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What do I do? (Sorry it is a little long

qsilver18 Posts: 6 Joined: 2003/03/07	2003/05/07, 11:34 PM I am taking one of my friends to prom. I'll admit, I like her and she likes me, and after prom, I know we will probably make out a little. i would like to possibly go all the way with her, but I don't want to be to obvious, but I don't want her to think I don't want her. I have been known to get what I want but never see the girl again and I don't want to do that to her. I also don't want her to think I am just using her b/c it is prom and there is a good chance I won't see her very much after I graduate and leave for school. So if anybody has any advice on what I should do or how I do it, please let me know.
therainmaker Posts: 114 Joined: 2003/01/19	2003/05/08, 05:23 AM Why try to plan it all out? Take it as it comes, if the moment is right it will happen, if not then "oh well". You'll probably end up looking too obvious if you have a game plan. Just be yourself because there is no point in trying to be someone you're not, that will just lead to disaster and you'll get nowhere fast. Why not bring her flowers, show her you care about her rather than trying to show her that you want her? -------------- Be patient, persistent and strong and you will succeed.
Ogun Posts: 559 Joined: 2002/08/11	2003/05/08, 10:32 AM Yeah don't be a prick, especially on prom. I once told a girl in high school that I was so happy to have her as a friend, because I'd never had a girl I could really talk to and ask advice from that was my age without them thinking I wanted something. Two seconds later, she had a liplock on me. Point is, neutral can change real quick. :D -------------- --There are no versions of the truth.-- Jeff Goldblum, Jurassic Park II
greatone Posts: 1 Joined: 2003/04/22	2003/05/12, 10:14 AM Do whatever. Spur the moment.
jefado Posts: 443 Joined: 2003/04/03	2003/05/12, 10:25 AM You know qsilver18...therainmaker just gave you some wonderful advice. Women tend to know when a guy has an agenda or plan....real quick turnoff...at least in my case. So...you seem like a nice guy...just be yourself and let her know that you appreciate her companionship, OK?
effalunt Posts: 333 Joined: 2002/10/17	2003/05/15, 01:47 AM Whoa. Do you want to go from zero to all out in one night? Maybe you should get to know her as 'more than a friend' before you attempt to have sex with her. I DON'T think you sound like a slimy guy, but I'm telling you right now that relationships that start too physical die out really quick. I think there's too much pressure on kids to 'go all the way' on prom night. There will be other nights. -------------- Think you can or think you can't; either way you're right--Goethe
therainmaker Posts: 114 Joined: 2003/01/19	2003/05/15, 05:29 AM Good point effalunt. I think you're right about the pressure, however I do not think it is just on prom night. Unfortunately these days a lot of relationships are based on sex rather than intellectual compatibility. I think this might be partly caused by the media. No matter where you look you see people being judged by how many people they have slept with and how soon they can go all the way with somebody. Unfortunately, as a guy, if you go out with a girl and you do not sleep with her on the first date you are considered somewhat of a looser. qsilver18 if you really care about this girl and not just your image you should just say "to hell with what everybody thinks" and not let anybody pressure you into it. Dare to be different, dare to stand out. -------------- Be patient, persistent and strong and you will succeed.