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7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/04, 02:31 PM So I have to ask if someone can be depressed about just one thing and yet not feel depressed? LOL that did not make sense.................or did it? -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/12/04, 02:38 PM Ummm..lemme see. I'm depressed about finances constantly, but don't normally feel "blue,sad,or depressed" about it. Something like that?
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/04, 02:40 PM Yeah in a way. I am the main bread winner and lately with the problems with my work( stolen credit cards used to purchase things from us), and now my wife maybe losing her job.....her Doctor is opening
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/04, 02:42 PM another office far away and wants her to work there. -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/12/04, 04:12 PM Sounds like a tough spot. I can't really give any good advice as we've been stuck in barelymakingitsville for the past 3 years, but things will work out for you. Just have to keep truckin along, and know that some how, some way, things will work out. :)
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/12/11, 04:15 PM That was exactly what he said Atiger. That he was thinking what happens if as I'm rounding this corner of the road, there is someone in my lane. That there is nothing he could do about it.
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/05, 10:48 AM Had a great workout last night and I am paying for it right now. MAN DOMS SUCkS!:( -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
ATIGER Posts: 992 Joined: 2003/02/26	2006/12/11, 04:10 PM From that day forward, it seems that nothing matters as much as it did. I have a 6 yr old daughter that is my angel. My wife like mutts had severe problems - 4 miscarriages before my daughter, then severe illness, at 25 weeks my wife went into premature labor an they almost have to deliver my daughter, with the help of God and some severe drugs, my wife spent the rest of the time on bedrest but she was born heathly. We found out later the meds that they gave my wife can cause birth defects. Being a dad is like nothing else. As for death I too think about it from time to time. Mostly when I am driving. Thousands of people die each year in car accidents and not one of them thought that they would die when they left the house. Not one. It gets deep and makes you think. but it does help not taking people for granted.
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/12/05, 11:50 AM Good Job!! I think we all have a love/hate relationship with DOMS. :cool:
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/06, 08:04 AM Mental Health Day I need one. I feel like I am surfing at the top of a tidal Wave. I am not totaly sure why this is. Job is a bit stressfull it is almost Christmas and I have 2 back to back meals on the 24th and 25th to plan and host. I still have to get the wifes presents...good news is the gym is going well or is it? I am hitting new levels that is true, but I am so tired after each workout my wife is not wanting to let me take the boys with me. I get very angry and lash out. I have no idea why except that I am totaly drained and hungry. Just wanted to put these thoughts into reality. -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/06, 08:22 AM IT makes me mad sometimes that I have to take the boys with me. It is a lot of work to drive 30mins home in rush hour traffic, to get myself dressed, eat something, get a shake made, then have to fight with them 2 to get in the car....I just wish I could not workout with them, but then when do I lift? I feel on one hand I either do it like I do now, or wait till they go to bed and not get home till 10pm. Then I have to deal with the wife and "not spending" time with her...there is no easy solution I fear. -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/06, 10:46 AM Well one of my co workers Jim W ( we have two jims here) hit a deer last night with one of our work vans, and then this morning had to go to the ER for heart issues, my boss is in a manic stage (not good) and Jim W brother Mike (mike does the installs) is MIA.....that is why I feel so stress out -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
ATIGER Posts: 992 Joined: 2003/02/26	2006/12/06, 10:53 AM Maybe you are still pushing yourself a little to much with your workouts. That added to it being the holiday season may be a little much for everyone. How about backing it done until after Christmas, enjoying your family during the holidays, enjoying the entire Christmas season, and reducing as much stress as possible. Your batterys will be recharged and the wife will get her time along with the young'uns. Or it could be the "juice" you are on making you ill :laugh::laugh: Just kidding for everyone reading - mutt is not on the juice
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/06, 10:55 AM Thanks I was thinking about holding back and that works until I get to the gym. Just for the record I am not on juice, it tends to be sticky when you sit upon it. -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/12/06, 11:51 AM Especially apple juice! :laugh: Really though Mutt, I think Tiger's hit the nail on the head. The holidays are one of the most stressful times of year, even for people who have no other major stresses in their lives. Maybe you should just take a rest until after Christmas. You've been hitting it so hard, and making major progress, but you don't want to burn out or start lashing out on the fam. Seriously consider just stepping back for a bit and enjoying the gifts you have in front of you. :) :love:
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/06, 12:08 PM I am not sure of what is the root cause.... -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/12/08, 11:52 AM Mutt, how are things going dude?
