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clt Posts: 107 Joined: 2004/02/13	2004/06/21, 11:21 AM this is very important, had unprotected intercourse with my new girl friend, she started the pill a month ago, we only did this once, but i know it only takes one time also, what are the chances, i mean she was on the pill for a month, what do you guys think, because i am very worried right now!!!!!!!!!!!!! so what do you think?
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/21, 11:35 AM I think you should have used a condom. -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
clt Posts: 107 Joined: 2004/02/13	2004/06/21, 11:40 AM i know i know! i really should have
clt Posts: 107 Joined: 2004/02/13	2004/06/21, 11:45 AM anyone eles?
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/21, 11:45 AM The combination birth control pill, according to the Mayo Clinc website, has a 95% average effective rate when taken correctly. This means that even when taken correctly it has a 5% failure rate. Judging from your level of anxiety I think that unprotected sex is not a good option. You might as well relax because she probably isn't pregnant. But do give serious consideration to using a condom until you are ready to accept the possible responsibility of a child. If you always use a condom you greatly reduce the possibility of pregnancy even if your partner isn't doing her part to prevent it. Just something to think about. -------------- Anni ******* Hard work must have killed somebody
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/21, 11:49 AM Also be sure to pull out. -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
ATIGER Posts: 992 Joined: 2003/02/26	2004/06/21, 12:05 PM Happy belated fathers day clt
Ldee82 Posts: 2 Joined: 2004/06/14	2004/06/21, 12:07 PM I don't think you have anything to worry about. A month I believe is enough time. Why don't you tell her to get on the patch? It is way better than the pill, and she only has to change it on a weekly basis. It's 99% accurate. I've been on it for a year and I've had no problems and no babies.:laugh:
Ldee82 Posts: 2 Joined: 2004/06/14	2004/06/21, 12:07 PM I don't think you have anything to worry about. A month I believe is enough time. Why don't you tell her to get on the patch? It is way better than the pill, and she only has to change it on a weekly basis. It's 99% accurate. I've been on it for a year and I've had no problems and no babies.:laugh:
clt Posts: 107 Joined: 2004/02/13	2004/06/21, 12:14 PM thanks a tiger, alot!
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/21, 12:19 PM The patch has a 95-99% effective rate when taken correctly. I think that when effectiveness is statistically high that people forget about the women for whom it was not or may not be effective. If 100 women use a birth control method that is, we'll say 96% effective, 4 of those women will become pregnant. If you are not ready for a child, please just always use a condom. Why is that a difficult decision? -------------- Anni ******* Hard work must have killed somebody
ATIGER Posts: 992 Joined: 2003/02/26	2004/06/21, 12:21 PM Sorry just a bad joke ( good joke just bad timing ). I have been in the same siutation and it is not fun. Hopefully, you have nothing to worry about. If you make it by this time, remember the feeling and it will prevent the same from happening again. It did for me. Hope there is no hard feelings
clt Posts: 107 Joined: 2004/02/13	2004/06/21, 12:24 PM na man theres not, i just have a bad temper, sorry man.
ATIGER Posts: 992 Joined: 2003/02/26	2004/06/21, 12:26 PM I deserved it.
dfly411 Posts: 1,352 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/21, 01:17 PM Truth is that a woman can only get pregnant if she is ovulating or close to it at the time of unprotected sex. Even if she were not on BC AND she was ovulating, there would only be roughly a 25% chance that it would happen. So, I say you should relax. I also say that you should strap it up unless you are in a long term and serious relationship.
jniday1 Posts: 7 Joined: 2004/05/29	2004/06/21, 01:29 PM Hey clt, first things first. My wife has been on a number of forms of birth control. Many of them state to take at least 18 days before having unprotected sex. So I think your safe there. Second, always put 100% trust in yourself, not your partner (especially if you don't want a kid coming out). You know when your putting on a condom...you don't know if she is taking her birth control "religiously". Anything could happen to make her forget a pill here or there. I'm not saying that one pill will make a difference, but it is only as effective as thebox states if taken correctly.
burrocfh Posts: 200 Joined: 2004/01/09	2004/06/21, 01:46 PM Ok, maybe this is a little dumb to ask (I guess), but now that we are talking about unprotected sex, pregnancy possibilities and so... some time ago I read that the 10 days before and after the period are the "safest" days for having unprotected sex (and I'm not encouraging to have it either... always use a condom) Any comments on this? -r.
