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Created: 2011/12/31, Members: 42, Messages: 22740

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bb1fit Posts: 11,105 Joined: 2001/06/30	2003/07/04, 10:34 AM I would like to take this opportunity to wish all members a very happy 4th of July! God bless America! We are living in the greatest country in the world. -------------- As far as genetics go, the skies the limit. You are limited only by your mental perception of it. Ron

tarab21 Posts: 508 Joined: 2003/03/31	2003/07/04, 10:36 AM Thanks, Happy 4th of July ! And Happy Canada Day 3 days late to all the Canadians.
padua Posts: 219 Joined: 2003/02/17	2003/07/04, 11:05 AM thank you ,,,you have a great one yourself too....and yes America is great!!
rev8ball Posts: 3,081 Joined: 2001/12/27	2003/07/04, 11:22 AM Dittos, Ron! -------------- Michael "Trample the weak; hurdle the dead!"
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2003/07/04, 04:25 PM From a Canadian in "The true North Strong and Free" Thank you Tara and Happy 4th to my neighbours in USA! -------------- You can walk to anywhere you want, it only takes time. Ivan Montreal Canada (aka SpongeBob Square Pants to some!)
azredhead57 Posts: 1,651 Joined: 2003/04/11	2003/07/05, 04:35 AM OK, this seems like a good place to ask my question. I admit I have had a bit to drink...and I haven't had any drink in 2 months so it has gone straight to my head (and I am having trouble typing...lol). I need some advice, or at least some input. I asked my hubby 2 months ago to take this week off since I was taking it off to do some 'home improvement stuff. On Sunday he informed me that he had taken this week off to help his brother move and totally 'pretended' that he didn't remember that I was taking this week off to do stuff. He has been gone since Tuesday and I have been working my ass off doing stuff here by myself. I was upset that he made the choice that he did, but have stayed really busy doing the work. I asked him to call me often and the last 2 days I have had to call him at 10pm cuz he hadn't called me. Tonight, 4th of July, he didn't call me and I am ready to call it quits. Am I wrong in being upset that everyone else comes before me? Hemade all kinds of excuses for not wanting me to go and today he KNEW I was alone and pretty much cleaning house ane he hasn't even bothered calling me. I was going to have a glass of wine, but ended up having a whole bottle waiting for him to call. Am I wrong thinking that his 'good time' is more important than my peace of mind???? I know I wouldn't be writing this if I wasn't so upset, but I feel really low. Is this just typical male behavior? -------------- ~Victoria~ ...There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.--Beverly Sills
t-babe Posts: 441 Joined: 2003/02/20	2003/07/05, 02:34 PM Sorry you're feeling like this az. It's hard to put something out there without knowing any of the situation but you guys have obviously got a communication problem. You're feeling like you're not his number 1 priority and you're down cos you guys are not together. I think you've a right to feel down because you asked him so far in advance and he only gave you a days notice of him helping his brother move. You'd think this may have been brought up in conversation before now. I think you need to sit down and talk with your husband and give yourself time to really talk things through. Maybe even write some stuff down that's been really bothering you so that you get these points across. There's nothing worse than thinking later, "I wish I'd said that". Sorry you're not having a good 4th and I hope you're able to sort out your problems with your hubby. Take care.
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2003/07/05, 10:59 PM First off, Sad to see your alone going through your chores. Secondly, NO that is not "just typical male behavior". When he gets back you'd better talk things out, because the alcohol won't solve the problem (but enjoy it while you can). Sounds like something is not kosher if you know what I mean. Talk to him and see what his present priorities are. If you need to talk...email me or post. -------------- You can walk to anywhere you want, it only takes time. Ivan Montreal Canada (aka SpongeBob Square Pants to some!)
I_Am-aZon Posts: 893 Joined: 2003/02/18	2003/07/07, 02:27 PM az: I agree with t-babe and carivan - you guys really need to talk & soon! This website may help: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ for what it's worth, I hope it helps.
azredhead57 Posts: 1,651 Joined: 2003/04/11	2003/07/07, 03:32 PM Thanks guys, I really appreciate having this forum to vent. I was pretty upset. We talked some when he got back and he apologized. We are supposed to go away this weekend and I hope to cover some more ground. He just doesn't talk much and is passive-aggressive so it is extremely hard to ever get anything discussed. I am the opposite and feel free to talk about every little thing. I waited 20 years from when my first marriage ended to try it again. I was absolutely sure that I was ready and it was what I wanted, but sometimes I wonder if maybe he isn't so sure. I know from experience that if he wants something else it may not have anything to do with me, but the natural reaction is 'what did I do and how can I fix it?' Needless to say all this stress has me off my program and the last thing I feel like doing is eating. -------------- ~Victoria~ ...There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.--Beverly Sills
INTRUDER Posts: 642 Joined: 2002/06/27	2003/07/07, 05:45 PM Hope things work-out and good luck. -------------- "Get everthing you want--just make a little change now"
INTRUDER Posts: 642 Joined: 2002/06/27	2003/07/07, 05:58 PM Hope things work-out and good luck. -------------- "Get everthing you want--just make a little change now"
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2003/07/07, 06:38 PM AZ...work it out, and now is the time you really need to train. Give it a try. You will see, you will get something out of it and stay positive. -------------- You can walk to anywhere you want, it only takes time. Ivan Montreal Canada (aka SpongeBob Square Pants to some!)
azredhead57 Posts: 1,651 Joined: 2003/04/11	2003/07/08, 01:09 PM Ok, dragged myself to the gym yesterday and managed to eat most of what I was supposed to. Going again today and tomorrow....getting back on track. I at least got him to listen to me yesterday even if he didn't say much. Thanks again all. And amazon, I really liked that website. Even gave a friend the url...thanks. -------------- ~Victoria~ ...There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.--Beverly Sills
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2003/07/08, 04:19 PM Good Going. The workout gives us peace of mind even if it's only for a short duration and it also builds our confidence. Don't miss out. Glad to see your trying. -------------- You can walk to anywhere you want, it only takes time. Ivan Montreal Canada (aka SpongeBob Square Pants to some!)
	2011/03/01, 02:45 PM holy crap, what has this place turned into? We have some kind of love solicitation letter posted on an 8 year old 4th of July thread.
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2011/03/05, 06:08 AM Looks interesting if I was a person with no brains but on that note, maybe it's true. I received for copies of this in my FT mailbox!
	2011/03/06, 01:32 PM The letter disappeared. Why no "message deleted by blah blah blah?"
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2011/03/15, 11:41 AM Cause I did not do it that way you ol fart -------------- FOR MY WIFE: THE HIGH COST OF LIVING AINT NOTHING COMPARED TO THE COST OF LIVING HIGH. \\"Take the Princess to saftey, there are only 50, nothing I can not handle!\\" Thundarr The Barbarian 7707mutt@freetrainers.com