile: ( I have been tryin to find a place of my own.. but everything is SOoooOo expensive around here! The place we have now is $620 and they don't get much cheaper than that :( hehe) -------------- Irish
michelle9510 Posts: 172 Joined: 2005/07/14	2005/11/20, 07:59 PM Dated my husband for four months when I found out I was six weeks pregnant with our twins. Got married a month later. Boys were born march 2004. Been married since Oct 2003. Best two years and 1 month of my life!
Illinifirefly Posts: 36 Joined: 2005/10/31	2005/11/22, 05:44 PM aww Congratulations! I'm glad everything worked out for you :) -------------- Irish
Honeydipdream69 Posts: 28 Joined: 2005/11/29	2005/11/30, 01:42 PM Ugh!! I got married when I was 18. That turned out to be a huge mistake.
Illinifirefly Posts: 36 Joined: 2005/10/31	2005/12/01, 03:00 PM Why what happened? How long were you married for? :( -------------- Irish -------------- I started out with nothing, and I still have most of it left...