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2004/02/03, 02:52 PM
I am recently married but both of us are in the military and currently living on opposite coast....dont worry it wont be this way forever and we have been apart for more then a year so the distance is nothing new to us. This is my problem I am 30 my husband is 25 and I dont know where his sex drive comes from. When we get to see each other he thinks that we should have sex for the time that we missed the time that we are going to be together and for the time we arent going to be together...............yes I like sex and do enjoy it but I feel like he thinks everytime we are naked then that is a good enough reason to have sex. We can have sex and then 2 hours later he is asking again......I do try to give him sex (and I hate saying give him becasue it sounds like a job) at least once a day when we see each other but that isnt enough. I knew that his sex drive was strong when we first got together but I honestly thought it was a phase and if I gave it to him all the time it would eventually become not a must have boy was I wrong. The thing that bothers me is that he thinks that he should have sex 2 to 3 times a day and I thinking maybe 2 to 3 times a week. Is my sex drive that low and if so does anybody know of any things that can help me increase that or is his too high and is he expecting sex too much. I not sure that I know of anybody that has that much sex a day...............if you do can you please enlighten me. He complains that I never initate sex and I tell him that he doenst give me time too......then if he doens thave sex for a few days he makes me feel bad. I do love him dearly but am tired of this struggle because our sex drives are so different...........he says that sex is a huge part of a relationship which I agree but not as big as being able to lay in the same bed and cuddle without getting sexual or taking a shower together without trying to fondel me in the shower. I enjoy the other aspects of our relationship as much as sex but he doenst understand. He tells me that his sex drive is normal and if a guy has never told me this before then they were not telling the truth.............I seem to think is sex drive is anything but normal am I the only one who thinks this.................or am I nuts?
Thanks for listening and sorry for it being so long...
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you can lead the horse to the water but you can't make them drink.....
~lynnoakdale
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2004/02/03, 03:33 PM
Whoa
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Its like herding cats.
Charlie
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2004/02/03, 03:34 PM
I am no expert but I would say that after you guys are back together (not separated), that problem should work itself out after awhile. When I got married (also at 25) I was pretty much the same way. But eventually it...well most people who have been married awhile know what I am talking about. However, if it is causing you major concern it may be something that should be looked at more closely. Oh to be 25 again!!!
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2004/02/03, 03:39 PM
His sex drive is probably high because he does not get it while the two of you are apart. Like Agamble says, once you are no longer living apart...well, you'll see. In the meantime, cherish the constant attention.
Good luck!
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**_Robert_**
Pain is temporary; glory is forever!
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2004/02/03, 04:27 PM
People sex drives differ. There is nothing wrong with either of you in that aspect. Although, I do feel you should initiate sex...you might enjoy it more.
I happen to think your lucky!
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2004/02/03, 05:00 PM
I am sure it will work out once you are a full time couple.
I'm married 21 years and still on the honeymoon! ;)
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"A will finds a way"
Ivan Montreal Canada
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2004/02/07, 04:40 PM
I must say that if this becomes an ongoing issue, don't wait until things get out of hand to find someone to help you out. Of course sitting down and talking about it with your hubby is the first step, but seeking outside help is never a bad way to go - especially if it helps the two of you stay on the same page. Just my 2 cents.
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2004/02/11, 02:28 AM
If you are any medication, you should check with your Doctor about any adverse libido affects. Also, maybe you taking a more dominant role in the love making or initiating some of your fantasies might increase your fervor. Mayboe mroe foreplay.
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