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dhurt55 Posts: 93 Joined: 2004/01/02	2004/01/24, 08:29 PM Hello Ladies...I have a question. I am on a mission to figure out how the female mind works (yeah right!) and would love to know just what you ladies look for in a guy...physically, personality, and so forth...and dont lie!!!!! :) and u could even mention a few mistakes that we guys should try to avoid making!! -------------- "Without Pains, there come no Gains" -Benjamin Franklin
Jdelts Posts: 1,218 Joined: 2003/10/19	2004/01/24, 09:12 PM You just opened Pandora's Box Dhurt55....lol -------------- May the lift be with you.
dhurt55 Posts: 93 Joined: 2004/01/02	2004/01/25, 10:44 AM Ha Ha...someone has to do it! I am just hoping that in this case, curiosity doesn't kill the cat!!!! -------------- "Without Pains, there come no Gains" -Benjamin Franklin
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/01/25, 10:45 AM I see that the ladies are jumping out of their seats to answer this question. -------------- Hec da Rec in full effect.
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2004/01/25, 11:02 AM C,mon ladies...where are you? It's been 24hrs and no responses? Shhhhh....there still at the gym! ;) -------------- "A will finds a way" Ivan Montreal Canada
dhurt55 Posts: 93 Joined: 2004/01/02	2004/01/25, 02:08 PM Yeah seriously....don't be shy ;) -------------- "Without Pains, there come no Gains" -Benjamin Franklin
cobra93 Posts: 131 Joined: 2003/10/20	2004/01/25, 11:55 PM It's all about the car! ha ha ha... ok, so really I'm not that shallow. I really like a guy who can make me laugh. Looks are good, but for me personality is #1. Being self-assured is a plus, but too much leads to cockiness, which is a major turnoff. I like a guy who can be comfortable with himself and who is not too worried about what others think of him. Intelligence is REQUIRED. I could never date a schmuck..... how's that? I feel like I'm putting an ad in the personals... ha ha ha
heartledfall Posts: 12 Joined: 2004/01/06	2004/01/26, 12:28 AM Wow. Tough question. For me, it's all about personality as well. It's great having a guy who doesn't take himself seriously all the time, and can be completely comfortable acting like a total goof-ball and making a fool out of himself, and won't be uncomfortable when I make a fool out of myself. I like being able to go play on a swingset and run around the park, as dumb as that sounds, and for me, it's so awesome when a guy has fun doing that as well. Having a great sense of humor is a really good quality. As far as looks go, I don't really have a "list" of qualities I want a guy to have. Somebody who takes care of himself is a good thing...you know, hygiene, stuff like that ;-). I feel like I'm kind of copying cobra93 here, but she pretty much listed the main ones. The most important thing though, is be nice, and be yourself. And I know that for myself, it's nice to feel special, and like I'm important to somebody, so doing little things to make a girl feel like she means something to you will go a LOOOONG way. It really is the little things that count, as cliched as that sounds. Hope this helps! Courtney
	2004/01/26, 12:33 AM Yo Hec and delts, sounds like they were talkin about me huh???? -------------- Living well is the best revenge. Charlie
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/01/26, 07:36 AM Sounds like they listed all of your qualities Charlie. No wonder you keep getting all those advertisements for Viagra. The ladies cant stay away from you!! -------------- Hec da Rec in full effect.
Leilita808 Posts: 154 Joined: 2004/01/07	2004/01/26, 08:43 AM everyone, whether they admit it or not, starts with looks; however, what a lady wants along with looks (beauty is in the eye of the beholder) honesty and a good sense of humor.
Leilita808 Posts: 154 Joined: 2004/01/07	2004/01/26, 08:45 AM oh yeah...all of you who have pictures, how did you do it? I have tried twice now to upload jpeg files
cobra93 Posts: 131 Joined: 2003/10/20	2004/01/26, 09:04 AM Oh Charlie......if only I were 30 years OLDER..... *sigh*
perfect_elise Posts: 63 Joined: 2003/10/07	2004/01/26, 09:25 AM I'm not going to say anything about looks as they're just a hook that can rip your lip apart. I think perseverance is important if you want to get a girl...many girls like to see how far you'd go for them before they accept you. And don't cry if she rejects you once, try to act as if you know you're going to get her anyway. :D Otherwise, be relaxed and warm, girls like that self-assured yet understated look on a guy. ;) -------------- ...snow can wait, I forgot my mittens...
