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powerman990 Posts: 13 Joined: 2003/11/20	2005/04/17, 05:49 PM i'll just give u some background on this first. I used to be great friends with this one kid, we shared a back yard and we had been friends since we were like 3 or 4. He is one year younger then me so when i went to high school he was still in middle school so we started to talk less and less. Then one day we just stopped talking altogether. So far we haven't spoken in 3 years. He started to be kind of a jerk but was still an alright guy. Now i really wanna be friends with him again but i don't know how to go about doing that or even if he wants to be. Thanks for ur input.
rpacheco Posts: 3,770 Joined: 2001/12/13	2005/04/18, 03:23 PM Renewing friendships really shouldn't be that hard, especially if you've already had history. Since you both grew up together, it shouldn't be hard to at least strike up a conversation and just get caught up. Someone's got to make that first move... -------------- **_Robert_** Pain is temporary; glory is forever! E-mail: rpacheco@freetrainers.com
Reddy Posts: 597 Joined: 2003/09/11	2005/04/19, 01:42 PM What is something that he is into?? that you like too?? or try to get his opinion about something -------------- Reddy All people smile in the same language
powerman990 Posts: 13 Joined: 2003/11/20	2005/04/20, 09:18 PM hey chulla711 how bout give a real answer and not say stuff like that, there was no need to say that, grow up
sbroyhill Posts: 442 Joined: 2005/04/06	2005/04/20, 09:49 PM I think chulla711 may possible be gay, or why would he have them thoughts about you powerman? Just a thought -------------- :Hard work equals great results!:
thosecrazysims Posts: 157 Joined: 2003/09/22	2005/04/20, 10:21 PM Ignore chulla711 I noticed several remarks like that from him. Keep it positive! ============ Quoting from powerman990: hey chulla711 how bout give a real answer and not say stuff like that, there was no need to say that, grow up =============
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2005/04/21, 09:27 AM I'd like to point out first that being gay is a normal state of being. Sexual orientation is determined before birth. Homosexuality used to be classified as a disorder in the DSM, however it is no longer. Interestingly enough, serious consideration is being given to adding homophobia as a disorder to the next revision of the DSM. Just a little food for thought. -------------- Anni ******* In my head, I am out of my mind....
GOWAR Posts: 361 Joined: 2001/10/24	2005/04/21, 11:12 AM Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
rev8ball Posts: 3,081 Joined: 2001/12/27	2005/04/21, 11:25 AM Gowar, settle down. If you have an opinon, fine, state it. But do not resort to yelling or profanity. -------------- Michael Nothing personal.... Strictly business.
	2005/04/21, 08:16 PM You got his number(if not i'm sure you can ask a friend of a friend)? call him....just point out that you haven't hung out in a long time and offer to go somewhere....ballgame? movies? concert? play some sports? even a coffee shop just to catch up with each others lives..... is there a reason you waited 3 years and then all of a sudden are trying to be friends with him again?
	2005/04/21, 08:19 PM Chulla you crack me up....so if he is gay for sake of a discussion...then he needs to find 'other' friends? what kind do you recommend?
Artemis-75 Posts: 208 Joined: 2005/03/25	2005/04/21, 09:08 PM anni313 - well said. Powerman990 - Just try to get in touch and see what happens. You've got nothing to lose. The worst thing that can happen is that you learn that you are both just different people now than you used to be. I went through the same thing with my childhood best friend. I tried twice to re-start our friendship, but unfortunately the friendship I remembered just wasn't there anymore. We'd grown apart, gone different directions with our lives and just didn't have common ground. She's a great woman - just not a friend anymore!! Good luck! E.
fsdsk Posts: 959 Joined: 2003/11/30	2005/04/22, 08:23 AM 1. If y ou want to re new a friendship, there is no better way than to tell the person that. It is difficult to face rejection, but there is really no other way to accomplish what you want to accomplish 2. I don't mean to offend anyone, about this whole "gay" thing. My stance has always been to love the person but disagree with the behavior. Nothing burns me up more than when people state something as a fact when it is merely a theory. Psychology is mainly theories that people can believe or not believe, some theories have tons of evidence behind them, some dont, but in the end they are still not "proven facts" Straight people have "gone gay " but remeber, gay people have alsoe "gone straight" The mind is a funny thing.
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2005/04/22, 09:12 AM Studies indicate that there are actually very few individuals who are strictly homosexual, most are actually bi-sexual. It's all good. Whether a person chooses to explore their sexuality or is inherently homosexual isn't really relevant and there's nothing wrong with either one of those things. The most important thing is that a person seeks relationships which are satisfying both emotionally and physically. -------------- Anni ******* In my head, I am out of my mind....
Artemis-75 Posts: 208 Joined: 2005/03/25	2005/04/22, 09:53 AM I wish I could remember the program but I recently watched a documentary that examined a portion of the brain and an extensive study has been taken on because they found a noted difference in the brains relevant to sexual orientation. I'll see if I can dig up the name of the documentary. It was a European study if I remember correctly... Sorry my memory's not better! E.
powerman990 Posts: 13 Joined: 2003/11/20	2005/04/28, 10:42 PM the reason i've wanted to be friends again is im joining the national guard this summer than the army after high school( about a year til that happens) and well most likely be shipped to iraq, its not 100% but is a good chance. and with the whole orientation thing, there is a part in the brain that differs from straight people to gay people. i just did lots of research on this subject in a gay marrige debate, thanks for all of ur input
	2005/04/29, 05:45 AM Was reading a short while ago scientists are trying to identify parts of DNA responsible for one's orientation...