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/08, 01:20 PM Things are ok. Had a sucky chest workout just did not feel it last night. -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/08, 01:51 PM now the question is do i train tonight or not......either ME squats, Good Mornings or Deadlifts.....someone pick for me! -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
ATIGER Posts: 992 Joined: 2003/02/26	2006/12/08, 01:54 PM take the night off - enjoy the family or squats
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/08, 01:59 PM 1-for squats -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/08, 04:14 PM I am thinking of doing squats tonight but did them already this week, so it is either GM or Deadlifts....since I am in the mood to pull DL it is! -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/12/08, 04:57 PM GOOD MORNINGS!! I don't know what they are but they sound nice!
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/12/11, 01:59 PM Lol.... I think so far my favorite part of the baby weakness has been waking up every morning and getting asked "How's my son this morning?" Seriously, what woman wouldn't love that? :love:
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/11, 02:02 PM LOL, here is what happened to me. I found out we were having Alex, and I had a huge panic attack....I mean this was no lie..I had a child (at the time not sure which kind LOL). I immediatlely started to freakout about how to pay for things I was out of work at that time. I took my old job back and settled in. Each day I woke wondering how I was going to make it....the pregnancy was not wasy she had issues starting at 28 weeks until the end.....we went into L&D at least once every other week. BUt in the end it all worked out and I was a daddy. I would not trade that for anything... -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/12/11, 02:16 PM Yeah, we're both stressed about money, especially with whats going on with my job. Luckily I haven't had any real complications, so don't have worries about that. I know when the day comes, and Ty is holding his little guy, all thats not going to matter so much.
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/11, 02:17 PM Nope nothing takes that day by any means! -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/12/11, 01:55 PM Well it's good to know that most dad's feel that way. Honestly it kinda freaked me out because he's never talked that way before. I'm used to having Superman around all the time.
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/11, 01:56 PM Oh Superman is there just babies are our weakness.... -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
CristalBelle Posts: 1,389 Joined: 2003/06/27	2006/12/11, 11:45 AM Mutt, you should know by now that if something sounds nice, in my brain of course it is nice. :big_smile: On the issue with your family, I'm not sure. I'm thinking there is something in the air affecting husbands. Mine told me last night that he has been thinking a lot about death. We need to get you guys a support group!!
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/11, 10:45 AM No hon they are not nice....they suck, but I did deadlifts instead. Anyway that was fun....getting closer to lifting 405 again. On another note still having thoughts about why I am not likeing being around my family. Not too sure what is up with that. -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
KC_72 Posts: 3,249 Joined: 2006/05/19	2006/12/13, 10:46 AM If your feeling overwhelmed you should talk to your wife about it...but as far as being in "charge" when you are home...I gaurentee your wife feels this is her time off...that it's your turn.It took my husband and I awhile to work this out...but we did.You know you're family is your life...don't let this small stuff consume you.I suggest prayer...ask for relief from these feelings of anger...ask for grace and understanding for your wife...and pray she gets the same for your feelings.Life is fragile...and can be wiped out in an instant...be grateful...you prayed for your family...you got them...it's your job to adore them...we all have a hard time...but it's up to you to find an answer...to find that door..and your duty to have the strength to walk through it.