I_Am-aZon Posts: 893 Joined: 2003/02/18	2004/01/26, 09:30 AM What women look for in a guy: A pulse is very beneficial – hard to get a guy to take out the trash, do the dishes and laundry is there isn’t a live heartbeat…lmao sorry – couldn’t resist (I may pay dearly for that comment :P Oh – you were serious …ok, here’s my own personal viewpoint (not necessarily shared by all): As to the physical appearance – I cannot deny that physical attractiveness is what can initially grab attention. But so can a fantastic sense of humour, intelligence, charm etc. Physical appearance only goes so far – there’s got to be much more than that. Since we women are all different (and because we just want to keep you guys confused) there may be many opinions to your question. Myself, I tend to like a quiet confidence (confidence not to be confused with arrogance). Someone who can out-warp and quickly outwit my sense of humour and challenge my brain (er, maybe not all that difficult lol) I find intriguing. Mistakes: Uhm…. Some men tend to talk endlessly on about themselves, on and on and on........ – maybe to try to prove to us how wonderful they are – Perhaps they are - I don’t know; but I think I would like to find these wonderful qualities out for myself rather than a recital. Humble confidence. Nothing wrong with some interaction and self-disclosure, but if you see a gals eyes starting to glaze over – perhaps this should be a clue to wrap up the soliloquy. Listen to what we say – really! Amazing fact! A real potential possible relationship killer is having someone ask me a question then fade away and not listen to the answer –just rehearsing what they will say next (hey! maybe I was talking on and on and on about myself! Oops! Dammit! Lol)
	2004/01/26, 09:35 AM Did you say somthin' Lana??? -------------- Living well is the best revenge. Charlie
berze Posts: 32 Joined: 2004/01/20	2004/01/26, 09:36 AM wow it sounds like there profiling me goodlooking, smart, funny,godlike..... just kidding that was my humour side talking. -------------- RCD Tanker
I_Am-aZon Posts: 893 Joined: 2003/02/18	2004/01/26, 09:49 AM LMAO nope..not me..I was too busy listening.....:P
dhurt55 Posts: 93 Joined: 2004/01/02	2004/01/26, 11:10 AM GREAT! Keep em' coming ladies....I am gaining tons of knowledge here!! ;) -------------- "Without Pains, there come no Gains" -Benjamin Franklin
cobra93 Posts: 131 Joined: 2003/10/20	2004/01/26, 01:33 PM Here is a HUGE mistake that a lot of guys make (either by sheer stupidity or just general jackassness): NEVER EVER EVER try to make my decisions for me without prior consent. For example, if you are renting a movie at blockbuster, I don't care what you get. No need to consult me. BUT if, for example, you are thinking of taking the relationship to the next level....ask first! I once dated a guy who told me that he was trying to decide if he was going to have sex with me. WHAT??? Hellooooo? Don't I have a choice in this? Needless to say, we didn't date much longer. Women are not pets, don't try to keep up on leashes or maintain us by going for walks in the park.....grrrrrrr.......... wow, I feel like I'm in a made-for-tv lifetime movie
I_Am-aZon Posts: 893 Joined: 2003/02/18	2004/01/26, 01:43 PM lol @ cobra - I can't believe that guy! taking it to the next level - I bet you "levelled" him lol
	2004/01/26, 01:51 PM I can't figure out what to do with you cobra. I'll let you know when I decide. -------------- Living well is the best revenge. Charlie
	2004/01/26, 01:54 PM oops, were you talkin again lana??? I wasn't listening. Sorry -------------- Living well is the best revenge. Charlie
dhurt55 Posts: 93 Joined: 2004/01/02	2004/01/26, 02:06 PM HAHA...come on, I know that there's way more women that visit this site than this!! Let's hear your opinions!! Us guys need to know these things ladies...... ;) -------------- "Without Pains, there come no Gains" -Benjamin Franklin
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2004/01/26, 05:24 PM Looks like the AMAZON lady is back in full force! So looks don't matter, eh girls?? HAHAHA! -------------- "A will finds a way" Ivan Montreal Canada
I_Am-aZon Posts: 893 Joined: 2003/02/18	2004/01/26, 05:30 PM Hey carivan - Haven't had any abuse from you in awhile - thought you'd given up and decided you were defeated lol(hehehe) Anyway - I didn't say looks don't matter - just that there needs to be sooo much more :)
Leilita808 Posts: 154 Joined: 2004/01/07	2004/01/26, 05:46 PM I agree. dhurt55, if the girl does not like you how you are...oh well =(
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2004/01/26, 05:59 PM I never give up Lana....only sponge Bob gave up! -------------- "A will finds a way" Ivan Montreal Canada
rpacheco Posts: 3,770 Joined: 2001/12/13	2004/01/26, 06:50 PM ============ Quoting from cobra93: Oh Charlie......if only I were 30 years OLDER..... *sigh* ============= Cobra, why would you settle for Charlie when you've already got the Justin Timberlake look-alike?! -------------- **_Robert_** Pain is temporary; glory is forever!
	2004/01/26, 07:29 PM If I was just a little bit brighter, I would think I'd been insulted!! -------------- Living well is the best revenge. Charlie
Taurie Posts: 374 Joined: 2003/10/15	2004/01/26, 08:03 PM Charisma is #1 for me. I may not be attracted to someone at first glance but, if they have a super radiant personality they suddenly become incredibly attractive/sexy. Conventionally good looking men can be a bit boring. But, that my opinion.
cobra93 Posts: 131 Joined: 2003/10/20	2004/01/26, 11:55 PM Watch it Charlie. Snakes bite. hiissssssssss..............
