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Im 19 and had sex before!

My_Sunshine64 Posts: 48 Joined: 2004/04/29	2004/04/29, 03:55 PM is this wrong? the guy didnt wear a condom and im scared
My_Sunshine64 Posts: 48 Joined: 2004/04/29	2004/04/29, 03:58 PM please tell me what i should do
My_Sunshine64 Posts: 48 Joined: 2004/04/29	2004/04/29, 04:09 PM please help me. ill do anything for you to help me
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2004/04/29, 04:12 PM Ok hun, calm down. First, are you on birth control?? YOu need to go get tested for STD's, and if you have missed a period you need to get a pregnancy test. Why didn't he wear a condom? Make sure the next time he does.
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2004/04/29, 04:12 PM what exactly is the reason for these posts? they seem kind of weird -------------- LIFT HEAVY! BECOME STRONG, LIKE BULL! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2004/04/29, 04:14 PM Mutt...I think she may just be scared out of her everloving mind
My_Sunshine64 Posts: 48 Joined: 2004/04/29	2004/04/29, 04:18 PM im not on anything. he didnt wear a condom because he didnt have one.
My_Sunshine64 Posts: 48 Joined: 2004/04/29	2004/04/29, 04:19 PM and mutt if you dont have anything nice to say go away
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2004/04/29, 04:19 PM LOL -------------- LIFT HEAVY! BECOME STRONG, LIKE BULL! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
My_Sunshine64 Posts: 48 Joined: 2004/04/29	2004/04/29, 04:21 PM im serious. how am i supposed to tell my mother?
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2004/04/29, 04:22 PM Well then like I said, go get tested, take a pregnancy test, if your not pg, get on a form of birth control, whether it be a shot, pill or patch, and next time think about whether or not all this stress is worth a guy not putting on a wrapper. Hope things work out for the best!!
My_Sunshine64 Posts: 48 Joined: 2004/04/29	2004/04/29, 04:23 PM thanx Belle
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2004/04/29, 04:23 PM I am sure that if you explain how scared to her you are that she will be understanding. I am not trying to make light of your problem by the way.....And I would def carry some protection with you just to be sure....if he will not do that for you maybe he is not right for you...:big_smile: -------------- LIFT HEAVY! BECOME STRONG, LIKE BULL! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2004/04/29, 04:24 PM Follow cristalbell's advice! Talk to a dr as there alot of things to consider here.:love: -------------- "A will finds a way, failure is not an option" Ivan carivan@freetrainers.com Montreal Canada
My_Sunshine64 Posts: 48 Joined: 2004/04/29	2004/04/29, 04:24 PM thanx for the advice mutt.
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2004/04/29, 04:33 PM No problem. I really feel that if the guy won't do that little bit for you then there are better guys out there if you catch my meaning....But if you are really worried Follow the advice and go see a doc right away! -------------- LIFT HEAVY! BECOME STRONG, LIKE BULL! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2004/04/29, 04:36 PM Be honest with your mom Sunshine. Getting caught in a lie hurts worse than telling the truth. Also, if there is a Planned Parenthood Center near you(look them up on the web) you can get birth control for free, as well as testing for STD's and pregnancy. You can also get condoms for much cheaper than at the store. Hope this helps :)
skinnyrobin Posts: 224 Joined: 2002/05/10	2004/04/29, 04:53 PM i think u guys r overreacting. yes, take a pregnancy test but a test for std's? i mean, sure, its good if u do that, but i mean its not THAT necessary. the chances r pretty small. u make it sound like shes gonna die. ...adults...*sigh* joking :)
Relique Posts: 187 Joined: 2004/03/17	2004/04/29, 04:59 PM yeah, definatly over reacting, if your really scared, your 19 thank god, you have choices, call your doctor, and get a day after pill, that will solve the pregnancy problem. Being a dad of 2 and father of none... I know how much it sucks to be a single parrent, seen it, been the child, and delt with the moms. Unless you have a pre-disposition to it, and feel that it is abortion, and you are against that, hit the doc, get a day after pill, and carry a condom, get on the pill as well, can't be too carfull. Also... was he a risky partner? if you want to talk about it, feel free to take it to private chat with me, or throw my wife a line (Kyrah) I am sure she would not mind talking, just let me know and I will have her get on. -------------- Sean "TBAR" Johnson -USAF-
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2004/04/29, 05:07 PM HOw is it over reacting telling her to get tested for STD's and a pregnancy test. If you have unprotected sex with anyone and you don't know if they are clean or not, YOU ARE AT RISK! And as far as the day after pill, we don't know if this happened last night, or last week. The Morning After Pill is not a fix all, and should not be used as if it is a regular form of birth control because it is not! It is to be used in emergency situations only!! I think getting tested for STD's, pregnancy, and having Sunshine get on some form of b/c, is not over reacting, it's called BEING SMART!
