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V-DAY GIFT...HELP!!

Julisa Posts: 87 Joined: 2004/01/27	2004/02/10, 12:50 PM I need help getting a gift for a man that is "some-what" in my life at the moment. We are not real serious, just dating casually every now and again, but I found out today that he got something for me. Should I give him something in return? Crap, where is Miss Manners when you need her!?!?
jcannuck Posts: 210 Joined: 2004/01/31	2004/02/10, 01:48 PM Something not too forward would be a movie night, either out or in (your choice) but the movie is HIS choice and you pick-up the tab.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/02/10, 01:57 PM No way should a woman ever take a man out on Valentine's day. As a man I would not allow it, I would insist on paying. If you want to do something for him, get all dolled up and let him take you on a date. A card should suffice. -------------- Hec da Rec in full effect.
Julisa Posts: 87 Joined: 2004/01/27	2004/02/10, 02:59 PM jc...I like the idea, but, because he and I are only casually dating, I haven't allowed him inside my house as of yet, still, I guess I could take him out. My fear is that if he shows up with a little box of chocolates and then I have all this big stuff planned, he will think that I am way more interested than I really am...he already wants to be way too serious as it is!! What's a good man-movie I could take him to anyway? I don't even know what is out. Hec, aren't you the gentleman...bet you're a bitch to buy for at Christmas;) If you guys were him, how would you feel if I were to get you a gift certificate for a massage or something like that and wrap it up in manly foo-foo stuff? He could use it after one of his workouts. Would that be something appreciated that didn't scream "I want to be your woman?"
jcannuck Posts: 210 Joined: 2004/01/31	2004/02/10, 03:34 PM No! No massage, that comes later, and it comes from you. Again, the choice of movie would be his idea so you don't have to choose it. How about this...buy two gift certificates, general admissions, whatever for the movies, put them in a your purse. If he has got you something, and you feel like reciprocating (sp?), pull them out and say the movie is on you (make sure the evening is clear). This way, if things don't "feel" right, the tickets stay in your purse and you can use them with whomever, whenever you want. Nothing to loose! As for it being too serious, just make sure you keep a light loose attitude about it, he'll get the hint. Although we always profess to know nothing about women, we usually pick-up on vibes pretty good. To satisfy Hec, he can pick-up any drinks or dessert after.
fryer91 Posts: 441 Joined: 2003/09/29	2004/02/10, 04:32 PM Ahh, just get him a six pack of gatorade or powerade, and some sweet tarts, with a nice little bow and a note that says Happy VD!
Carivan Posts: 8,542 Joined: 2002/01/20	2004/02/10, 05:13 PM I have to agree with wreked hek! -------------- "A will finds a way" Ivan Montreal Canada
azredhead57 Posts: 1,651 Joined: 2003/04/11	2004/02/10, 05:29 PM A funny card and some kind of gift card. Like to Borders or Old Navy. Something impersonal but still thoughtful. It sounds like you are trying to keep him at arms length so you dont want to do anything that could be misconstrued as romantic or leading him on. Of course, if you dont feel like getting him something, there is no law that says you must. If someone hadnt told you he got you something, would you even be worrying about this? Good luck. -------------- ~Victoria~ ...Do not be discouraged; everyone who got where he is, started where he was.--anon ...There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.--Beverly Sills
goodoldtex Posts: 564 Joined: 2004/01/25	2004/02/10, 10:55 PM fryer make sure you specify valentines day and not venerial disease ;)
mmaibohm Posts: 1,621 Joined: 2003/09/30	2004/02/11, 12:28 AM Back a few years ago my Wife who was the gf then got me a real cool skull shift knob from hot topic. I named him fred and he is now in jeep number 3 lol. -------------- I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it is gone past me I will turn to see fear's path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain
Julisa Posts: 87 Joined: 2004/01/27	2004/02/11, 07:30 AM Thanks everybody....I think I have decided. I found out that he collects Nascar stuff, so I am going to get him a little something in that area of focus and a generalized valentine's day card...and just call it a day. Whatcha thing? Sound good?
fryer91 Posts: 441 Joined: 2003/09/29	2004/02/11, 09:28 AM Sounds good Julisa...
azredhead57 Posts: 1,651 Joined: 2003/04/11	2004/02/11, 01:11 PM Sounds perfect.....thoughtful. -------------- ~Victoria~ ...Do not be discouraged; everyone who got where he is, started where he was.--anon ...There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.--Beverly Sills
goodoldtex Posts: 564 Joined: 2004/01/25	2004/02/11, 04:22 PM He'll be all over that...good work