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zoe04 Posts: 5 Joined: 2004/03/11	2004/03/11, 03:22 PM Here is the short version: Met a guy (26, I'm 24) a few months ago. He called 6 days later (swingers rule) and we went out the following week.. Since then we have gone out of three/four "real" dates and met out another two times (doesn't seem like much but he was out of town for 2 weekends). Those two times he has spent the night over, although nothing really happened. I think he likes me, we suggest things "we" should do, but I am also concerned about the messages I am giving him. Its really hard for me to be comfortable with physical intimacy (unless I have been drinking, I know thats bad), so I feel like saying hello & goodbye are the most stressful parts. I always end of freezing so to speak. So the latest encounter was last weekend. We eventually met up Sat, he came home with me, went out to breakfast the next day. It seemed like everything was fine, he even suggested dinner this week. But when it was time to say bye, all I got was a hug?? So now it's Thursday and I haven't heard from him. Did I miss something?? I just am looking for overall advice; something more than "just wait and see" I am a control freak and want to be more pro-active but without being pushy. How can I get a sense of where he is coming from, as its too soon to actually have "that " talk.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/03/11, 03:31 PM I am confused. -------------- I am still afraid of my mother.
	2004/03/11, 03:34 PM Yeah, talking is way overated as a form of information exchange. -------------- The greatest mystery of life is who we truly are. Charlie
zoe04 Posts: 5 Joined: 2004/03/11	2004/03/11, 03:43 PM I guess I am just wondering what some definite signs of interest are? We made tentative plans for dinner tonight, but I haven't heard from him!
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/03/11, 03:45 PM Believe me if he wasnt interested he wouldnt come around. -------------- I am still afraid of my mother.
yadmit Posts: 4,670 Joined: 2003/10/05	2004/03/11, 03:50 PM Have YOU tried calling him? t -------------- Tim "I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies, for the hardest victory is over self." Aristotle TimDay@freetrainers.com
zoe04 Posts: 5 Joined: 2004/03/11	2004/03/11, 03:53 PM This may sound childish, but I called him last time to initate plans. He is the one who mentioned dinner, I just assumed that if he was interested you would have called to confirm plans. I don't want to be the one "chasing" him.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/03/11, 03:57 PM Were the plans confirmed on the phone last night? I mean give us something to work with here. Did you call him up and initiate plans, then he suggested dinner. Then what you guys hung up? Did he say ok I will call you tomorrow or I will see you tomorrow? Did he say meet me at Applebees at six? If you are that worried call him up and say hey are we still on for dinner? -------------- I am still afraid of my mother.
zoe04 Posts: 5 Joined: 2004/03/11	2004/03/11, 04:06 PM we hung out last sat night.; he slept over, went to breakfast on sun am. That is when he mentioned dinner this week, possibly Thurs. I haven't talked to him since Sun afternoon.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/03/11, 04:09 PM I would do one of two things. If you want to go out with him that bad call him and find out what the deal is. If it were me personally I would make other plans. I wouldn't sit around waiting for him to call me to go to dinner. -------------- I am still afraid of my mother.
zoe04 Posts: 5 Joined: 2004/03/11	2004/03/11, 04:12 PM guess you are right! I was just having a moment of weakness : )