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2004/11/20, 05:51 PM
My mother and my aunt really want to lose weight, but they don't want to let the food go! They still want to eat all the junk food and still lose weight. I keep telling them that's it's not going to happen like that. So I made a deal with them. I said that if they eat right without any cheats whatsoever before they're thanksgiving dinner, they can go crazy on thanksgiving dinner. I said that they can eat whatever in the world that they want but only in that one meal. I told them that if they wanted to eat all the stuffing and pie that they can, that they'll be allowed to and it won't hurt them. But that's only if they didn't cheat until then. Would this be ok? I hope so, cause if it's not, then they're in for a bit of a disappointment.
DX
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2004/11/20, 06:21 PM
sorry DX14AG but 5 days of eating good is not going to do it, they might as well eat what they want leading up to thanksgiving then after that make a goal to eat correctly after that. it's going to take months of proper diet and exercises for them to see some significant changes.
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2004/11/20, 06:23 PM
Well, considering it's less than a week away, a mega-binge at thanksgiving could definetely sabotage their progress so far, or even set them back more.
I learned a long time ago that if someone wants to change their health and appearance, they have to do it for their own reasons, not someone else's. I've had very little luck convincing my family to do simple things like exercise or eliminate trans fats, simply because they don't care. Don't make it your burden to get them healthy, in the end all three of you will end up frustrated and bitter.
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2004/11/21, 11:29 AM
Not to be a bubble burster, but if they want results, they have to commit and make some sacrifices. Saying "they want to lose weight, but they don't want to let the food go!" is like saying I want to drive my car, but I don't want to have to go through the hassle of putting fuel in it, changing the oil, or putting the key in the ignition to start it. The car will not magically turn on, fuel itself, and start off down the road. Similarly thier nutritional situation and weight issue will not self correct. Wanting and doing are two different things. The "doers" get results and the "wanters" complain about thier situation with no success. I commend you for trying to help them. Hopefully they will get on a program, but until they find a reason, choose to change, and get on a program, you will get real frustrated trying to push thier car (with no fuel or key in the ignition) up an incline.
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2004/11/21, 08:16 PM
I'm sorry guys, I guess I didn't tell enough information of the situation. They are (or so they say they are) willing to make sacrifices for their results. What I was trying to say, was if that it was alright for them to eat right for 6 days, and then binge on a meal the last day, and continue doing that. I know and they know that in order to see results they will have to eat right and exercise over a period of time. I've done it, and they see that I have the knowledge of doing so. So they come to me and ask me questions about what they can and cannot do, as well as what they should do. They trust me because they see that I have made results, and they want to see the same results. But like you guys say, it's already getting frustrating trying to keep them on track.
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