Jdelts Posts: 1,218 Joined: 2003/10/19	2004/01/27, 12:19 AM This is such basic stuff that you women are looking for in a man BUT we somehow know how to F it up...except Charlie. TAURIE...Hitler had charisma. -------------- May the lift be with you.
	2004/01/27, 12:22 AM yo Robert, I think you been ignored. -------------- Living well is the best revenge. Charlie
Julisa Posts: 87 Joined: 2004/01/27	2004/01/27, 09:02 AM I just want a man that can keep up with me and show genuine interest in something other than my boobs.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/01/27, 09:32 AM I am sorry did you boob something Julisa? I mean say? -------------- Hec da Rec in full effect.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/01/27, 11:11 AM That settles it I am the perfect man!! Minus the high cheek bones, beautiful eyes, kissable lips, blemish free, solid skin, and lean, sculpted body!!! -------------- Hec da Rec in full effect.
Taurie Posts: 374 Joined: 2003/10/15	2004/01/27, 12:47 PM Jdelts, this is what charisma means to me: Personal magnetism or charm. Not to be confused with obsession and tyranny. I enjoy light hearted individuals that don't take themselves or life too seriously. Great, now it sounds like I'm posting an ad;) ============ Quoting from jdelts: This is such basic stuff that you women are looking for in a man BUT we somehow know how to F it up...except Charlie. TAURIE...Hitler had charisma. =============
Jdelts Posts: 1,218 Joined: 2003/10/19	2004/01/27, 01:33 PM Chuck's not available Taurie...my girlfriend once said I had charisma..but, I like to think of myself self as whimsical and full of tomfoolery. KROMONE...I don't think any woman here said that personality is the "only" thing they look for. They listed other attributes. I admire your "TRUE, RAW, REAL" opinion though. My girlfriend likes my butt. -------------- May the lift be with you.
	2004/01/27, 01:52 PM Nice butt there delts!! -------------- Living well is the best revenge. Charlie
Taurie Posts: 374 Joined: 2003/10/15	2004/01/27, 01:54 PM Jdelts, lol...Charlie isn't my type...he's married. I never said I wasn't a sucker for a handsome face and nice glutes. I said that 'cause I found myself in lust after some guy that didn't fit my aesthetic ideal. I had complete tunnel vision...it's been 2 months now that I've been biting my bottom lip...watching from a distance.
	2004/01/27, 02:05 PM Taurie I am better lookin than the buffalo.. I love it when those young cuties bite their bottom lip over me!! -------------- Living well is the best revenge. Charlie
Taurie Posts: 374 Joined: 2003/10/15	2004/01/27, 02:18 PM lol...what's a girl to do?
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/01/27, 03:29 PM No fair all the hotties gush over Charlie =( -------------- Hec da Rec in full effect.
dellafalls Posts: 41 Joined: 2003/09/27	2004/01/27, 03:54 PM Hey dhurt so you want the skinny on how the female mind works do you!!! I don't know if I should let you in on the skinny but what the hell.... It all depend.... I think it is more inportmant that you figure out what you want in a women, this may take some time, you may need to meet alot of women.To figue it out. What I personaly look for is someonw who is motivated, works hard, takes care of themselves, cares for there family, and there relationships, can have fun, is sincere, honest, can have a real connection, no superficalness, makes mistakes and learns from them, takes risks, good with there money, has a positive personality, is sponatious, at ease in different situations, has a spirtual connection, rolls with the punchs, is an equal to me, likes my dog, does try to chnage me, and does want to be changed saved ect.
dellafalls Posts: 41 Joined: 2003/09/27	2004/01/27, 03:57 PM oops i mean does not try to change my or does not want o be changed by me!!!
Taurie Posts: 374 Joined: 2003/10/15	2004/01/27, 04:03 PM dellafalls...think we're looking for the same man!
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2004/01/27, 04:27 PM ============ Quoting from dellafalls: someonw who is motivated, works hard, takes care of themselves, cares for there family, and there relationships, can have fun, is sincere, honest, can have a real connection, ======================= Ok so I take care of my family etc....does that make me a good canidate for you Dellafalls?? (JK) Taurie...In response to your ad!!come on up to Montreal!HEHeee! -------------- "A will finds a way" Ivan Montreal Canada
	2004/01/27, 04:37 PM dellafalls said "To figue it out. What I personaly look for is someonw who is motivated, works hard, takes care of themselves, cares for there family, and there relationships, can have fun, is sincere, honest, can have a real connection, no superficalness, makes mistakes and learns from them, takes risks, good with there money, has a positive personality, is sponatious, at ease in different situations, has a spirtual connection, rolls with the punchs, is an equal to me, likes my dog, does try to chnage me, and does want to be changed saved ect. That is one long sentence. We are men, keep it simple. -------------- Living well is the best revenge. Charlie
Taurie Posts: 374 Joined: 2003/10/15	2004/01/27, 04:38 PM ;) ============ Quoting from carivan: =============

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