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richardjst Posts: 410 Joined: 2002/07/13	2003/06/30, 11:24 PM Here's the deal (summarized run down) I asked a girl out in 8th grade she said no didn't talk to me after. My brother went to the hospital, diagnosed as terminally ill needing a heart and lung transplant. After almost a month in the hospital he came home (to die at age seventeen) for Thanksgiving. Then this girl becomes good friends with him, she came over when he was on his death bed. Since, then being home my brother has progressively gotten better, but it will only last so long. She has become his best friend. I like her a lot. Do I chance asking her out scaring her off? What should I do...She leaves for college in a month and half...do I chance their relationship as well as mine for my feelings of her. Well, there it is what is your opinions? -------------- Diet- Only take what you need...There is no fine line between want and need, there is the whole continent of South America.~Dick
tarab21 Posts: 508 Joined: 2003/03/31	2003/06/30, 11:26 PM No, I would let that one go. It just seems "wrong" to me.
padua Posts: 219 Joined: 2003/02/17	2003/06/30, 11:37 PM sorry to hear about your bother but sometime we have to puch are own feeling a side for the joy of others (your brother)you took the chance once by telling her..and her response was not what you wanted....leave it the way it is your brother found a bestfriend and she wants to be it...stepping aside is the best thing you will ever do in your life...10 years down the road you will look back and think the same.....if you ask her out i think that she will feel like you didn't think about your brothers feeling...let her enjoy the memory so when she does ask how your doing it will not be weird.......you have years to fall in love .......if it is going to happen between you two don't force it let it happen, because if she has not showed interest don't you think that means that she is not interested????
richardjst Posts: 410 Joined: 2002/07/13	2003/06/30, 11:38 PM It's amazing how quick one can get a response on this website...WOW! I know it seems wrong...Logically, I'm losing sleep over it because my heart is telling me different. I just need someone to talk to and with the added pressure with my brother the way he his, I have no where to go to express myself its all bottled up inside. -------------- Diet- Only take what you need...There is no fine line between want and need, there is the whole continent of South America.~Dick
richardjst Posts: 410 Joined: 2002/07/13	2003/06/30, 11:44 PM That's some good advice, she has showed much interest that's why I became intrigued again. She is just much my friend as she has now become his. When I first asked her out lets just say, it was pre-exercise. I was a duffle bag, nay bean bag, nay I was the sofa. Now I am a much different person then I was the first time. Thanks a lot you guys, she's a wonderful girl/person, I guess I just got to let the butterflies in my stomach fly away. -------------- Diet- Only take what you need...There is no fine line between want and need, there is the whole continent of South America.~Dick
padua Posts: 219 Joined: 2003/02/17	2003/06/30, 11:51 PM really give it some time maybe your friendship will grow but for now think about other things ..hope you feel better soon (your heart can be the easiest thing to break and can take the longest to heal....)
richardjst Posts: 410 Joined: 2002/07/13	2003/07/01, 04:37 PM True that's all that is on my mind is my brother...That's why I need someone I can trust and talk to. It really takes a toll on an eighteen year old when his seventeen year old brother gives him a list of phone numbers to call, when he's ready to die. Life sucks. Thanks...I need someone to talk to, guess it shouldn't be her even though she nows me better then any girlfriend I've ever had. I just got to let her go. -------------- Diet- Only take what you need...There is no fine line between want and need, there is the whole continent of South America.~Dick
tarab21 Posts: 508 Joined: 2003/03/31	2003/07/01, 04:38 PM Nothing wrong with just having a good friend, she doens't have to be a girlfriend in order for you two to talk
richardjst Posts: 410 Joined: 2002/07/13	2003/07/01, 04:47 PM Thanks guys I really appreciate it.