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2004/04/12, 12:46 AM
Hi, as you may of guessed I am a man, but am not lost though. I need advice from all you wonderful ladies.
My girlfriend and I have been together for over 2 years, and she told me she wants a break.
We would always fight when exam times came around and I guess this was our downfall. Although we're both University students, she's in Science and is going to be starting medschool next year. So, in the time leading to exams she always wanted to not see me so much (because she was so busy), and I always complained because I loved being with her so much. This made her feel super guilty. She thinks that we are too different. She thinks that I can't understand how important being a doctor is to her.
I don't think this is a good reason to break what we had. It was unbelievable. We were practically engaged, with plans to move in together next year. I have been in relationships before, long term and short term, but being with her felt like nothing I could ever imagine.
My question is what can I do now? I mean, if you were in her shoes (she is in an exam period now), what would you want from me?
We have talked on the phone (she told me she wanted the break friday and she called saturday and sunday). I believe that we've come to the conclusion that I pointed out earlier (about our relationships downfall). I also told her that I am willing to fight to make our relationship work, to be the man I have to be. I am willing to change how I was acting for her. I am willing to do anything for her.
The problem is, she doesn't really believe this is possible. She doesn't want to have a nervous breakdown next year with medschool and me fighting for all her attention.
I understand her points completely.
How can I make her trust me this month? How can I make her feel special? How can I make her remember the amazing times we had together?
I refuse to let us fall apart without a fight.
I need a strategy to go about my (hopefully) triumphant return to her life. Thank you very much.
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2004/04/12, 03:00 PM
My advise would be to respect her space around exam time, it really isn't fair of you to try to take her attention away from her studies. Why not instead plan a very special weekend getaway for the 2 of you after exams are over, to help her relax from the stress and catch up on all the time apart while she studied.
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Love me as I am . . .
Let me worry about how I look!
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2004/04/12, 08:37 PM
A great idea Kyrah. If she will have me, I will ask her if she wants to go to Toronto to see a musical. She loves musicals.
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2004/04/13, 08:06 PM
you might see how you can help her - bring her supper & then leave - show her that you can give her room to do what she needs to get done. If she is going to be a doctor - you will have to learn to give her, her space.
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Reddy
All people smile in the same language
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2004/04/14, 02:31 PM
Davidov, that was me on the above post, my stupid computer logged me off the website.:(
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2004/04/14, 03:16 PM
I know I'm in the wrong forum, but curiosity kills the cat. I've been in your situation before and the worst thing I did was act like I couldn't live without her, because the more I did that the more she seemed to slip away. I feel for you man, and hope for the best for you. If all else goes wrong, concentrate on your life and learn from your mistakes, I've found out life is full of it's up's and down's, atleast we have wonderfull things to remember when the sky darkens. Good luck to you dude.
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A determined mind is the best weapon in any situation, a strong body is the road to victory. G.R.C.
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