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Saying I Love You......

Rainnin81
Rainnin81
Posts: 118
Joined: 2005/05/20
United States
2005/06/20, 07:55 PM
Hey peeps!
Kinda new here but thought I would ask your advice on something.
I have been dating my BF for about 8months. We still have not said the L word. Is this normal?
I totally feel it but I am scared to be the first one to say it.
I know he got burned from his ex that he dated for 7 years (6 years ago) and that he hasn't had a real relationship since.
He talks about our future alot, kids, our house, etc. which makes me believe he loves me. His best friend told me that he hasn't seen him this happy in a long time and that he does love me.
Do you think he is just as scared as me to say or admidt it and I should just go for it?
Wait it out?

Thanks, I know this isn't brain surgery or first grade but I REALLY do love this man and don't want him to feel rushed or scare him off....
London
London
Posts: 176
Joined: 2003/01/10
United States
2005/06/20, 08:07 PM
Sometimes it's just a weird subject to broach, cause you don't want to say it and freak them out, or not hear it back. But odds are, they'll say it back, and if they don't, maybe you shouldn't be with them?

Sometimes a glass of wine or two can help as well :laugh:
fsdsk
fsdsk
Posts: 959
Joined: 2003/11/30
United States
2005/06/20, 08:16 PM
Just say it.....he is probably just as afraid as you are.

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Every man hears only what he understands -Goethe
ksmith2474
ksmith2474
Posts: 166
Joined: 2005/06/12
United States
2005/06/20, 09:48 PM
you wanna hear something funny? i have been with my b/f for almost 4 years. i think we have said 'i love you' to each other maybe 5 times. it was almost 2 years before we said it the first time. i know he loves me, i don't need him to tell me.

i can feel it and i can see it in the things he does for me.

i guess what it comes down to is if you HAVE to say i love you, who are you trying to convince? yourself or the other person?

i'm not syaing that i love you all the time is wrong...but i think it is more important to show it and feel it than to hear it and say it

...but that's just my opinion



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Kristi

There are no endings, only new beginnings
Lecter
Lecter
Posts: 249
Joined: 2005/06/04
France
2005/06/21, 07:12 AM
The eyes are the mirror to the soul...

W.S.

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ksmith2474
ksmith2474
Posts: 166
Joined: 2005/06/12
United States
2005/06/21, 07:56 AM

i couldn't agree with you more....:love::love::love:
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Quoting from lecter:

The eyes are the mirror to the soul...

W.S.


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Kristi

There are no endings, only new beginnings
gangstershoes
gangstershoes
Posts: 641
Joined: 2005/05/27
United States
2005/06/21, 12:17 PM
Just joke around and state "I know you love me" it doesn't put you on the limb and keeps things light. good luck, and remember you can always grab another man's butt for comfort. <ie. nice pic>
bigandrew
bigandrew
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Joined: 2002/10/21
United States
2005/06/21, 06:10 PM
Some guys....say it with action than with words.....we hold hands kiss, look at you in a certain way......thats "our way" of "saying" it.....women however like to be told it , nothing wrong with it....just the wiring is differant....I mean no word will truly describe, how he really feels for you....love is just word......actionand feelings is what "love" truly is.

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ksmith2474
ksmith2474
Posts: 166
Joined: 2005/06/12
United States
2005/06/21, 08:47 PM
:love::love:absolutely:love::love:

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Quoting from bigandrew:

Some guys....say it with action than with words.....we hold hands kiss, look at you in a certain way......thats "our way" of "saying" it.....women however like to be told it , nothing wrong with it....just the wiring is differant....I mean no word will truly describe, how he really feels for you....love is just word......actionand feelings is what "love" truly is.


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Kristi

There are no endings, only new beginnings
PoolMaster1990
PoolMaster1990
Posts: 164
Joined: 2005/06/09
United States
2005/06/21, 11:00 PM
andrew is exactly right i dont really tell my gf's that i love them, liek the old adage goes... actions speak louder than words

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