DanielJLove Posts: 320 Joined: 2004/03/30	2004/06/21, 02:11 PM There is no truly "safe period". Women can, for no good reason, double ovulate, change schedule or take a long time to travel the fallopian tube. All of these are rare, but possible. Just play it safe. Daniel
clt Posts: 107 Joined: 2004/02/13	2004/06/21, 02:21 PM thank you all very much, i am going to relax, and i will play it safe next time. thank you. curtis
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/21, 02:23 PM Women can and do lie about taking their birth control pills. I cannot imagine why any man, especially an intelligent, good looking, single man with a future, would trust any woman on this subject. Wrap it up or put it up. -------------- Anni ******* Hard work must have killed somebody
goodoldtex Posts: 564 Joined: 2004/01/25	2004/06/21, 02:41 PM This is the low down on the 'safe time' thing mentioned above. Theoretically there should be. But however we are all humans so flukes happen and you can end up sh!t creek without a paddle...here's how it goes. A super-sperm can live up to a MAX of 7 days. Regular sperm live only about 3-5 days. However the woman's body is very hostile to the sperm...there are certain factors that must be right for pregnancy such as pH, temp, etc. okay that said: If a womans cycle is short (19-21 days versus normal 28 day cycle) that 'safe time' is not true. If she double ovulates that 'safe time' is nixed. For some women it's very hard to get pregnant (even off bc)...but some women are baby machines. Combined efforts are the best form of birth control (condom + bc works pretty damned well. Condom + bc + pulling out works even better. Wetsuit + no penetration = impossible to get her pregnant and to get wood. no sex = safe sex) Dont worry i'm not preaching that you can't have sex because trust me...i've been down that line. I had sex first when i was 17. But i did a lot of research on this kinda stuff...so i knew to be safe. Single efforts can work but are also risky (condom = 80% effective. Birth Control = 95% effective if she is RELIGIOUS about taking it. pulling out = 20% effective...and sometimes not effective at all because your pre-ejaculate can have sperm in it) Just be safe next time...take matters into your own hands (i'm not saying jack off i mean wrap it)
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/21, 02:45 PM Baby machines? -------------- Anni ******* Hard work must have killed somebody
goodoldtex Posts: 564 Joined: 2004/01/25	2004/06/21, 02:46 PM okay don't take that the bad way, i didn't mean it personality etc wise anni...i word things awkwardly sometiems...i mean they're VERY fertile...
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/21, 02:52 PM A man who knows when to genuflect and apologize is a good thing. You are forgiven.:love: -------------- Anni ******* Hard work must have killed somebody
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/21, 03:11 PM Dr. Hardy, I was suggesting that he pull out on top of the advice that Anni gave him. You know to help reduce the risk even more. ============ Quoting from bhardy: Hec, if he hasn't got the self-control to use a condom then he doesn't have the control to "pull out". Furthermore that is a VERY VERY poor method of birth control that only partly reduces the risk of pregnancy. ============= -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/21, 07:51 PM Respect is earned my friend. -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
david_s81 Posts: 543 Joined: 2004/04/09	2004/06/21, 07:56 PM Do you think his g/f would still look hot with a patch. I mean, I saw this girl with a glass eye one time, but never one with a patch. Maybe the pirate look could be another method of birth control. ============ Quoting from anni313: The patch has a 95-99% effective rate when taken correctly. I think that when effectiveness is statistically high that people forget about the women for whom it was not or may not be effective. If 100 women use a birth control method that is, we'll say 96% effective, 4 of those women will become pregnant. If you are not ready for a child, please just always use a condom. Why is that a difficult decision? ============= -------------- A broken clock is right twice a day
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/21, 08:30 PM I think she would look hotter with a patch AND a glass eye than she would with a baby. -------------- Anni ******* Hard work must have killed somebody
dfly411 Posts: 1,352 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/21, 08:59 PM B...I would imagine that you are the guy sitting in the corner of the room, you know the one. It's you, isn't it?
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/21, 11:15 PM Bhardy are you obsessed with trying to get one over on people? Are you that much of a loser? -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/21, 11:31 PM I am sure that you have the analyzation charts already set up. Lets see of Hec's 1114 posts 974 of them have been sarcastic. 104 of them have been direct pot shots at me. 500 of them have been down right mean. HAHA you kill me dude. -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
	2004/06/21, 11:44 PM B, Hec does have a sharp wit. He uses it well. It looks to me like you started this one. Hec also posts on fitness issues. I can't remember a post by you pertaining to fitness. Now go workout. Have one of those special protein shakes you told us all about. -------------- Foolish consistancies are the hobgoblins of small minds. Charlie
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/22, 12:07 AM If you weren't so focused on trying to one up everybody you would have read where I said that my advice to his pulling out was in addition to the advice that anni gave him. I called you Dr Hardy because you blatantly attacked my advice. Go back and read your condescending post. Look within yourself. As for the homophobic remarks, I already was the bigger man and apologized to you for that. Obviously you still cannot let it go. As you said you remember everything that people post, and you throw it back at them in later posts. You are a sad sad little man and if I were in Canada I would smack you in the mouth. -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
Vedakathryn Posts: 1,585 Joined: 2004/05/28	2004/06/22, 12:07 AM Whew....I'm having an anxiety attack, oxygen anyone? -------------- Veda MISERY IS OPTIONAL ***When you are up to your ears in trouble, try using the part that is not submerged. ***The difference between a dream and a goal is a plan. HAVE A GREAT DAY!