yadmit Posts: 4,670 Joined: 2003/10/05	2004/04/29, 05:15 PM While there is a small chance at getting an STD, there is also a small chance of winning the lottery... I still buy the odd ticket... Get tested.. it'll set your mind at ease on that front and won't do you any harm... just my thought as I am the father of a ten year old daughter who will, later than sooner I hope, deal with similar situations... t -------------- Tim "I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies, for the hardest victory is over self." Aristotle TimDay@freetrainers.com
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/04/29, 05:21 PM CristalBelle is correct and Sunshine needs to calm down, panic helps nothing. Sunshine if you are going to be sexually active you are going to have take a major share of the responsiblity because then you know it's being taken care of. Unless and until you are in a committed, disease free relationship, always carry a condom, and never, never, never have unprotected sex regardless of the birth control method you chose. You do need to be tested for STD's and pregnancy and get on a reliable form of birth control. You are certainly old enough to have a relationship that includes sex, but you need to be informed and you need to be prepared. What you do not need to do is feel bad, it serves no purpose. -------------- Anni ******* Have you hugged your EFAs today?
goodoldtex Posts: 564 Joined: 2004/01/25	2004/04/29, 05:26 PM As another 19yr old who has had sex multiple times, i'm with everyone on the board. If you're worried about pregnancy, test. Get tested for stds, and always be safe. Never go into a situation uneducated making a split second decision...results can be scary. If a guy ever tells you 'if you love me, you'll allow me not to use the condom' tell him to walk home. That's not true love...that's just letting him get his jollies off...and it puts both of you at risk. Do a google search on pregnancy...do a google search on condoms, on diaphragms, birth control, broken condoms, skipping periods, stds. Educate yourself in everything dealing with the lifestyle you choose.
Relique Posts: 187 Joined: 2004/03/17	2004/04/29, 05:26 PM sorry, maby I put things out there wrong, lol all I was trying to say was, calm down, hit the doctor. -------------- Sean "TBAR" Johnson -USAF-
My_Sunshine64 Posts: 48 Joined: 2004/04/29	2004/04/29, 05:31 PM thanx people -------------- If I was Young Buck\'s woman I would be happy!
clt Posts: 107 Joined: 2004/02/13	2004/04/30, 07:50 AM well i am 20 years old and i have had sex with only one person in my life, to some that is not enough, but you can never be to careful. people make mistakes, is he your boyfriend?
bigandrew Posts: 5,146 Joined: 2002/10/21	2004/04/30, 01:36 PM um you seem offly scared, was this a one night fling, did you not know the guy.....I mean i'm 21 only had sex with 4 girls, and I always ask how many guys you been with? calm done think clearly from now on and use a lil common sense, and don't foget the trojan man! -------------- .......adversity causes some to break, but others to break records! ......minds are not vessles to be filled, but fires to be enlightened ......Confucious once said ,DO NOT play leap frog with a unicorn
clt Posts: 107 Joined: 2004/02/13	2004/04/30, 02:14 PM big andrew, just because you ask them does not mean they will tell you. so you use a lil common sense there big guy.
goodoldtex Posts: 564 Joined: 2004/01/25	2004/04/30, 04:15 PM trojan man can piss off...any time I or my friends have used trojan, there have been breakages. So as a result i've used durex every other time...never had a problem with durex.
My_Sunshine64 Posts: 48 Joined: 2004/04/29	2004/04/30, 04:19 PM thanx people who helped me. i went to see a doctor this morning.
skeys Posts: 75 Joined: 2004/02/23	2004/05/02, 10:15 PM I hope that everything went okay at the doctor. We are all here to help others and be helped in any way.