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/13, 09:08 AM Thanks KC Ok so I was strictly speaking following a WS template, but the last few worksouts that has kind of gone out the door, not totaly, but I have not followed it to the letter. I feel great about it...I think and YES YOU TOLD ME SO, all of you did that I was pushing things and trying to make things happen. Since then I have felt good in the gym. I do not worry about making a PR each time and just well listen to my body. IF I want to be strict with it I am if not I am ok with that. I am leaning more towards increasing the volume of the reps I can do and THEN get back to the 1-4 rep range.....As for the home front, I am still working out where and why I have this anger feeling all the time. -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
KC_72 Posts: 3,249 Joined: 2006/05/19	2006/12/13, 09:13 AM I missed something along the way here...can't find where you started with the anger at home...I know I had a hard time for awhile there...thought my son would literally drive me crazy at that age...I started going into his room at night when he was asleep ...he was so beautiful and sweet when he was sleeping...I'd lay with him and stroke his hair...and try to remember that feeling the next day when I wanted to throttle him..it will pass mutt....just keep talking about it...
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/13, 09:18 AM This is something that has been there just I never spoke about it. I have hated doing things with the family as a whole for a long time now. IT is so much work and I feel that I am the one that is always in "charge" of the boys. I know my wife will totaly disagree with that statement, but nonetheless that is how I feel. IT seems each time we go out and about I am the one left minding them while she shops or whathave you. I hate that. There are things i would like to go look for and at yet that never happens. I just feel a bit overwhelmed at times I guess. -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
flyonthewall Posts: 1,823 Joined: 2005/01/18	2006/12/13, 10:58 AM I found that when the kids were young we relied a lot on the Grandparents for babysitting. They live out of town, so when we went to visit on weekends we would drop the kids off for some "quality time" with the GP's. Typically my hubby and I went golfing or just spent the day/evening together, doing things we did pre-kids. It kept us sane...and married! It also allowed the kids to develop a strong bond with the GP's. We always told them that they successfully raised us, so whatever they wanted to do with the kids was their decisions...no rules from us. If you can even find a good sitter nearby, say a 16 or 17 y/o and set a day 1X per week for them to sit the kids, you and you're wife could either go out together, or better yet, just do your own thing. I think that just knowing you get once per week guaranteed without the kids(and maybe wife) helps keep you from feeling trapped. Just a thought...too bad you live too far, my eldest daughter is a great babysitter:)
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/13, 11:02 AM I hear you KC I am praying a lot. Fly, her mom and dad help us out a lot, but her brother is living at home with his daughter andhis girlefriend and HER son live there as well in a 900 sq ft house...there is not room there for our boys usually. There is a lot here that underlies my feelings that I would rather not go into....but I am working on it it is hard -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/13, 11:04 AM I just want to be told once that I am doing a good job, not "you DID NOT DO THIS this this this and this, this was not done right" then she goes into the whole" I am just going to do everything like usual" speech. Well ok then if you are going to bitch if I try and do something, or bitch if I do not do something what do you think I am going to do? -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
frnchfry81 Posts: 301 Joined: 2006/12/02	2006/12/13, 03:29 PM Hi, I have just been reading this post. And I don't want to butt in cause I know you probably know a lot of these other people longer then me, But I have to ask Does your wife know how you feel. Does she know that you would like be thanked for a job well done. I have to say my husband and I have had this fight before. Women are bossy yes I admit. And with kids around sometimes we revolve all of our energy around them and they piss us off. But you can't take it out on the kids so who's left. Maybe you have talked to her But if you haven't Sometimes it's easier I think to get it out. Say what is on your mind and even argue about it. She may get mad at the way you feel. You'll probably get mad just because she's mad. So what let out it Maybe you both need to vent. Sure your venting here. But I think it will just make you bitter towards your life. You live your life with her. I don't know hell I could even be wrong. But sometimes you just need a real good fight to get back on track. I 'm not saying go in looking to pick a fight But sometimes these things to be brought to other peoples attention She may not be a mind reader. My husband and I put our feelings out there and sometimes we disagree and try to defend ourselves but in the end we see where the mistakes were made. and both except the blame. All I am saying is don't hold the anger in because eventually you will blow and it probably will not be nice. Let out a little steam now. Hey anyway enough with the mushy I'll tell ya one thing though the make up sex is always better after a good showdown:big_smile:
