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2005/09/17, 08:26 PM
Why do the people I live with (especially my step father) want to try to sabotage my diet and goals?
He doesn't care about losing weight; or the fact that I am preparing for a physical agility test for the fire department, that I will be taking in less than a week!
He always complains, but when I complain... it is "causing drama". We aren't using the bikes he bought and fixed... Well let's break it down... my mom can not exercise yet... they are making sure her thyroid medicine is correct... I don't ride bikes (he didn't even ask before he bought them)... and he doesn't want to exercise (He had enough of that in the Army... so he says)
When I fix extra protein for myself, (usually he is cooking and we are having pasta for dinner) he jumps up and down stating the fact that he is cooking dinner... He doesn't have to buy the food I cook for myself, and I am not asking him to cook or fix it....
And he fried porkchops for tonight... not even giving me a chance to bake mine...
Chris
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2005/09/18, 11:50 AM
I see this all the time. People who are unwilling to change feel you shouldn't be changing either (sometimes). So, because they are unwilling to change or get healthier, they will continue to live and eat as they do and expect you to do the same, bringing out the chips and pop and all that stuff.
Sometimes the best situation is to stay away from these people, but with family, it's tough. I suppose cooking your meal separately is the best suggestion.
Good luck.
t
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2005/09/18, 08:34 PM
I try to cook my meal seperate, and it is easy to do when I am cooking, or even when my mom is cooking... my step father doesn't want anyone in the kitchen while he is cooking, don't try to give him any advice, or short-cuts, and put in some ear plugs if you get in his way, even if you are cooking something else....
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2005/09/19, 08:42 AM
maybe cook ahead. do up a whole batch of chicken breast, chops, etc. and either freeze them, or fridge them. then you dont need to worry about cooking, just defrost/heat em up and they're ready to go.
maybe next time he spazzes, sit him down and explain your situation. make sure he sees that your goals differ from his, and that you are actively pursuing a reputable career that needs this kind of training and discipline. i'm sure he will support your future goals.
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2005/09/19, 11:24 AM
If what bropie suggested doesn't work you might try scheduling your meals at a completely different time then the rest of the family. You may get some flack for that as well, but it may be easier to take a walk while they eat and then eat directly after. Or perhaps eat an hour before. You could do this only on the days your step-father cooks. I am assuming it's not practical for you to move out at this time?
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2005/09/19, 12:28 PM
Dinner time is the only time I eat with my family... my mom understands that I need to eat differently, but she still wants me to eat with the family... it really is the only time we have together.
I cook most of the time, but occasionally he gets a wild hair and will start it before I get a chance... Spaghetti is a meal fixed often when he cooks, but I can't eat it every week... it has started to make me sick. I love to eat fish...but haven't had it for dinner in a while, mainly because he complains of the smell (I cook it for lunch all the time and don't hear him complain when he gets home). I don't drink sodas... but he is constantly asking me if I want one. Every time he goes to the store (this is why we stopped sending him) he picks up junk food too. I am a known stress eater... if it is not in the house... I will not eat it... this is the rule! I wish I could move out... but with me starting a new career... I need a lot of down time (study time). Workouts are not just for fun anymore, serious training has started...and everything I do I must plan for.
Sometimes I think he just wants me to give up and fail... then again, maybe this is what I need to get him off my back!
Chris
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