JustATadSkinny Posts: 1 Joined: 2004/06/22	2004/06/22, 12:12 AM Hec,Dfly,Charlie and whomever else wants a conflict with me, I am not interested. Nor, am I interested in your opinion of me. I will from this point onwards restrict my comments to fitness issues and let the rest of you deal with the social issues. The end.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/22, 12:14 AM Who are you? -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/22, 12:18 AM You probably are expensive fast -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/22, 12:18 AM Best advice you have given. -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
dfly411 Posts: 1,352 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/22, 06:42 AM No, I'm the weird girl standing off by herself trying to figure out what makes the other people tick. But, at least I can admit it. B, who says that this was a "shot" at you anyway? I was just handing out some sarcasm, like you always do. Apparently you can only dish and not take. What I can't figure out is why you take EVERYTHING as an insult??? You do spend the majority of your time expessing the opposing/debateable view on things, just like the "man in the corner"...and then you don't want to debate. I have told you before, I know there are enough ways in the world for everybody to have one, and I respect your argumentitive spirit. I learned a long time ago that when one's personality is different and they usually walk BEHIND the band wagon, stepping in horse shit is inevidable. You should accept the same.
fsdsk Posts: 959 Joined: 2003/11/30	2004/06/22, 06:58 AM Hec, Dfly, Charlie - you guys are hysterical. I look forward to your posts. I avoid posting on some of your more sarcastic threads simply because I could never keep up with you guys - I would get absolutly slaughtered! Bhardy - face it, you are "one upped" and move on. Dfly is right, everyone here has a different personality you need to learn how to deal with them if you are going to hang here. -------------- There is no substitute for hard work
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/22, 07:09 AM I admit that I do have a bit of weird sarcasm, sometimes I am a bit blunt, and it may not come off the way it is intended on the computer, but I am humble and I will admit if I am wrng, or apologize if I offend anyone. The thing about bhardy is that he is sort of always lurking, waiting to attack and he uses every post that you ever made against you. He doesn't do it an a playful manner. He does it in a condescending manner, he tries to make you feel stupid. I can appreciate a friendly, sarcastic debate. Hell I can handle someone having a laugh at my expense, but I do not like to be attacked and belittled. Go up this post and read his response to my "sarcastic" advice. It was as if he were talking to a four year old. Then when he and my wife got into their little debate he came back and threw my name into it. When he couldn't figure out anything else to say, he was going to log in under another name and continue the argument. That is sad to me. I am done venting. I hope that the moderators ban me for life for being a bully. -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
fsdsk Posts: 959 Joined: 2003/11/30	2004/06/22, 07:12 AM where is asimmer? she seems to be the only one here that keeps you in line.:laugh:
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2004/06/22, 07:50 AM Ok ok ok enough insult throwing you guys! Geez I get busy at work and look what happens LOL. Lets keep it nice. No one is getting banned Hec! And Bhardy take a step back and relax......thanks -------------- LIFT HEAVY! BECOME STRONG, LIKE BULL! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/22, 07:58 AM Mutt promise me that you will not wrap your pythons around my neck until I am blue in the face. -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2004/06/22, 08:02 AM Only if you ask me nicely!:big_smile: -------------- LIFT HEAVY! BECOME STRONG, LIKE BULL! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/22, 08:04 AM Hi Mutt! What are you working on? -------------- Anni ******* Hard work must have killed somebody
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2004/06/22, 08:09 AM I am in sales I am a inside sales rep for ADP and my month (for commission) ends today and if I do not hit 100% of my goal I could get fired....so I have been busy.... -------------- LIFT HEAVY! BECOME STRONG, LIKE BULL! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/22, 08:18 AM Perhaps you should try to sell US something. Is that a PopTart on your desk? -------------- Anni ******* Hard work must have killed somebody
asimmer Posts: 8,201 Joined: 2003/01/07	2004/06/22, 09:44 AM hec - no one can look down on you unless you feel you are les than they. bhardy - you belong. All of you - play nice or sit in seperate corners. It is disheartening to see this site go from a great place to learn things about health and fitnessa dn find motivation and support to a place where people are sniping at each other. Humor is appreciated, sarcasm is funny when it doesn't get too hard and personal. Hec and bhardy - do 20 pushups, look in the mirror and repeat "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and people like me". -------------- \\"Inscribe this on the charm that dangles from your navel, girls. Guys, tattoo this on your biceps: Building muscle and might builds strong minds and character. Respect and humility come from lifting weights and feeding yourself with care. And from these distinguished qualities a great nation of people is built, by God. (Of course the God part is your choice, friend.)\\" Dave Draper
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/22, 10:22 AM 1 He started it 2 I am not stupid 3 Asimmer is mean 4 People better like me or else I will cry 5 I dont care if people like me 6 Charlie touched me in a bad place 7 I am a good person 8 Sorry bhardy 9 getting tired 10 Mutt let go I cant breathe 11 My triceps hurt 12 bhardy hurt my feelings 13 I am human when I get cut I bleed 14 I have 14 tattoos 15 Asimmer please stop standing over me and yelling 16 Should I log this in as a workout? 17 almost there 18 Charlie please get from behind me 19 Dfly see what you started! 20 Dammit CLT use a damn condom already! -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.

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