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/13, 03:36 PM Yes we have talked and it always ends with me being the "bad guy" and apologizing for my faults and promising to "do better". Now I AM NOT PERFECT BY ANYMEANS. I do make mistakes, and I am a hard person to live with at times. I just want a fair shake is that too hard to get? LOL -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
frnchfry81 Posts: 301 Joined: 2006/12/02	2006/12/13, 06:45 PM Everybody has faults thats. What point would it be to be perfect How boring. Wish I had some more for ya but I'm fresh Fighting and makeup sex is what works for us. Only on occasion ( fighting that is.) But yes I understand nobody wants to be griped at all the time. And a thankyou and good job goes a long way. By the way my husband taught me that Good luck
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/13, 09:05 PM Well after a little chat with the wife and a call to the doc that did the surgey, a good portion of my anger is understood finally. Part of what gastric bypass does is regualte the horomone and insulin in the body. I have a very low Test level for years.....now my horomons are rebounding they think and that is most likely the root cause for my anger. -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/14, 02:00 PM I miss: Back when you could go into a hardware store and they knew where everything was, who you were, hell they knew your dad as well. I miss going into a drug store and they actual said hi to you with your first name, instead of "what is your insurance number?" I miss when all kids said, "yes sir, yes ma'am, no sir, no ma'am. Please, thank you you are welcome." -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
KC_72 Posts: 3,249 Joined: 2006/05/19	2006/12/14, 03:44 PM well....thats good....I remember fly saying she thought it might be hormonal issues....that makes sense.
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/15, 09:09 AM LOL I guess so it is bad. I am like the Hulk! Driving home is no easy feat right now I get so mad at people that i roar and scream and want to break them in half. -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
flyonthewall Posts: 1,823 Joined: 2005/01/18	2006/12/15, 09:26 AM See, told you I was a scientist....that'll be $500 for the hormonal diagnosis please (in $US of course!) Welcome to our world MUTT...kind of sucks doesn't it, but it does give you an excuse for just about everything:big_smile:
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/15, 09:33 AM Um no not with my wife. I sat there the other night in the car (she was driving as I had just drove home and had a wee bit of road rage). Anyway we got to a light and I was sitting there grinding my teeth, clenching my fists and literaly shaking with rage.....if we had got cut off i would have jumped out fo the car at the light abd hurt someone LOL -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/16, 09:31 PM I did a lower back hamstring workout last night. Hit 1 ASPR It was Good mornings 225x1! Felt good to hit that weight. More to come as well! -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
7707mutt Posts: 7,686 Joined: 2002/06/18	2006/12/18, 08:23 AM One week till Xmas and my wife still has to give me a list of things to look for her! I asked again last night and she tells me that she has bought everyting she wanted cause it was on sale and I was at work...well DUHHHHH when do you think I am going to go? Sheesh that pisses me off. -------------- Curl Jockeys, get outta the squat rack! Warning:Deadlifting going on! 7707mutt@freetrainers.com
KC_72 Posts: 3,249 Joined: 2006/05/19	2006/12/18, 03:29 PM ewwwwww....someone is still cranky....I used to buy ALL of my own presents and wrap them up ...then shoe everyone what they got me...that way I knew I was going to get what I want...just get her something very special...doesn't have to be expensive...or even something she asked for...I know for me i always look at the crosses they sell downtown...they're beautiful...all colored glass...not big...most about 15$...but I never buy one...I would love to see one under the christmas tree...that would mean my husband paid attention...but I won't be mad if I don't...don't let christmas be about the presents...and get mad about something so silly....

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